Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: single males vs couples


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: single males vs couples Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 3:16:57 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


Posts: 6528
Joined: 6/7/2009
Status: offline 		I personally would seek only single males if I was single myself. Because One I am not interested in being a third, and two I am selfish and I don't share my partner full time. A fling now and then with another third party, should all consent is fine, but a full out all the time 3 person dynamic hell no.

(in reply to Toppingfrmbottom)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 3:19:26 PM   
Masterfrank1962


Posts: 9
Joined: 3/7/2008
Status: offline 		Ok everyone I have removed somethings from my profile. so i'll see if that helps.

Thank you everyone,
Frank

(in reply to Toppingfrmbottom)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 3:27:04 PM   
jbcurious


Posts: 717
Joined: 3/13/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: reynardfox

Why would a girl NOT prefer a couple over a single male?
Two Doms, happily married and skilled and experienced in what we do, who would be willing to lavish both of our attentions on one girl. NO possible relationship issues, no jealousy, no agenda, just trust and integrity and lots and lots of erotic play, that can go on for hour after hour, the divine combination of a strong female will and the gender empathy and understanding She brings to it, as well as the more direct masculine approach combined.
I'll put it this way, it works.
We don't go short around here.


Because some of us are seeking more then a Dom, we want a Dom, a partner and a friend to share our life with.

_____________________________

'Smile... it's the second best thing to do with your lips.'


I have an explosive personality...


(in reply to reynardfox)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 3:29:11 PM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

This question interested me so I did a quick survey using the following criteria:
CM users in 2010
Females in my country
Aged between 30 and 25.


I did the same but in the OP's state. And since he is 47, I went with a more age appropriate group.

I searched female submissives in North Carolina between the ages of 30 and 50 of all sexualities and of all ethnicities in the age range of 30-50 who checked the box seeking Dominant men AND who were online in the last month and there were 125.

Then, I searched female submissives in North Carolina between the ages of 30 and 50 of all sexualities and of all ethnicities in the age range of 30-50 who checked the box seeking Dominant couples AND who were online in the last month and there were 23.

Isn't nice when someone's observation is a figment of their imagination?

- LA

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to subsfaith)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:05:42 PM   
peppermint


Posts: 5171
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		Excuse me for saying this.  I have been on Collarme for 5 years and I have never seen a profile of someone who said she was only interested in couples and wanted nothing to do with single males.  Guess I must have missed that more than 50% you talk about.  So what state are you looking in?  There are tons of couples looking for those females.  In the forums those females are often called unicorns for their rarity, and yet you discover a herd of them.  Why don't you share?




(in reply to Masterfrank1962)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:13:49 PM   
VaguelyCurious


Posts: 5264
Joined: 12/2/2009
From: United Kingdom
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Excuse me for saying this.  I have been on Collarme for 5 years and I have never seen a profile of someone who said she was only interested in couples and wanted nothing to do with single males.
In fairness, I've seen a lot of them-but that might be because my profile parameters are often set to people seeking Dommes, which would bias the results. 'Most' is a bit strong, but they definitely exist.

The key, OP, is that they are normally looking for women or couples-face it, these are either ladies who like ladies or gentlemen pretending to be ladies who like ladies. Either way, as a single male you aren't going to be what they are looking for.


_____________________________

Sthetic on FetLife.




(in reply to peppermint)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:34:21 PM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

'Most' is a bit strong, but they definitely exist.


Indeed. I gave him stats.

125 women between the ages of 30 and 50 in his state who are interested in Dominant men logged in during the last 30 days as opposed to 23 who state they are interested in Dominant couples.

The ration is 5 to 1 for Dominant men over Dominant couples in his area.

- LA

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to VaguelyCurious)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:41:05 PM   
peppermint


Posts: 5171
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline
quote:

In fairness, I've seen a lot of them-but that might be because my profile parameters are often set to people seeking Dommes, which would bias the results. 'Most' is a bit strong, but they definitely exist.


I am very sure they do exist but have never seen them.  As to my profile parameters, I have mine set for everyone and anyone.  I don't sort people out.  I just like to see the people I know.  I like to contact new people in my area to invite them to munch.  I'll read the profiles of those people who have interesting names.  Sometimes I'll just go read profiles for the heck of it. 

(in reply to VaguelyCurious)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:47:00 PM   
VaguelyCurious


Posts: 5264
Joined: 12/2/2009
From: United Kingdom
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

'Most' is a bit strong, but they definitely exist.


Indeed. I gave him stats.

125 women between the ages of 30 and 50 in his state who are interested in Dominant men logged in during the last 30 days as opposed to 23 who state they are interested in Dominant couples.

The ration is 5 to 1 for Dominant men over Dominant couples in his area.

- LA
I suspect those stats might be misleading-not everyone who would be willing to settle for a couple (which is the impression I've got from looking at a couple of these profiles) would have the 'seeking couples' box ticked.


_____________________________

Sthetic on FetLife.




(in reply to LadyAngelika)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:49:46 PM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

'Most' is a bit strong, but they definitely exist.


Indeed. I gave him stats.

125 women between the ages of 30 and 50 in his state who are interested in Dominant men logged in during the last 30 days as opposed to 23 who state they are interested in Dominant couples.

The ration is 5 to 1 for Dominant men over Dominant couples in his area.

- LA
I suspect those stats might be misleading-not everyone who would be willing to settle for a couple (which is the impression I've got from looking at a couple of these profiles) would have the 'seeking couples' box ticked.



Ok, so put in a margin of error. The ratio is still high enough to withstand that and the argument still holds water.

