RE: Begging

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Begging

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Begging

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 3:11:49 PM

divi

Posts: 11109
Joined: 9/4/2007
Status: offline

Once upon a time, I did have Dominant who liked begging and honestly I found it annoying and after awhile it came off as whining it didnt last

_____________________________

( imho )

I really could use a wish right now

(in reply to Jeffff)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 3:14:16 PM

mnottertail

Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline

Couplea raps with a cattle prod, and you would be whining to beg, annoying as it is to you..

Just sayin'.

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

(in reply to divi)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 3:16:16 PM

divi

Posts: 11109
Joined: 9/4/2007
Status: offline

I bet lol..

Thats gotta hurt lol..gotta ask Jimbo

_____________________________

( imho )

I really could use a wish right now

(in reply to mnottertail)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 3:57:56 PM

windchymes

Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Begging comes naturally for some and for some it is straight out of a bad, bad, bad movie.
I think it's one of those things that you can't learn. You either got it or you don't.
I don't got it. I sound like the worst actress ever.

I didn't got it until I was given the choice of another swat across the ass with the belt or begging to suck his cock. I'm no pain slut, and I found I could beg like orphans lined up for gruel.

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to Aileen1968)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 8:49:50 PM

sweetsub1957

Posts: 2201
Joined: 4/28/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: daughterofdark

I've recently been taken into training by a Dom and he's asked me to research to improve my begging ability. I apparently don't do it right, I suppose. Or at least not to His standards. So I've come to all of you for advice. How do you improve upon a skill like begging? Is it something that should just come natrually when a scene has gone to far? Is it just that He might want to feel the power I've given Him over me? Advice? Comments?

i don't know what you're already doing or what style of begging He likes, so i don't know what advice to give, but this is what i do..... i don't just beg with words. i use words, and also beg with my eyes and my facial expression, my tone of voice, and my entire body using body language too. i've had more than One tell me i'm a very good begger, but it depends on what your Dominant likes.

~sweetsub~

_____________________________

Member: Lance's Fag Hags.

"That's not just a chip on her shoulder, that's the whole potato!" ~Lady Angelika~

In lowering yourself to talking behind my back, you're perfectly positioned to kiss my ass.

An it harm none, do what ye wilt.

(in reply to daughterofdark)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 8:55:50 PM

laurell3

Posts: 6577
Joined: 5/5/2005
Status: offline

Beg him to tell you how to beg

Honestly, he needs to communicate his requirements to you more openly in my opinion. You can research anything on bdsm and come up with a million different approaches, we are all different. Maybe you should look for information on begging and come up with a list of possible approaches and ask him which he likes the most?

As far as begging coming naturally "when the scene has gone to far"....I am HOPING you don't mean you have to BEG him to stop when you are safewording, if that's the case, beg him to kiss your damn ass and get away from the moron.

_____________________________

I cannot be defined by moments in my life, but must be considered for by the entirety of my existence.

When you fail to consider that I am the best judge for what is right for me, all of your opinions become suspect to me.

(in reply to daughterofdark)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Begging - 5/7/2010 9:21:57 PM

WyldHrt

Posts: 6412
Joined: 6/5/2008
Status: offline

quote:

Begging comes naturally for some and for some it is straight out of a bad, bad, bad movie.
I think it's one of those things that you can't learn. You either got it or you don't.
I don't got it. I sound like the worst actress ever.

This. Not only am I really bad at begging, it fucks with my headspace, too.

_____________________________

"MotherFUCKER!" is NOT a safeword!!"- Steel
"We've had complaints about 'orgy noises'. This is not the neighborhood for that kind of thing"- PVE Cop

Resident "Hypnotic Eyes", "Cleavage" and "Toy Whore"
Subby Mafia, VAA Posse & Team Troll!

(in reply to Aileen1968)

Profile

Post #: 27

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 1:00:25 AM

myotherself

Posts: 7157
Joined: 3/9/2006
From: The cold bit of the UK
Status: offline

...amen to that.

I don't do begging. It makes me feel really stupid and self-conscious, and the mood is ruined for both.

I believe my acting skills are on a par with Pammie Anderson trying to play Lady MacBeth...

_____________________________

There's nowt so queer as folk

(in reply to WyldHrt)

Profile

Post #: 28

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 1:43:08 AM

BlackTigerDragon

Posts: 180
Joined: 4/1/2010
Status: offline

I don't see how one can 'not do it right' when it comes to begging. How can you beg 'wrong'?

And how exactly do you 'research' begging?

(in reply to Jeffff)

Profile

Post #: 29

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:01:21 AM

mnottertail

Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline

Here's the mindset you're tryin for:

You wanna be like death warmed over, standin on the street corner, beggin the fuck outta lifesavers.

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

(in reply to BlackTigerDragon)

Profile

Post #: 30

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:04:36 AM

thishereboi

Posts: 14463
Joined: 6/19/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackTigerDragon

I don't see how one can 'not do it right' when it comes to begging. How can you beg 'wrong'?

And how exactly do you 'research' begging?

Good questions. I wonder if the OP will come back and address them or turn out to be another one hit wonder?

Or maybe her master will come on and explain things.

