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LadyNTrainer -> RE: Does anyone know if we are allowed to post links to a donation site in our journal posts? (5/26/2010 7:41:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt
Walking into someone else's house and taking a dump on the living room carpet isn't really a great way to make friends with your fellow guests nor the party host, IME.
Correct. Not even if that happens to be your kink, and everyone in the house thinks your kink is okay. As a mature adult who is respectful of other people's need to keep their houses clean lest the city fine them, it's your responsibility to read the rules the host sent when you were invited and stick to them. That means keeping some parts of your kink in the bedroom with other consenting adults, specifically the parts that are messy or that involve public exhibitionism to the degree that the host may be liable for your actions.
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ORIGINAL: eibhlinauvert
WyldHrt, Thank you for your suggestion of reading LadyNTRainer's post, I have infact already read it, and find it to be a more articulate re-iteration of what most of you are saying therefore it didnt urge me to comment. I don't really think any of you are attempting to understand what I am trying to say, so I will go for it one last time with a hypothetical.
Let me re-re-iterate then. If you agree to a set of rules before walking into a place, violate that set of rules, then become unreasonably angry when you are told that you violated those rules, you are going to predictably provoke bad reactions. If you continue to respond in a vitriolic manner and show no understanding of why people are annoyed with you, it only gets worse. No big surprises here.
It is never smart to kick strange dogs, stick your tongue to frozen metal, clean the barrel of a loaded firearm with your finger or go swimming in a lake with hungry piranhas. When you see someone do any of these things on purpose and get hurt as a result, you may not be glad that bad things happened to them as a result of their deliberate decision. But as adults they should have made better choices, so your sympathy is going to be limited. Don't do this stuff or bad things will happen to you.
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Say for example it was against the law where i lived to sport an overgrown mullet. Say for example one day Sirsholly came to me and asked me how to go about raising funds for charity. Now, instead of pointing her in the right direction, I overreact and start running around like the vikings had arrived to pillage my village; I tell her to remove herself from my sight as i cannot take her seriously while she looks like that, not to mention, its against the law! The village leader gets involved and chastises her too, tellling her the nineteen-eighties have called and want their hairdo back. The rest of the villagers find this hilarious and all join and finger point, and agree how very DARE she roll on up on her motorcycle looking like that. sirsholly leaves not knowing anybetter how to solve the initial problem and now has a complex about her appearance. Now, this is a hypothetical. Let me remind you. I would not do this.
Wouldn't you? While you might not if the trigger was just a hairstyle, what if someone barged into a social group you belonged to and did something that could get the whole group in trouble or attract unwanted attention to the group? Let's say someone new joined your usual group at a social breakfast at the IHOP (the one that's frequented by cops) and wouldn't stop passing marijuana around? Or perhaps you're out in public with a Munch group and people who know you from a vanilla setting might be in the same restaurant. And that's okay, because everyone is supposed to be discreet and not flash their junk. But then you get that one clueless individual showing up in skimpy fetish wear and bringing a flogger, despite the fact that the Munch rules say that you can't do that. To make things worse, when the clueless person is reminded that they're doing something that can bring negative and unwanted attention on everyone in the group, they get angry and insult the group organizers for having those stupid rules in the first place.
How do you and your group treat this person? Extra points if you can be really honest here.
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and for those of you so concerned about the rules on this site, leave it to admin to govern i would say, thats what theyre there for isnt it? or at least thats what i would have thought. a whole bunch of you jumping on someone like you did as i have said before is out of order.
It's out of professional order, yes. That's what I was pointing out. But it's still inherently predictable. In the past, CM has been administered a bit more professionally and less by raw Social Darwinism. Both are effective methods. If you're not familiar with how Darwinism works, basically it means that organisms making choices detrimental either to their own survival or the group's survival tend not to survive. Make a bad choice or do something foolish, win a Darwin Award. In terms of evolution, the organism making bad choices doesn't live to breed. In Social Darwinism, the consequences are metaphorical. But these you have certainly invoked.
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