- LA

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to VaguelyCurious)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 5:59:28 PM   
auditguy


Posts: 182
Joined: 3/7/2009
Status: offline 		Wow, Frank is getting killed here, dang.  I think that behind the potentially poor choice of words, he was just looking for a reason why a woman would be looking for a couple, exclusive of single dominant men.  One reply, Reynardfox, actually addressed that topic, not a bad reply at that. 

More importantly Frank, don't change anything in your profile unless you truly believe in what you are writing.  If your profile had exactly what you were looking for and what you were feeling, then that is the best thing to write.  That way when someone contacts you, both of you will know exactly what you are interested in and there will not be any hard feelings later.  It is always worse to have a disconnect after both of you have invested time into establishing a connection and a repor, only to find out one of you was holding something back, cause he was afraid of what people on a message board were thinking of his profile.  The vanilla world was created for bull shitting about your true interests and intentions, this site is supposed to be here for people to be honest, no matter the kinkiness or perverseness of their thoughts or tastes, without the fear of being ridiculed and judged by others.

On a final note, from a quick and unscientific survey of this thread I have concluded that most people posting on here are judgmental douches (now I probably need to include myself in this group, but that is another thread), so write whatever your heart tells you to say in your profile and ignore the comments from asses.

(in reply to LadyAngelika)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:00:20 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Masterfrank1962

Ok everyone I have removed somethings from my profile. so i'll see if that helps.

Thank you everyone,
Frank


No because it still tells us nothing about you. What are you passionate about?
Not sex or play. Most of life is spent doing ordinary stuff; work, chores, watching tv. What a woman here wants to know is the same as a woman anywhere else.

Are we compatible? Are you cool, calm and collected or do you come home and kick the dog if the boss yelled at you? Are you someone with enough shared interests that we can talk about it? Do you have a shared sense of humor, movies, etc.


_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to Masterfrank1962)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:04:08 PM   
VampiresLair


Posts: 1307
Joined: 9/3/2008
Status: offline 		Most of the time I see someone looking for a couple, if its a female, she wll be interested in a Female Domme or a couple. Actually, the vast majority of the females I see on here who state they are interested potentially in a couple say a Single Female or Couple. So, they arent interested in men, but ill tolerate one for the right woman. Pretty simple explination in my head at least.

DV


_____________________________

Separately we are DiurnalVampire and DVsFox

10/18 Wedding date. 1 year and still blissfully happy

10/13/10 3 year anniversary of his becoming my Fox

Talk impolitely to me, baby - Thanks sunshinemiss



(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 33
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:08:38 PM   
RedMagic1


Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: auditguy
One reply, Reynardfox, actually addressed that topic, not a bad reply at that. 


Reynardfox provided a sales pitch, devoid of hard data.  Other posters either ran tests, or spoke to patterns on these boards that have been visible for years.  You fell for the self-serving sales pitch, and discounted the statements grounded in the scientific method.  You may be dominant in personal relationships, but your post indicates to me that you are manipulable in professional situations.

Reality really is more real than opinion.


_____________________________

Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

(in reply to auditguy)
Profile   Post #: 34
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:12:35 PM   
auditguy


Posts: 182
Joined: 3/7/2009
Status: offline 		Ok Freud, I might be manipulated, but you completely miss the point of my post.  Although as they say, ignorance is bliss.

(in reply to RedMagic1)
Profile   Post #: 35
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:16:44 PM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

On a final note, from a quick and unscientific survey of this thread I have concluded that most people posting on here are judgmental douches


You know sweetheart, when you are pointing a finger at someone, remember, there are 3 pointing back at you. ;-)

- LA

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to auditguy)
Profile   Post #: 36
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:18:20 PM   
LadyAngelika


Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline
quote:

Reality really is more real than opinion.


And intelligence is sexy ;-)

- LA

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to RedMagic1)
Profile   Post #: 37
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:25:19 PM   
domiguy


Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: auditguy
One reply, Reynardfox, actually addressed that topic, not a bad reply at that. 


Reynardfox provided a sales pitch, devoid of hard data.  Other posters either ran tests, or spoke to patterns on these boards that have been visible for years.  You fell for the self-serving sales pitch, and discounted the statements grounded in the scientific method.  You may be dominant in personal relationships, but your post indicates to me that you are manipulable in professional situations.

Reality really is more real than opinion.



This is why I need to take some classes in human interaction. I suck at it.

You are so nice to good ol' Reynard, I just said the guy was kind of creepy.

Oh Master Red, please teach me how to be nice. Jeffff was mentoring me but that guy is a total dick!

Think of the gash I could stack with you help. Make me whole.

_____________________________



(in reply to RedMagic1)
Profile   Post #: 38
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:25:51 PM   
auditguy


Posts: 182
Joined: 3/7/2009
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

On a final note, from a quick and unscientific survey of this thread I have concluded that most people posting on here are judgmental douches


You know sweetheart, when you are pointing a finger at someone, remember, there are 3 pointing back at you. ;-)

- LA


Ohh, without question.  I don't deny the fact that I am an ass, which would have been apparent if you did not take that quote out of context (you should work on Capital Hill by the way, that skill is in much demand there), the next statement included me in that category. 

The only difference is that I don't hide it and I don't jump on a guy, who probably was genuinely interested in getting some feedback, and made an apparent cardinal sin of generalizing and not using scientific method in a discussion on a message board.

(in reply to LadyAngelika)
Profile   Post #: 39
RE: single males vs couples - 5/1/2010 6:42:53 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		I'm still trying to figure out how you think you're easy going when your profile is all about destroying someone. Causing her to lose her job or be arrested as a sexual offender. Causing major psychological damage by trying to change her core personality. As far as 'punishment' being tattoos and piercings, no thanks Dr Mengele.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to auditguy)
Profile   Post #: 40
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: single males vs couples Page: <<   < prev  1 [2] 3 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094