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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 10:55:28 AM   
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No one may be faraway in the 21st Century, but when you live in a large country, distance and the cost of travelling can be a jolly big factor. I know folks who think travelling 100km is a long trip and yet for me that is just a trip to my back yard especially when I am going fishing for the day. There are lots of folk here for whom such a trip is not on the cards due to the cost of fuel or public transport. 

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:02:00 AM   
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I was just asking myself that the other day... prolly the same place all the good slaves went..

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:05:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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Becoming jaded is a poison that clouds the mind when someone good does come along...and what good can come of this?

In my opinion it is WAY worse than that. The good one will never come along if you're jaded and bitter because good healthy people avoid negative energy like that.


I disagree to this. Whilst it is true that many people tend to avoid negative energy I met the best Dom ever so far (from CM) at a time when I was rather low after a very bad meeting indeed (as some on here know) and he was mature enough to know that people are down in life at times as after all it is part of human being. We met at some point, had a great time and are still in contact since over a year...quite frankly I prefer the saying that if someone can't handle me at my worst he doesn't deserve me at the best. And someone being mature enough not to run off scared straight away just because someone might not be the happiest bunny for whatever reason at that time turns out to be a real jewel in life sometimes...so whilst of course it is better when you aren't down due to wasting your time with people which aren't what you were looking for...I do appreciate it when a Dom can handle such moments, too...

Regarding not interesting into a profile when it is rather negative...it depends...to a certain degree is ok for me...however if it shows only frustration and no normal line at all in it, then I have no interest in it either. I was in contact with a guy here who was interested in me but I was not interested into him (as he knew throughout the last 2 years), he now finally met his match and I hope he will live happily ever after...so don't give up...there are some nice ones out there...sometimes hidden and sometimes personal life gets in the way to move on right now (which is the case with the guy I am involved with since over a year) but it's always worth to keep the door open, as you never know what might be going to happen 6, 12, 18 months down the line good luck



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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:07:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

No one may be faraway in the 21st Century, but when you live in a large country, distance and the cost of travelling can be a jolly big factor. I know folks who think travelling 100km is a long trip and yet for me that is just a trip to my back yard especially when I am going fishing for the day. There are lots of folk here for whom such a trip is not on the cards due to the cost of fuel or public transport. 


makes me wish my trips would have only been 100km

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:11:05 AM   
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ALl the good Dom's are in Chicago.................. both of them

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:13:04 AM   
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ALl the good Dom's are in Chicago.................. both of them


Well I only know two Dommes in Chicago, but I would have to say they are both awesome. But we have some great people of all sides of the whip around here


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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:14:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

have you attended any munches or events? gone out and met people away from the computer?  There are many damned good people around, but you have to make the effort to connect with them.  email is a tool, much like a hammer when building a house:  having a hammer is good, but you need the nails, saws, wood etc to complete it.


Yea, what she said.


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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:17:10 AM   
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(masculine toned voice) Hey Hey Hey

I am a dom and I think I am pretty good.
The question comes down to what OTHERS think I am.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:19:22 AM   
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EinarEvil,

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what I've noticed on here is that sub/slaves limit themselves to a certain age and location, usually local, how many one have you turned down only because he was a little younger or older than yourself? or a little far away, even though nowhere is far away these days, we're in the 21st century.


Why is that a problem? If they're comfortable with a certain age range so be it. If close proximity is a necessity because she's unable to travel or afford to do so what's wrong with that? Or perhaps you haven't seen the threads that spring up later on because Johnny's a million miles away and they can only see each other once a year.

If she's looking for the needle in the haystack have at it. But she must be willing to accept the consequences of that choice. If she has I see nothing wrong with that approach.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:26:28 AM   
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Didn't Bonnie Tyler write a song about this?

