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warlock1935 -> RE: Have any of you sent a woman a mean message and got a positive response? (5/6/2010 3:48:57 PM)
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Hi DMF - I've noticed the same thing - now I use different jokes on e-mails than I do in R/life. Cocky humor has to be very selective to work online. In R/l, for example, I like to walk up to women who wear distressed, artfully torn up jeans and say very slowly: "Excuse me, but do you know (pause) there's a hole in your pants?" Never fails to get a laugh and to break the ice thoroughly. Online I use joking comments on something they wrote or a line in their profile, but of course when it doesn't come off right I probably just don't get a reply, so it's hard to tell if I've gotten it right.
I've noticed the that Collarme has deteriorated just as Bondage.com has - do you know a good site to use these days? I"m having some luck with FetLife, but it's not as easy to use as Collarme and Bondage.com were.
~~Warlock
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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox
You know, I can't really base much off of online email. But I'll open with a joke frequently in real life, which can often be interpreted as a pure ass kind of thing to say if it were written down. With timing, tonal inflection, yada ya, it's clear I'm being ironic in a friendly way; I'll say something like "My god, woman! Did your grandmother dress you?" to someone in a slinky, clearly not grandmotherly outfit and get a laugh, a smile, and it generally sets the kind of tone I like. I don't say this to be egotistical, I can be very intimidating in a 'the man' kind of way; especially if I'm dressed up. And something about the way I carry myself. So I enjoy conversations where the girl feels comfortable taking potshots at me. Gives me excuses to push back a little harder, later... ^_^
Try to say the same thing in an email, here, and... yeah. Let's just say that aimed, insult-style humor and ability to roll with the punches just does not seem to be a trait of the BDSM crowd, even IRL. The ones that *do* throw some ironic statements out there overdo it. Yet I see and hear it all the time in the rest of the world.
Email compared to a real life pickup is like a morse code message describing a scene versus hi def visuals of it. Some bits just don't translate.
Also... Fact of the matter is, the pickings are kind of slim these days on this site. Really, the quality of women that show up here has been spiraling downwards. I haven't even sent any nice introductory letters in several months, much less insulting ones.
Hm, to be honest some of the women's profiles are so bad I've been tempted to write an email telling them just how bad they were, but I haven't done that either. Mostly just in case they do interpret it as a come-on.
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