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RE: Consensual/Non-Consensual Play - 5/10/2010 7:35:50 PM

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There are no hard limits here subtee. You're on the C/NC thread ;-) And you are lucky all they took was your lunch money. If I would have lifted your skirt, you would have been in for much worse ;-)

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Non consensually speaking, that's much hotter.

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RE: Consensual/Non-Consensual Play - 5/10/2010 8:11:52 PM

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I think our views differ only on our definition of consentual non-consent. For example I had a sub who would not bring herself to apply for her dream job, from fear of not getting it. It was irrationnal, but that is what was happening. I had to make her apply, with threats of serious punishment if she did not make serious, commited efforts for the whole process. That is actually a level of consentual non-consent, but I don't count it in my definition because this is a level that's usually expected from a Dom.

I am pretty sure that everyone here has enough common sense to know what is okay and healthy and what isn't. That was my point though, assuming that we know what is okay and healthy, I considered this level was reached and consentual non-consent would be beyond this point, hence the unhealthiness.

So really, its just a matter of what comes to mind when we talk about this subject.

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RE: Consensual/Non-Consensual Play - 5/10/2010 8:19:22 PM

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We do have different views. I, for example, would never make a man I'm with apply for a job because I thought it was right for him. Seeing as I date mature, intelligent, successful men, I figure they got where they did in their career without me.

I don't know enough about your situation to make any judgement so I won't. I do not however consider career management as something that is expected from a dominant. I do however consider that adults that are involved with one another talk big decisions through, together.

As I say in my profile, I live a complete life and prefer to keep the kink part in perspective.

- LA

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RE: Consensual/Non-Consensual Play - 5/10/2010 8:21:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

There are no hard limits here subtee. You're on the C/NC thread ;-) And you are lucky all they took was your lunch money. If I would have lifted your skirt, you would have been in for much worse ;-)

- LA

Non consensually speaking, that's much hotter.

I thought you'd like that one ;-)

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RE: Consensual/Non-Consensual Play - 5/10/2010 8:45:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

We do have different views. I, for example, would never make a man I'm with apply for a job because I thought it was right for him. Seeing as I date mature, intelligent, successful men, I figure they got where they did in their career without me.

I don't know enough about your situation to make any judgement so I won't. I do not however consider career management as something that is expected from a dominant. I do however consider that adults that are involved with one another talk big decisions through, together.

As I say in my profile, I live a complete life and prefer to keep the kink part in perspective.

- LA

Well I thank you for not judging, and I will not explain in details because its more about the sub than me. I will just say that I date people who usually just finished their studies, and its less carreer management and more like giving the needed push in the back to help her get over her fear of the unknown.

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