"What a Dom/me Should Be"

This Has been around awhile But sometimes folks have to be Reminded...
I don't know the original writer but I've seen in on several sites message boards in the past.

"What a Dom/me Should Be"

First and foremost, a Dominant is always a Gentleman or Lady. There is no excuse for being impolite or rude to others. Save this for
the submissive that needs and requires this of their Dominant. Second, a Dominant must always be in control. Drugs, even alcohol, are mind and body controlling agents. They affect
relationships and most
importantly can affect a scene, therefore taking away the control the
Dominant MUST have.
Third, a Dominant is always honest. To lie is to show you cannot be trusted and a submissive must be able
to trust you to respect you. Every submissive knows that not every
Dominant is super experienced and will respect you much more if you tell
the truth. Be honest with a submissive about your level of experience
with others and the submissive. The submissive can even help you to gain
experience and is really an enjoyable learning process. Tell the
submissive up-front if You do not wish a monogamous relationship. Most
submissives understand and even expect this in a Dominant. You may not
get "that" submissive but you will not loose her/his respect.
Fourth, a Dominant accepts responsibility for all his/her actions. Everyone makes mistakes. Do what is needed to make amends, and correct
it. Accept and admit the fact that you messed up. To seek an excuse for
something going wrong or hurting someone will cause you to lose respect.

Fifth, a Dominant expects but does not demand respect. No Dominant demands strangers to call him/her Master/Mistress. Respect
is earned over time. Demanding Master/Mistress on your name means nothing and is a word that
when not earned is meaningless and makes you to others appear to be a
petty childish fool. Those that know you and respect you will call you
Master or Mistress when you earn it, not before. Remember, to other
Dominants you are not Their Master/Mistress you are their equal do not
DEMAND them too ever call You that. Sixth, a Dominant knows and understands the differences between needs,
desires and wants. The submissive may want a 24/7 relationship with an understanding
Dominant. The submissive may desire a short relationship with a crude
rude person. The submissive may need a stable sharing marriage with
children.
Duties of a DOM/ME It is the duty of a Dominant to control his/her emotions. To punish a submissive in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive. It is the duty of a Dominant to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take
back the gift it is no longer a gift. It is the duty of a Dominant to watch over and protect all submissives. This does not mean to protect them from finding some other Dominant and
to keep them for oneself. It is the duty of a Dominant to take only a submissive that will match
him/her. A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant
that loves to whip submissives. It is the Duty of a Dominant to take only the amount of submissives the
DOM can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. Do not
keep a submissive hanging, giving false hopes. Free and release the
submissive so the submissive can get along with finding the right
Dominant. It is the duty of a Dominant to watch and monitor the scene carefully
and to ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically or
emotionally. At any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined
for the submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.
It is the duty of a Dominant after a scene to ensure the submissive is
emotionally stable. During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones. Afterwards the
body reduces them and may cause severe depression to the extent of being
suicidal. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and
or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return
in hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in
the submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. (A
Dominant can also experience this depression after a high from the
scene.) Each reacts differently some stay high for weeks and when they
come down seek the scene again to regain the high. This also can lead to
problems such as longer, more intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown
Dominants. It is the duty of a Dominant to know and understand what the needs,
desires and wants of a submissive are. Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and mentally.

Responsibilities of a DOM/ME It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure an unowned submissive
is guided to a Dominant that is suited to the submissive's wants, needs
and desires. It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive knows
what being abusive is. To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it quits. It is the responsibility of a Dominant to ensure the submissive knows
what the submissive's rights are. It is the responsibility of a Dominant to teach the submissive
information about the Lifestyle. The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this
information and where he/she can get it. An ignorant submissive can be
an embarrassment to a Dominant. It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive grows
and develops under the Dominant's ownership, in both the lifestyle and
the public life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means
being a "doormat" when the submissive has made it clear that is what the
submissive is looking for.

Dishonorable Acts
For a Dominant to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way
is dishonorable. For a Dominant to allow a submissive's rights to be violated is
dishonorable. For a Dominant to play with and discard a submissive just for
amusement is dishonorable
(exception is a submissive that has declared this is the treatment they
need). Unless the submissive has declared them selves to be unowned, another
Dominant's interference in a relationship is dishonorable. To chase after or scene with Another's submissive without the other
Dominant's permission and full knowledge is dishonorable.