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cloudboy -> RE: Maledom relationships vs. Femdom relationships (5/23/2010 6:07:46 PM)
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In each relationship its (usually) the man who must court the woman.
Maledom profiles reflect that dynamic and are solicitous and considerate of woman (as a rule.)
Femdom profiles often read like a job description for which the man needs to apply and demonstrate his worthiness.
Femdom profiles garner a lot of attention, and a lot of it is inappropriate attention. So, the femdom's main project is sorting, deciding, and evaluating.
A maledom will have much less traffic, and will probably have get things started himself with a potential partner, as waiting around would not likely garner any results.
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Once a relationship is going, there's the BDSM cliche, "the maledom wants to know how well she gives a blowjob, the femdom how well he cleans house." I don't say this is "accurate," but it provides interesting food for thought. Luckyalbatross said this to me when we had dinner some years ago, before she moved to TX.
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The maledom-femsub dynamic comports more with social norms and arguably biological wiring.
The femdom-malesub dynamic cuts against the grain. Outsiders might have more issues with both a Femdom's role (who does she think she is) and the malesub's role (why doesn't he act like a 'real' man.)
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From the outside a maledom is probably more at risk for being labeled an "abuser of women." Its unlikely a woman would be tagged an "abuser," because its inferred her power is derived consensually.
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