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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:08:18 PM   
MissAsylum


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Status: offline 		i'm turning 21. no illegal stuff going on over here. lol. but on a serious note- i've only had 2 instances of problems the entire time i've been a prodomme- and they have been the two i mentioned in the forums. i rarely take on new clients- and the other posting was my first stab at dating on this site. i believe i've turned back into a newb in terms of judgement- no doubt about it.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:14:36 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Elmo has a question. If a guy blows Elmo is that a gay act? Elmo is worried.

Please say, no. Please say, no.



Fear not, Elmo.  For you, that would NOT be a gay act.  However, it would be a bit of a miracle, since Elmo has no penis. 

Like all Muppets, Elmo is gender neutral.  So you're not gay, but you're probably bi. 

BTW, sorry to inform you about not having a penis.  That must suck. 


Yeah but, Oscar has a 12inch green strap on.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 5/24/2010 1:16:14 PM >

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:16:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Yeah but, Oscar has a 12inch green strap one.
Seriously LaT, why are you all Dominant and, like, in Iowa? You're otherwise perfect!

Oscar just came up on the powerful subs thread too :D


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:18:06 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately I struggle with spelling the word 'on'.........

The spelling challenged, but otherwise perfect, One!

P.S.........Aside from the fact most of your head is gone, your kinda perfect in a cute sorta way too..


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:20:06 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

i'm turning 21. no illegal stuff going on over here. lol. but on a serious note- i've only had 2 instances of problems the entire time i've been a prodomme- and they have been the two i mentioned in the forums. i rarely take on new clients- and the other posting was my first stab at dating on this site. i believe i've turned back into a newb in terms of judgement- no doubt about it.



Everyone makes mistakes and it could be that it attracts different types of people and you're not used to it. Lesson learned, slow down, be safe.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:20:20 PM   
Jeffff


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:21:57 PM   
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The three of us should get a room!
I don't think Oscar's strapon would fit in your tampon-sized mouth, Mr Floofy :-(


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:23:13 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		my thoughts are this. The guy bolted because he was scared. For many guys the fantasy of submitting to Female Domination , a caning etc is more delicious than the real thing. my guess is this was a newcomer, he possibly had never been dominated by anyone real time before, he may never have been corporally punished since he was seven years old. The thought of being spanked by another adult was perhaps too frightening when the reality hit home that that might happen if he stayed, im not saying it would have , im just saying the possibility, lets be fair many Mistresses use corporal punishment on their subs, many sadists do this, im thinking that he was scared of what Miss Asylum would do to him and the reality of this was too unpleasant for him to deal with so he bolted. ive been there i know what that that guy felt. i think munches are a great idea. i dont think its fair to label him a  wanker particularly if he was young and inexperienced he will learn, like i say he is more a fantasist. Munches though as i say are great, since i have started goign to munches i dont petition to Ladies at all saying that i will submit to whatever You desire etc because i know im not ready and its just a) giving the Domme an inaccurate picture building Her hopes up only to dash them so just wasting Her time, im treating instead as developing friendships with people and im much more happy to learn how to relate to other adults in company than to promise things im not goign to deliver. But as i say in time this gentleman will learn. if he keep doing it to other Dommes though, he should be blacklisted as a wanker
kevin

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:29:22 PM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

i'm turning 21. no illegal stuff going on over here. lol. but on a serious note- i've only had 2 instances of problems the entire time i've been a prodomme- and they have been the two i mentioned in the forums. i rarely take on new clients- and the other posting was my first stab at dating on this site. i believe i've turned back into a newb in terms of judgement- no doubt about it.

Elmo thinks you are pretty. Please, take Elmo off block

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:30:31 PM   
Jeffff


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

i'm turning 21. no illegal stuff going on over here. lol. but on a serious note- i've only had 2 instances of problems the entire time i've been a prodomme- and they have been the two i mentioned in the forums. i rarely take on new clients- and the other posting was my first stab at dating on this site. i believe i've turned back into a newb in terms of judgement- no doubt about it.

