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Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 6:57:14 PM

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This question is for the ladies. Which is more painful? A good flogging? Or the pain of giving birth? I am totally ignorant on the topic being of the opposite gender. How would they relate on a scale of 1 to 10?

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 7:02:11 PM

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Those are totaly different types of pain IMO and I personaly can't compare them that is like comparing apples and dirt and asking which tastes better.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 7:12:01 PM

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Hmm...ok, here's something you might be able to relate to.

Compare an intense massage to say....a kidney stone or a really REALLY hard, uncooperative bowling ball size piece of shit that doesn't want to vacate your anus.

Now, which is more painful? Take your best guess....

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 7:12:37 PM

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You are trying to compare jellyfish to bicycles.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 7:25:58 PM

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They are two different types pains and can not be compared. Giving birth is a "productive" kind of pain and in a strange way, and you cannot really compare it with any other type of pain. Now if you wanna talk painful, then you should be comparing the first #2 that most women have after giving a natural birth. OMG!!!

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 8:44:57 PM

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Now if you wanna talk painful, then you should be comparing the first #2 that most women have after giving a natural birth. OMG!!!

OMG! Hell Yeah!!! Now THAT'S pain! Pain in the ass!!!

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/15/2010 10:01:12 PM

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I can appreciate your personal ignorance of the birth process- it's truly one of those things you don't get unless you've done it. I still don't get it and why did I do it more than once? Shudder...

There is nothing that a person could do to me in an average BDSM situation that will ever compare to the pain of giving birth. BDSM is fun and ouchie at the same time. Giving birth is being mauled by lions.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 4:59:28 AM

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First labor was unbearable, she was facing the wrong way. Thank God for epidurals.
Second labor was okay with just a shot of morphine.
So first you need to quantify the kind of pain of labor before you can compare your apples to oranges.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 6:03:02 AM

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This question is for the ladies. Which is more painful? A good flogging? Or the pain of giving birth? I am totally ignorant on the topic being of the opposite gender. How would they relate on a scale of 1 to 10?

I can't really compare the two because for me, both were personal choices and both were/are wonderful pains to experience. So both are 10/10 (unless the top is a crap flogger

but I've never had that problem).

Now Kidney stones - that fecking sucks. I'd go for -10/10... or lower if I was allowed.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 8:36:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LongIslandTop

This question is for the ladies. Which is more painful? A good flogging? Or the pain of giving birth? I am totally ignorant on the topic being of the opposite gender. How would they relate on a scale of 1 to 10?

I am a Dominant so can not speak to the pain of being flogged. As a woman I can speak to the pain of birth. My take on both pains?

If the pain of being flogged is not fun anymore or gets to be to much a sub can safe word and stop.
Birth has medication so that pain can be relieved.
Flogging is a pleasurable expierence that is chosen.
Birth is also something we can also choose.

They are equal as both can be regulated as per personal tolerance.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 8:55:57 AM

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Giving birth is painful, being flogged is yummy.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 9:07:14 AM

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There is no comparison. Oxytocin is released during childbirth, I am not sure you can get that from flogging.
There is also an inherent problem in asking people to compare one type of pain to another, as people have differing pain tolerances.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 9:21:46 AM

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Birth has medication so that pain can be relieved.

Not always. Things can go wrong with epidurals and some people for whatever reason don't respond to epidurals and other pain relievers. I know from personal experience. Sometimes labor is painful no matter what medical interventions are provided.

I agree that comparing flogging pain to childbirth pain is comparing apples to oranges. They aren't even in the same universe of pain.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 9:50:13 AM

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Comparing one kind of pain from person to person is going to be difficult. While one enjoys the pain received from flogging, another may not like it at all, but takes it because that is the dynamic between the parties involved.

The pain I endured during 2 natural childbirths at home was absolutely nothing compared to the pain I endured after a C-section. I would take the natural over a C-section anytime.

The pain induced from my Dom is entirely different than the pain induced from me slamming my hand in a car door. Pain is perceived and handled differently by each one. Some may agree that certain kinds are more enjoyable than others and may have some light, agreeable points, but I think it will be as individual as the people discussing it.

*edited to change impoosible to difficult. I shouldn't be so absolute.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 1:33:09 PM

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Giving birth is a visceral kind of pain while flogging is a peripheral kind. Different kinds of nerve endings sense those different kinds of pain. The pain stimulus travels with different kinds of nerves and end in different places in the thalamus (which is the brain's central station for computing pain).

So you cannot compare these two.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 9:22:21 PM

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childbirth...the worst pain I have ever felt in my entire life and probably ever will. Nothing even comes close to the pain.

A good flogging, depending on the flogger, could be relaxing and like a deep massage to a painful lashing but still nowhere near as bad as childbirth.

There's a reason why I only have one child and ever will!!

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 9:34:00 PM

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Lamaaze breathing helps with both though they really aren't comparable. (Yeah, I know. I cheat and use my Lamaaze training when I "play".)

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 10:56:47 PM

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I am confused why flogging is considered painful. Is he using barbed wire?

Childbirth is painful.

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/16/2010 11:17:00 PM

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As my friend, the less than friendly mid-wife, said to explain the pain to a dumb arse male who stupidly muttered about a females low pain tolerance within her hearing....

Imagine a golf ball being surgically implanted into your bladder then allowing you to pass said implanted golf ball down the entire length of your urethra and you have an approximation of the pain of child birth.

Any other stupid questions?

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RE: Which do you find more painful? - 5/17/2010 5:47:26 AM

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in childbirth, and ive only done it once, i had to focus away from the pain by concentrating on one small dot on the wall, not take my eyes off that dot or i would have probably lost the plot and i just rode the process, and allowed my body to do what it had to do. it was agony but so long as i didnt focus on the agony i held it together.

a severe hiding usually results in me focusing on the pain because thats usually what im supposed to be doing. i deal with each strike and move on to the next, my focus is on dealing with the pain and allowing my body to respond to it freely.

so, birth was a contained pain, focused away from it and into the birth of my baby, time, space, the world in general faded out, a beating is focused on the pain and is therefore more acute and of the moment.

the big difference is that you cant stop the birth process, you cant shout 'red' - but with a beating, you can, or youre D can tell if youre really struggling and ease up, or stop. if anything it was the - in it for the absolute duration, no matter how bad it got, even if my baby tore me open from top to bottom (and actually he did), i had no choice, he had to come out. in there was exhaustion, helplesness and at one point his heart beat stopped - it was the hardest, toughest thing i have ever gone through.

pain is something you forget pretty quickly - you can remember how bad it was, but the actual physical sensation of pain is quickly forgotten. i remember my worst beatings with a sort of detachment but the birth of my son is a memory of annihiliating desparation frankly. but then i was told afterwards that i should have had a c-section and i was close to being wisked off to theatre.

but then some mothers pop em out like peas and barely break out in a sweat - so everyone is different

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