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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You should absolutely never say anything absolutely.

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"You should only be in a relationship with a partner who is interested in you as a person regardless of any economical or other utilitarian benefits they may get from you."

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i have a very good friend who his short, fat, has male pattern baldness, and is generally not viewed as a particularly handsome fellow.  However, he owns a multi-million dollar company and has tons of money.  His wife is HOT.  i mean supermodel hot.  She is one of the most beautiful women i've ever seen.  She is also almost 20 years younger than him.

They live in a mansion, and she drives both a Mercedes and a Lexus.  She doesn't work, and she spends a good deal of her time shopping.  He tells me that their sex life is the stuff of fantasies.  So where's the problem?

He knows that he couldn't have gotten her if he weren't rich.  She's using him for his money, and he's using her for her beauty and sex.  They're both happy.  They've been married for almost a decade now.  i can't remember ever seeing them argue or fight.  Sounds like a good relationship to me.

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Which implies the following - she is only interested in his money or some other practical service, which also implies that she doesn't enjoy dominating him at all, and finds no pleasure in it, quite the contrary it is boring to her, so she wants a compensation.

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Speaking personally, I have no desire to be an "online dominant" unless it was for money.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

Now I will tell you what inspired me to start this topic.
I saw this theread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3190126/mpage_1/tm.htm

in which a guy said he was in a search for an online domme, but only if she doesn't require a tribute.
Most of other posters told him that he is very unlikely to find such a domme, because she is not getting anything in return.

Which implies the following - she is only interested in his money or some other practical service, which also implies that she doesn't enjoy dominating him at all, and finds no pleasure in it, quite the contrary it is boring to her, so she wants a compensation.

As someone who responded on the thread that inspired this question, I would suggest you go back and read some of the replies.  The man who posted that thread, who by the way no longer has an active profile or has it hidden for whatever reason (which is unfortunate because his profile had much to do with the way I replied to him), admitted he had no idea what would be expected of him from an online domme.
 
He stated he wanted to "serve a dominant female via webcam and online" but when asked what he could offer in return, he had nothing really to say other than he had 'something'...kind of vague. 
 
The OP of that thread was given some very good suggestions on what he could offer via online and some suggestions on how to make his approach more reality based.
It was suggested to this person that he may have to supply a tribute (money) if he had nothing else to offer if he only wanted online interaction. 


If this is really the case with online dommes, then no genuine submissive should be in relationship with them, because they (the dommes) aren't really enjoying it or getting off of it, and if this is the case, by submitting you are not pleasing them at all. And what is the purpose of being submissive -  to please a domme, to satisfy her.
If you can't satisfy her, she charges you for spending (actually wasting) her time on you.

Something for nothing usually doesn't work.  What people were trying to impress on the OP of the thread was that there are few women who enjoy simply having a man perform...in what ever way...online without something in return. 
That something could be money, or it could be time spent performing a task for the domme like doing research on a topic of interest to her or helping her in some way with a project (depending on the level of trust) like proof-reading and such.  Submission online doesn't have to be based on money or sexual acts.

Some may argue that the financial tribute is also a way to please, which may be the case, but in most cases it is not pleasing per se, but compensation for wasting some of her time, she could spend more productively.

Money is pleasing for some.  It all depends on what both parties agree on for a dynamic.

So I would recommend submissives to only be with dommes who genuinely get wet when they see them on they knees, and not those who are just providing a fantasy (which is not at all exciting for themselves) and charging for it.

That may be true for you...but not others.  To be honest, you sound bitter and, as others have said, a bit naive.  Maybe some time spent reading some threads of interest here using the search feature by topic and some of the books from the list I posted on the thread you referenced would be helpful. 
It might also benefit you to attend some groups related to D/s or M/s and some munches. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
I suggest you read more, meet more real people, and start fewer threads for awhile.

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There is always going to be some benefit happening between the parties or they wouldn't bother.

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I really don't know why, but that's how I feel about it.

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

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"You should only be in a relationship with a partner who is interested in you as a person regardless of any economical or other utilitarian benefits they may get from you."

Disagree.

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