_____________________________

"Sweetie, you're wasting your gum" .. Albert

This here is the boi formerly known as orfunboi

(in reply to BlackTigerDragon)

Profile

Post #: 31

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:05:51 AM

loverly

Posts: 236
Joined: 1/23/2004
Status: offline

i mostly just worry i sound like i am whining! ( and for me i just think ... if i am being a good girl and deserve something then i will be given it period and if not then i guess i need to try harder) lol However..... in the throes of Passion! thats another story but it is unconciously done....( un-SELFconciously too) ((is that a word?? lol )

(in reply to mnottertail)

Profile

Post #: 32

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:32:29 AM

windchymes

Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Here's the mindset you're tryin for:

You wanna be like death warmed over, standin on the street corner, beggin the fuck outta lifesavers.

And if they're out of lifesavers, maybe they have Certs or M & M's?

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to mnottertail)

Profile

Post #: 33

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:43:27 AM

Missokyst

Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline

Thats my take on it too, it just seems like acting. That kind of makes me think they would be ok with a faked orgasm too. The only time I have begged is when I am so wound up I want to be fucked. Fuck me. Fuck me.. ohhhhhh please fuck me. I have asked to be hit harder. I have asked for more. But that is just asking. Begging for me, is just for fucking. Anything else and I am acting a part, my headspace is gone, and it is all about putting on a show for an audience whose only care is about being entertained.

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

Begging comes naturally for some and for some it is straight out of a bad, bad, bad movie.
I think it's one of those things that you can't learn. You either got it or you don't.
I don't got it. I sound like the worst actress ever.

This. Not only am I really bad at begging, it fucks with my headspace, too.

(in reply to WyldHrt)

Profile

Post #: 34

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 7:47:10 AM

cpK69

Posts: 1593
Joined: 5/9/2008
Status: offline

My advice, without guarantees toward success:

Do it like your life depends on receiving whatever it is you are begging for. Try to make your voice sound throaty, opposed to whiny. Passion, passion, passion!

Kim

_____________________________

Humility is where weakness and strength meet and humanity begins.

one voice

(in reply to daughterofdark)

Profile

Post #: 35

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 8:01:47 AM

RealSub58

Posts: 1073
Status: offline

I just did a google search of begging ~ ~ ~ ~
there is a bunch of informative information ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
forget about reading this forum and google away,
you'll be glad you did

(in reply to daughterofdark)

Profile

Post #: 36

RE: Begging - 5/8/2010 11:17:36 AM

xxblushesxx

Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline

Method acting: Think of something you *would* beg for; a new Porsche, See's chocolate, a fuzzy little himilayan kitten (

) and beg for that, but insert "whateveritishewantsyouto begfor" in the place of the Porsche or whatever. Yearn for it, need it, treat him as the god who could actually provide that thing.

After a while you may find you actually *do* want whatever it is you're begging for!

_____________________________

~Christina

A nice girl with a disturbing hobby

My femdom findom blog: http://www.MistressAvarice.com

(in reply to RealSub58)

Profile

Post #: 37

RE: Begging - 5/9/2010 5:50:37 AM

DesFIP

Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline

If I'm at a point where I really want to orgasm, then I'm not in a place where I can think of pretty words. So if then I have to stop and think of nice sentences, I no longer want the orgasm. In fact he reduced me to tears once by demanding this, I couldn't think of anything that might work and just fell apart. Needless to say I no longer wanted it.

What works for us is for him to tell me what he wants to hear. To which I answer yes please and after hearing it a few times it's easier for me to access in the moment. But telling me either I beg sufficiently or he'll do something I can't tolerate would get a red out of me.

The problem with acting is that it's false. If I'm pretending I really want something but don't then I am in effect lying to him.

< Message edited by DesFIP -- 5/9/2010 5:51:55 AM >

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!

(in reply to xxblushesxx)

Profile

Post #: 38

RE: Begging - 5/9/2010 7:11:49 AM

Falkenstein

Posts: 187
Joined: 7/22/2009
Status: offline

I agree with DesFiP,

acting can ruin the moods for both.

I expect my sub to ask for permission before cumming, as I continue heating her up, the demand becomes more pleading, desperate... Of course I am a magnanimous Master and give permission before she is out the mood. After cumming, she must also ask me to stop caressing her.

It is the Master who makes his sub plead / beg correctly.

_____________________________

Henry,

Part of that power which still
Produceth good, whilst ever scheming ill.

(in reply to DesFIP)

Profile

Post #: 39

RE: Begging - 5/9/2010 7:52:59 AM

cpK69

Posts: 1593
Joined: 5/9/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The problem with acting is that it's false. If I'm pretending I really want something but don't then I am in effect lying to him.

I agree, that wouldn't work for me either.

Your statement caused a realization for me, I'm not as concerned about what he wants me to beg for, as I am having him grant what he wants me to beg for.

Hearing him say "you may" has come to mean a lot to me.

Kim

< Message edited by cpK69 -- 5/9/2010 7:53:21 AM >

_____________________________

Humility is where weakness and strength meet and humanity begins.

one voice

(in reply to DesFIP)

Profile

Post #: 40