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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Why would you think that a bunch of people who gather based solely upon their interest in bdsm and kink would lead to something positive?

I can't imagine any thing else transpiring other than the outcome that you have experienced.

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I would have felt sorry for the OP if she didnt sound so judgemental and arrogant...

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ORIGINAL: laineyjade

>>Why would you think that a bunch of people who gather based solely upon their interest in bdsm and kink would lead to something positive?

Your assumption that I think that is highly illogical. Logic is the One True Way. Now you may ask me why I am such a stupid, spoiled whore.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I can't imagine any thing else transpiring other than the outcome that you have experienced.

I can vouch that some clubs aren't like that at all-it takes sensitive and aware management, good monitors, the right venue and a thousand other things but if you can't imagine a positive BDSM club then the issue is with your imagination, not the reality of the situation.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

We go to public venues just because we want to see crazy dysfunction.
It's fun!

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

We go to public venues just because we want to see crazy dysfunction.
It's fun!

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ORIGINAL: laineyjade

(Stuff that has actually happened to me at various munches, dungeons, and fetish events)

Note that all of the below do NOT come with an ignore button when you're in a real-life dungeon!

Stupid malicious gossip and drama, politics, cliques, and high-school behaviors

Subs being hostile to me because of my looks/age/style of serving/whatever

Doms hitting on me inappropriately, especially married-and-cheating doms

Blaring music being played preventing conversation

Having to listen politely to lectures on opinions I have strong feelings against

Watching couples who don't get along being mean and disrespectful to each other

Winding up being some sub's shoulder to cry on when her mean and disrespectful dom pushes her buttons, and her having no further use for me when she's finished weeping and spilling her sob story to me

Being questioned about my kinks by people who have no clue and no real reason to question me, who are almost exclusively male

Seeing male subs surreptitiously masturbating through their nylon g-string while their balls hang out the side

Meeting people who appear to be mentally or emotionally unbalanced rather than into BDSM

Doms with strict definitions of TRUE submissiveness praising me for being a TRUE submissive whilst making wild assumptions about my character, feelings and training

Doms with strict definitions of TRUE submissiveness telling me if my master were a TRUE master he'd be training me differently

Doms lecturing me about what they would change about me if I belonged to them

Doms thinking it's okay to order me to put shoes on because I might cut my pretty little feet on broken glass if I am barefoot, when half the male subs are walking around barefoot

Getting stuck listening to someone endlessly drone on about her surgery/fibromyalgia/bipolar disorder

Feeling weird and getting judged for being a slave and having no limits or choices

Watching bratty subs getting praised for exercising their limits and choices loudly and obnoxiously

Being asked "What sort of control?" if I am dumb enough to say that I am into being controlled

The creepy feeling of all eyes being on me if I serve my master in the rather formal way he requires

Having to literally wedge my way in between the 15 single men sitting at the bar in order to get my master an ice water and having them leer at me while I order

The filthy public bathroom because there is no janitor on staff

Seeing people near-naked who have physical deformities that probably should have remained covered up (in one case a near-naked male sub with an exposed colostomy bag--yeah, I wanted to see that)

....and my favorite one of all:

Doms who try to flatter me by telling me I'm so much thinner and prettier than that fat ugly sub over there--and the sub over there is my best friend and lover.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Since it is something that has an incredible amount of sexual energy tied to it. There is no way to avoid the creepy fucks that crawl out from under rocks to participate in this thang or to catch a gander at a gash.

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For the lost and disenfranchised this is the perfect way to meet other losers that are equally as lost and disenfranchised. It is the perfect storm for douchebag deliberations.

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People think that because we share an interest in bdsm that we are going to hit it off?

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Do they think that because we share some mutual interests in a fairly private matter that they are worthy of my time?

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Whiney bitches who will not shut the fuck up and who need to take "SUCK IT UP, BUTTERCUP" to heart.

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Im still attempting ot figure out if she is a drama whore or a attention whore..... Lemme get back to you on that.

BadOne

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ORIGINAL: laineyjade

(Stuff that has actually happened to me at various munches, dungeons, and fetish events)

Note that all of the below do NOT come with an ignore button when you're in a real-life dungeon!

Stupid malicious gossip and drama, politics, cliques, and high-school behaviors

Subs being hostile to me because of my looks/age/style of serving/whatever

Doms hitting on me inappropriately, especially married-and-cheating doms

Blaring music being played preventing conversation

Having to listen politely to lectures on opinions I have strong feelings against

Watching couples who don't get along being mean and disrespectful to each other

Winding up being some sub's shoulder to cry on when her mean and disrespectful dom pushes her buttons, and her having no further use for me when she's finished weeping and spilling her sob story to me

Being questioned about my kinks by people who have no clue and no real reason to question me, who are almost exclusively male

Seeing male subs surreptitiously masturbating through their nylon g-string while their balls hang out the side

Meeting people who appear to be mentally or emotionally unbalanced rather than into BDSM

Doms with strict definitions of TRUE submissiveness praising me for being a TRUE submissive whilst making wild assumptions about my character, feelings and training

Doms with strict definitions of TRUE submissiveness telling me if my master were a TRUE master he'd be training me differently

Doms lecturing me about what they would change about me if I belonged to them

Doms thinking it's okay to order me to put shoes on because I might cut my pretty little feet on broken glass if I am barefoot, when half the male subs are walking around barefoot

Getting stuck listening to someone endlessly drone on about her surgery/fibromyalgia/bipolar disorder

Feeling weird and getting judged for being a slave and having no limits or choices

Watching bratty subs getting praised for exercising their limits and choices loudly and obnoxiously

Being asked "What sort of control?" if I am dumb enough to say that I am into being controlled

The creepy feeling of all eyes being on me if I serve my master in the rather formal way he requires

Having to literally wedge my way in between the 15 single men sitting at the bar in order to get my master an ice water and having them leer at me while I order

The filthy public bathroom because there is no janitor on staff

Seeing people near-naked who have physical deformities that probably should have remained covered up (in one case a near-naked male sub with an exposed colostomy bag--yeah, I wanted to see that)

....and my favorite one of all:

Doms who try to flatter me by telling me I'm so much thinner and prettier than that fat ugly sub over there--and the sub over there is my best friend and lover.

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ORIGINAL: laineyjade


Seeing people near-naked who have physical deformities that probably should have remained covered up (in one case a near-naked male sub with an exposed colostomy bag--yeah, I wanted to see that)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy


Where else can Goreans, SCA'ers, D&D'ers, kinksters all gather and meet?

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ORIGINAL: divi

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ORIGINAL: domiguy


Where else can Goreans, SCA'ers, D&D'ers, kinksters all gather and meet?

Rhen Faires, Midevil Times & Star Trek conventions
*** adds Rehab & Walmart