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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I guess it depends how you define risk then, as there is much more than physical risk involved. There might be more women who would potentially blackmail a sub then a man, which could be a huge risk as well. But now we are getting into stereotypes. I think overall, the risks probably balance out. More importantly, the risk are reduced when people take the time to know who they are playing with.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I guess it depends how you define risk then, as there is much more than physical risk involved. There might be more women who would potentially blackmail a sub then a man, which could be a huge risk as well. But now we are getting into stereotypes. I think overall, the risks probably balance out. More importantly, the risk are reduced when people take the time to know who they are playing with.

I don't know if I agree with you on that, personally I consider being murdered a whole lot more serious than being blackmailed, but maybe that's just me. Anyway, I've liked this post and your subsequent ones a lot better. Talking about our experiences and pointing out that there are enough other variables that we can't pin things down neatly across gender lines seems more useful than denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I guess it depends how you define risk then, as there is much more than physical risk involved. There might be more women who would potentially blackmail a sub then a man, which could be a huge risk as well. But now we are getting into stereotypes. I think overall, the risks probably balance out. More importantly, the risk are reduced when people take the time to know who they are playing with.

I don't know if I agree with you on that, personally I consider being murdered a whole lot more serious than being blackmailed, but maybe that's just me. Anyway, I've liked this post and your subsequent ones a lot better. Talking about our experiences and pointing out that there are enough other variables that we can't pin things down neatly across gender lines seems more useful than denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

Which of course, I never did. I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender. I'm not sure why you and the OP cannot see this whilst mostly everyone else has.

- LA

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ORIGINAL: Silence8
You know, you quote the OP in your signature line? [:D]

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
This depends entirely on the dominant and has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
Talking about our experiences and pointing out that there are enough other variables that we can't pin things down neatly across gender lines seems more useful than denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
Which of course, I never did. I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender. I'm not sure why you and the OP cannot see this whilst mostly everyone else has.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
This depends entirely on the dominant and has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
Talking about our experiences and pointing out that there are enough other variables that we can't pin things down neatly across gender lines seems more useful than denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
Which of course, I never did. I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender. I'm not sure why you and the OP cannot see this whilst mostly everyone else has.

Like I said when you elaborated on your position it started making a lot more sense,. Whatever message you were trying to convey by repeating "this....has nothing to do with gender" over and over, hopefully you can understand that what some of us received was that your position was that this has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
And it is still my position that it has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
And it is still my position that it has nothing to do with gender.

Can you understand why people wouldn't necessary view these statements as equivalent?

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
This depends entirely on...and has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
...denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
Which of course, I never did. I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

A few posts ago it seemed like you were saying one was a rephrasing of the other; now by talking about how the statements relate to each other it sounds like you consider them to be two different positions. Do you see what I mean?

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
This depends entirely on...and has nothing to do with gender.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
...denying that things in our lifestyle are effected by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
Which of course, I never did. I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
Do you always dissect what people write like this? Or did I win a special prize. ;-)

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I simply said that you cannot define a style of dominance by gender.

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Bottom line is that we cannot generalize

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Bottom line is that we cannot generalize

Never was anything learned about a culture of peoples, or a sect, or a religion, or even a color of peoples, nor their fetishes, without generalizing.

Generalizing simple needs to stand the test of the sum of individuals.

Without generalization, there are no answers.

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ORIGINAL: Blankpain

Without generalization, there are no answers.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: Blankpain

Without generalization, there are no answers.

But the generalisation still has to be statistically valid. In this case I don't believe it is.

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Never was anything learned about a culture of peoples, or a sect, or a religion, or even a color of peoples, nor their fetishes, without generalizing.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

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Never was anything learned about a culture of peoples, or a sect, or a religion, or even a color of peoples, nor their fetishes, without generalizing.

So fucking true!