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Begging - 5/6/2010 10:31:30 PM

daughterofdark

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I've recently been taken into training by a Dom and he's asked me to research to improve my begging ability. I apparently don't do it right, I suppose. Or at least not to His standards. So I've come to all of you for advice. How do you improve upon a skill like begging? Is it something that should just come natrually when a scene has gone to far? Is it just that He might want to feel the power I've given Him over me? Advice? Comments?

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RE: Begging - 5/6/2010 10:51:05 PM

subsfaith

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To answer your questions:

I can't tell you how to improve, I don't know what you do already and what you don't do... this is a personal journey for you.

Begging is a skill that is learned and not something that comes naturally, not to me anyway.

Does he want to feel the power? I have no idea, just like I don't know what he is expecting. Perhaps you can talk to him about it, find out what his standards are, what his motivation is (not that this is necessary for you to know this, but it might help your mindset).

Begging means different things to different people. eg. You think you have been begging but your dom thinks you should do it another way (better).

The thing to do is to research it like he asked, not ask people for advice. They are totally different.

Google: BDSM begging.

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RE: Begging - 5/6/2010 11:57:07 PM

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You ask him how he wants you to beg.

I'm serious. There are million ways to beg and it doesn't matter if you are the master of 99,999 of them if the way he wants isn't one you know. But he's got to step up and tell you what he wants so that you can practice and learn.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 12:00:08 AM

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Bugger your dom... I want to know if you have done your homework.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 2:07:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RCdc

Bugger your dom... I want to know if you have done your homework.

the.dark.
(.sorry-couldn't resist.)

I did have a giggle when I saw the OP's nic and thought of you the.dark

OP - as others have said, personally i would ask your dom for a little more clarity. What is it exactly he wants to see or hear when you are begging him? Does he want to see you in certain positions as well? Once you k now a bit more about what he wants, you can then work on developing your own style that will please him

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 2:17:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: daughterofdark

I've recently been taken into training by a Dom and he's asked me to research to improve my begging ability. I apparently don't do it right, I suppose. Or at least not to His standards. So I've come to all of you for advice. How do you improve upon a skill like begging? Is it something that should just come natrually when a scene has gone to far? Is it just that He might want to feel the power I've given Him over me? Advice? Comments?

The best way to learn how to improve is to beg his help. Honestly, we cant help you get better, only he can. Its his standards you have to meet. We dont know those.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 4:15:43 AM

Angelsprey

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Your Dom should teach you. How are you going to learn how to do it in the exact way he wants otherwise?

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 4:17:51 AM

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Agree with the rest. Definition of Leadership......If he can't lead then he can't be a Dom

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 5:40:18 AM

kiwisub12

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With my kids, begging them to clean up their rooms was best accomplished with a wooden spoon in my hand!

just saying.............................................

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 5:53:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: daughterofdark

I've recently been taken into training by a Dom and he's asked me to research to improve my begging ability. I apparently don't do it right, I suppose. Or at least not to His standards. So I've come to all of you for advice. How do you improve upon a skill like begging? Is it something that should just come natrually when a scene has gone to far? Is it just that He might want to feel the power I've given Him over me? Advice? Comments?

your Master is just making improvements. Gather information from all sources you can. Even video off youtube would be nice. Compile it all in an orderly manner and present your plan of action for improvement. Make sure your presentation is well thought out and smooth so he does not have to tell you again what you need to do to complete the assignment he's given you. If he see you need more instruction he'll tell you.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 6:21:54 AM

choccywoc

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Why not go to another Master and get him to teach you all about begging, i'm sure he will be delighted to show you the correct way, look upon it as on-the-job-training, then if you feel you must, return to your original Master and show him what you've learned!

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 7:32:54 AM

elleX

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Begging ...
that have to take the color of the person who do it and the person who is begged
there are myriad of way to do so
it has to be fit properly for your relation

the best source of inspiration for you is to ask Him
elleX

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 7:43:28 AM

Missokyst

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I have difficulty begging for something that I am not absolutely in need of at the time. Maybe he isn't getting you to that point?

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 10:22:29 AM

Lockit

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I just love it when people expect others to be mind readers on how to please them. I call them crazy makers because no matter what you do, they can always claim you didn't do it right or don't do enough because they never explained it to you. It's like a set up for failure which is what I think many of them want and get some charge out of.

OP, I thought you said you have been taken into training. It sounds more like; I want this and you don't know shit about it so go figure out how to do it. That isn't training.

Good luck with that and him!

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 10:52:59 AM

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I had a dog once that was the most sorrowful pathetic beggar you ever saw. And if you ignored her begging, she'd go pee in the corner. You might try that.

Really, I have absolutely no clue about this begging business. Am I suppossed to begging my Dom to stop something? I thought that's what safe words were for. Begging him to keep doing something I like? I tried that once, it made him stop......and laugh, the sadistic bastard. Not only can I not do it properly I suppose, I don't even know what the heck it is????

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 11:04:11 AM

Jeffff

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I say she should take some of her old clothes and toss them in the back yard for a week.
During the same period of time she should stop showering. Then she should put on those clothes and wear them for another week, also with out showering.

Then get a cup and hit the streets. If you can beg some change off folks like that, your skills can not be questioned!

I hope this helps

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 11:09:34 AM

tazzygirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: afkarr

I had a dog once that was the most sorrowful pathetic beggar you ever saw. And if you ignored her begging, she'd go pee in the corner. You might try that.

Really, I have absolutely no clue about this begging business. Am I suppossed to begging my Dom to stop something? I thought that's what safe words were for. Begging him to keep doing something I like? I tried that once, it made him stop......and laugh, the sadistic bastard. Not only can I not do it properly I suppose, I don't even know what the heck it is????

Begging a man is as personal as how he likes his socks folded. Only the man can say how he wants it done. I highly doubt he wanted her to come here to ask for advice. she should be looking inward. begging is an art, and a process that takes alot of work. What works with one man wont work with another. Its part and parcel of the package. submissives/slaves have to learn the man like they learn us.

Op... go to your man, ask for his help. he may refuse, instead wanting you to learn by trial and error. or he may be waiting for you to ask. either way, only your desire to please him will actually please him.

you got some work to do, girlie. i suggest you get on with it and quit looking for an easy way out.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 1:19:37 PM

littleone35

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For my Master begging is not his kink, but when he gets me to a certain point i beg even though he will do what he wants when he wants to no matter how bad (or rather good) i beg.

OP you should really ask your Master what it is you are doing wrong, you can't correct it if you don't know how your begging is going wrong. Talk to him we can only help you so much on here.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 1:34:39 PM

Aileen1968

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Begging comes naturally for some and for some it is straight out of a bad, bad, bad movie.
I think it's one of those things that you can't learn. You either got it or you don't.
I don't got it. I sound like the worst actress ever.

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RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 1:54:12 PM

Jeffff

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I might be easier if was wasn't wearing flip flops.....

just sayin'

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