Where have all the good Doms gone?
And where are all the gods?
Where's the street-wise Hercules
To fight the rising odds?
Isn't there a white knight upon a fiery steed?
Late at night I toss and turn and dream
of what I need
[etc]



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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:28:28 AM   
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Phoenixpower,

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I met the best Dom ever so far (from CM) at a time when I was rather low after a very bad meeting indeed (as some on here know) and he was mature enough to know that people are down in life at times as after all it is part of human being.


I'm sorry. I disagree. Being human has nothing to do with venting or wearing your frustrations out in the open on a dating site. That's a choice.

quote:

I prefer the saying that if someone can't handle me at my worst he doesn't deserve me at the best. And someone being mature enough not to run off scared straight away just because someone might not be the happiest bunny for whatever reason at that time turns out to be a real jewel in life sometimes...so whilst of course it is better when you aren't down due to wasting your time with people which aren't what you were looking for...I do appreciate it when a Dom can handle such moments, too...


You seem to believe that if he doesn't want to deal with your junk he's immature. Those are your issues. He has to determine what he's willing to take on. If it isn't his cup of tea it's better to find out sooner than later in my opinion.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:40:21 AM   
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You seem to believe that if he doesn't want to deal with your junk he's immature. Those are your issues. He has to determine what he's willing to take on. If it isn't his cup of tea it's better to find out sooner than later in my opinion.
Certainly true, but Phoenix was right in correcting me. I committed the cardinal sin of using an absolute. God only knows what other people will put up with.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 11:49:09 AM   
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leadership527,

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Certainly true, but Phoenix was right in correcting me. I committed the cardinal sin of using an absolute. God only knows what other people will put up with.


Confession is good for the soul.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 4:01:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

have you attended any munches or events? gone out and met people away from the computer?  There are many damned good people around, but you have to make the effort to connect with them.  email is a tool, much like a hammer when building a house:  having a hammer is good, but you need the nails, saws, wood etc to complete it.


Yea, what she said.


Agreed.

I don't understand why people don't get this.

If I decided that I wanted a pastrami sandwich (shhh, you health nuts, I like it) and there were four delicatessens in town, if I went to the first one where I had no luck, why wouldn't I try all of the options?  Would I piss and moan because there wasn't any pastrami to be had at the first and wait for them to start carrying it?  No.  I'm going to try to find what I want in different venues.

Yes, I'm over-simplifying here.  A relationship isn't as easy to order up as a sandwich.  Still, if you are looking for something and are only willing to try one venue, you have to realize that you may have something to do with not finding what you're looking for.


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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 6:20:40 PM   
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Regarding the "not looking" being successful - it works for people who are looking too hard. But if you figure out how to have fun at looking, you'll have no problem.I found two beautiful, devoted women online in the last few years, by just spending an hour or so every evening reading profiles and writing letters. I ignored all the angry women, like the other posters. it took three months the first time and three hundred letters, but I found kitten, a truly wonderful little girl in believe it or not, Maine. She subsequently moved out to live with me. The second time, several years later, I found angel, my last slave, in two months after writing two hundred letters.
Two hundred letters may sound like a chore, but it was actually fun. I'd read a profile, and when I saw something interesting, I'd just mention I liked it and ask her to write back. The letter was just a few lines long, so it didn't take any time at all. the best part was that I soon was having conversations with two to five nice submissive women at any given time. I met several of them and had a great time in general.
.... and then I would meet a truly great little girl ....
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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 7:32:33 PM   
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Warlock,

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Two hundred letters may sound like a chore, but it was actually fun. I'd read a profile, and when I saw something interesting, I'd just mention I liked it and ask her to write back.


Some of my best conversations were with people that never wrote. They simply stole a peek at a profile and I approached them instead. It isn't something I've made a habit of doing, but I must admit they were a cut above the rest. Congratulations to you and yours and best of luck to you all.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 9:17:17 PM   
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Maybe the good doms are in the same place where the good subs are LOL. Many of us can't find subs who are looking for doms as opposed to those who are looking for wealthy, handsome, buff guys who MIGHT have used handcuffs once or twice.


