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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 4:57:17 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		mhm...do you think that POSSIBLY this need to overreact could be what's scaring these "Master"s that cause you subspace in your first meeting from a kiss away? Maggie have you ever thought that maybe your expectations of anonymous people on an internet board or your expectations for a first meeting might be a bit unrealistic?

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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 4:58:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		10 posts, and every one of them either unorganized frantic "what did I do" or angsty emotional over reaction.  All centered around "why isn't he showing me enough attention."

Seriously, embrace your inner drama queen.  There's no shame in accepting yourself for the emotionally needy, clingy, grasping sexual creature that you are. 


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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:03:29 PM   
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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:04:53 PM   
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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:06:38 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Why on earth would anyone bother to call you to let you know someone posted on a thread? Seriously, is this message board that important to you?

And your comment reading the question marks is completely impossible to understand. You seem to have left out a word between "means" and "in" so therefore I can not understand what you said. You need to work on your communication skills as many people are repeatedly having trouble understanding you.

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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:08:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: maggieg

Advice you are kidding....it was an insult hurling at me, and a pathetic discussion between yourselves! God job, 1 I don't care and 2 I am strong!


If you go back and read your thread, you'll find you started hurling insults first because you were angry that people dared to not read your mind. Since then, people have simply called you on your bad behavior.

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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:09:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm guessing she has the notification set for responses to the thread and her email goes to her phone.

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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:25:31 PM   
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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:33:13 PM   
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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 5:53:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		It really would. I've considered doing it once or twice but it just never seemed worth it.

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RE: what is happening? - 5/11/2010 7:49:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		He kissed you, you melted, you were longing for more, he went about his way.... then you found out he was not as into you as you were him. Sounds like Good old fashioned "Disappointment" from the expectations and excietment you had over him.

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RE: what is happening? - 5/12/2010 12:37:01 PM   
Viridana


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Sometimes, even though there seemed to be chemistry online, said chemistry can't be found when meeting in real life.
It happens. ...

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RE: what is happening? - 5/12/2010 12:45:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMe8

My apologies, there should have been a note attached to that post. She "being Maggie" is my friend, wrote that and asked me to post it, as for some reason now can't herself.  I am not being involved in this discussion, I did tell her not to come on here. Something I would never do myself, my dirty linnen stays where it should be in private. Goodluck to you all.


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< Message edited by VirginPotty -- 5/12/2010 12:56:31 PM >

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RE: what is happening? - 5/12/2010 12:47:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

He kissed you, you melted, you were longing for more, he went about his way.... then you found out he was not as into you as you were him. Sounds like Good old fashioned "Disappointment" from the expectations and excietment you had over him.


Maybe she forgot Listerine & he was too polite to mention her morning breath so late in the day?

< Message edited by VirginPotty -- 5/12/2010 12:57:02 PM >

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RE: what is happening? - 5/12/2010 12:52:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMe8

You are like like vampires on a virgins throat,  next virgin that falls in...................




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RE: what is happening? - 5/12/2010 2:06:51 PM   
porcelaine


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quote:

I left not really understanding where I stood.


When a man wants to make your role in his life crystal clear he does. Conversations that fail to take place regarding this subject always relate to the following: ambivalence, uncertainty, or disinterest. Unfortunately some refuse to communicate this or use shoddy excuses for an exit.

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I log on to the net he is there, does not say hello! I mean contact between us was a lot, now 24 hours without any contact.


Just because you see someone online doesn't mean they're sitting at the computer. I was notoriously bad about having instant messenger open and being away. Assuming he wasn't there, one night isn't a big deal, but if the behavior was continual I'd probably think his interest was waning. But I wouldn't spend time wondering, cutting to the chase is better.

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He says he won't see me again for at least 6 weeks, and will be in touch when he gets back.


You're not powerless. If you find the terms unacceptable say so. But don't waver back and forth. I realize you find this upsetting and some of that is sparked by your previous situation, but it hasn't been that long and I've never met a dominant man that enjoyed being dictated to. Giving him orders and ultimatums will be an instant turn off.

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He says he is busy and not on msn its on in the background, yet  he had logged on to cm.


I'd sincerely advise that you stop tracking his movements. You're only inviting the angst you're experiencing. The default installment for MSN is to boot up on restart. Unless he's disabled that feature he'll always appear online. Or maybe he's signing in through his phone, but it usually shows that distinction in the user list.

For what it's worth, I don't feel this medium is best suited for everyone. You appear to be quite fearful and overly anxious about a situation that is early in the making. You're investing a lot in someone that doesn't appear to have done the same where you're concerned. I can't say where he stands or what he's thinking, but you can ask yourself those questions and make some adjustments.

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