Elmo thinks you are pretty. Please, take Elmo off block





Just helpin' a brotha out dawg.


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:30:51 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		THAT is a good look for you domi!

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 1:35:22 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		An anteater, Elmo, and Oscar the grouch all walked into a bar...........


ETA - Elmo's not fooling anyone.  That's obviously a beer bottle.  Not a dick.


< Message edited by LadyPact -- 5/24/2010 1:36:24 PM >

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 3:13:41 PM   
MsAlisedeSade


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Status: offline 		From a Prodomme standpoint I do think I would do anything social but I would screen them to try to make sure they are safe to meet with in the first place. Anything can happen and that's why I pay security.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 3:28:48 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I really don't want to turn this into some kind of 'to munch or not to munch' thread.

Like it or not folks, any person that you even go so far as to meet from this site, it was the commonality of some interest in BDSM that brought you together. 


But just like any other dating site (if I look at it from the perspective of the other side), it's going to take a whole lot more than a common interest in BDSM to meet someone from here.

quote:

It's great to be blessed with good instincts.  I tend to think that I have them, too.  (Most of the time.)  Still, that isn't the case for everyone.  We're kind of talking about that here if, in two weeks, even after spending three years as a pro-domme, there's not a better filter going on.  Literally, this OP has had more first meet issues than I've had in over two years.  (Probably longer, since I can't recall having these kinds of issues.)  She needs help in this area.  If that help comes to her in the version of meeting people at National events, where their are volunteers and security around, it might be the answer.  If it's going to clubs where a person's information are on record in case there is some sort of harassment problem (including their real name and address from photo ID on file) it might help her assist with the radar that she may be lacking. 


On this point, I will agree with you. But then I also have to wonder what on earth someone is doing being a prodomme if she can't tap into that instinct. This sends big flares for me.

For the record, I've came into regular contact with one killer in my life and he killed victims he had sex with. He was the local bartender that all the girls wanted to date and a few of them spent the night with him. Luckily for those girls, he killed the men he had sex with. He was everyone's favourite bartender, charismatic and hot as hades. We were all shocked to hear this and no one ever suspected. To assume community means security can be dangerous as well.

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You don't get to take the stance that all folks that enjoy the public scene are one dimentional or not well rounded, and at the same time say, but I'd love to meet LP. 


I never said all. I guess the best way to state it is, based on my admittedly narrow experience, too many for my personal taste.

- LA


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 6:53:56 PM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		I think the legs get to him.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 6:57:23 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Domi is a furry??


And okay, this gal is 20 but has pro dommed for 3 yrs?


I was just sitting here thinking that very thing.


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RE: Running Scared. - 5/24/2010 7:39:48 PM   
domiguy


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From a Prodomme standpoint I do think I would do anything social but I would screen them to try to make sure they are safe to meet with in the first place. Anything can happen and that's why I pay security.


What a dumb see you next Tu.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/25/2010 12:25:10 AM   
reynardfox


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Status: offline 		He's having a wank, Darling.. He'll probably be having another one, thrilled to the marrow that you've written this about him. The wankers are ever with us.

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RE: Running Scared. - 5/25/2010 4:34:09 AM   
CaringandReal


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Status: offline 		The experience he described (being tied up and non-consensually abused by another man instead of a femdom) would be very traumatizing to a heterosexual man or even to a bi man expecting an encounter with a woman. He's trying hard to get over that trauma, it sounds like, but he's not there yet. When you are trying to overcome some hard blow, be it physical or mental, you don't know how long it will take to recover and sometimes you think you are better when you are not and overstep yourself. He gave you some cues that he might be that way by telling you about that experience. Now you know how someone with that sort of background might behave.

You are going to run across badly abused people like him from time to time. Submissives sometimes run into the wrong sorts and have these kinds of experiences, unfortunately. If you can, have a little compassion for the fellow and don't be too annoyed by his behavior. I don't suggest you see him again but what he did is perfectly understandable given his experience. In the future, though, you can be alert when someone describes such experiences in their recent past (last five years) past and expect that shying away might happen.

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