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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 9:43:13 PM   
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There are a bunch of good ones in Colorado. I met several before I met Master, and while I didn't personally click with them, they were good men and good Doms, in my opinion. And of course, there's DarkSteven.

They are out there.

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 10:12:04 PM   
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They are out there.

 
So are aliens..LOL
 
Something I wrote on another forum about this topic:

Disclaimer:  Because we all know that there’s always that one person. Remember in high school or college? They were the ones that everyone groaned at when they raised their hand.  So, here goes…The use of the word “Rapture” is intended to mean a “full gathering up” as Christian theology uses it to describe the end gathering up to heaven. However, I am not relating it to Christian theology, but to the description of the type of gathering.
I will not engage in a conversation about the use of the word, etc. I will leave that to folks much better versed in the English language.  Maybe the folks at “People for the ethical use of Pronouns” I want to be like them when I grow up. They are awesome grammarians!

FYI: rap·ture

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 (r
p ch r)
n.
1. The state of being transported by a lofty emotion; ecstasy.
2. An expression of ecstatic feeling. Often used in the plural.
3. The transporting of a person from one place to another, especially to heaven.
tr.v. rap·tured, rap·tur·ing, rap·tures
To enrapture.



[Obsolete French, abduction, carrying off, from rapt, carried away, from Old French rat, from Latin raptus; see rapt.]



Now onto the story…


“Where have all the Master’s gone, long time passing? Where have all the Masters gone, long time ago?” Where have all the Master’s gone? Slave fairies have picked them everyone. Oh when will they ever learn, oh when will they ever learn?”

Tongue in cheek this post is, for I have found the answer to where all the Masters have gone. You may not have read about it, seen it on T.V. or heard it on the radio, but there was a “Master Rapture” last spring.  Thousands and thousands of Masters, mid-whipping, mid-flogging, mid-hot waxing, and mid-caning, were caught up. Taken they were by little slave fairies in little leather slave outfits. Each of these Masters disappeared leaving their poor slaves twitching and waiting for the fall of the flogger, the drip of hot wax, and the sting of the cane.  Masters without slaves were folded into their toy bags and whisked away by little winged slave fairies at each handle.

Slaves were left here searching and searching, but to no avail. They wrote missives on slavery, drummed up the ancient art of begging, took copious amounts of chromium picolinate, CQ-10, and calcium, all to ease the kneeling process. They studied formal dining, the proper way to serve, the protocols of old, how to be a flybaby; zipping here and there cleaning a Master’s house thoroughly.

It wasn’t a Master Flu that befell us. It was the “Master Rapture.”   And so with slave bag in hand, thousand of slaves wander to the farthest regions of the world, searching for the elusive “Master.”  The books tell of their existence. There are stories told around dungeons, munches and play parties. A few Masters were left on Earth to titillate and tease the Masterless slaves, taunting them daily, wetting their appetites, making tears on their pillows.

And so a movement is afoot. Slaves are gathering to beseech the slave fairies to send the Masters back. We are talking to each other, learning from each other, supporting each other and taking care of each other. The slave fairies take pity on us from time to time and send a Master back to some deserving slave. When this happens, we look upon her with awe and reverence, secretly wondering what she has done to obtain such favor. We watch her, hoping to emulate her in hopes that one day, sometime soon, the slave fairies will look upon us with the same favor.

The “Master Rapture,” swooped down upon us without warning, stealth like even. …Yep! That’s what happened. That’s the wicket, and the story, and I’m sticking to it.  LOLOLOL.  Going to find a slave fairy super soaker, cause I’m mad at themzzzzz.
Little b******. Harumph!    


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Olivia (quazy, quirky, eccentric even, slave girl)  aka dovie

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RE: Where have all the good Doms gone? - 5/24/2010 10:19:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dovie
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ORIGINAL: lucylucy
They are out there.

 
So are aliens..LOL
 

Yeah, I was totally thinking of the X Files when I wrote that.

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