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LadyNTrainer -> RE: Does anyone know if we are allowed to post links to a donation site in our journal posts? (5/26/2010 9:44:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: eibhlinauvert
laurell, so what youre saying then, instead of "whining or critiscing" something i find to be aborrhent. I should prolly just have sat and agreed and hope all you lot let me in your gang! haha. bravo.
Simple question. Do you find following the rules you agreed to when you signed up to be abhorrent? Do you find it abhorrent that when you are at a public restaurant Munch, you must not dress or behave in an "adult" way to attract unwanted attention to the group which may result in everyone being thrown out or otherwise suffering undesirable consequences?
In an ideal world, we could all go naked when we wanted and there would be no consequences. In the real world, even if we think nudity and sex is a good thing, we must place some limits on our public behavior, particularly when other people will suffer the consequences of our refusing to do so. If an individual refuses to limit their behavior for the safety of the group and the host who is making it possible for everyone to gather, and becomes angry about being asked to do so, what do you think will happen to that individual?
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LadyNTrainer, thank you for offerring me points, just one question though, if i get enough of them does it mean i am then in your service? Even more thanks ( and a bit of grovelling if youd like that)
Thank you, but no.
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As to your question, if i felt someone was being treated unfairly, not matter what group i was in, i would say it, as i have here, simple as. I think that's a pretty obvious conclusion if you would care to read my previous posts.
What, specifically, is unfair about this situation?
1: Person A breaks the rules they agreed to when they signed up, thereby putting the group and the host site at risk of some problematic consequences.
2: The host intervenes to explain that the rules were broken and that this situation must be corrected.
3: Person A responds angrily, refusing to self-limit their behavior to avoid drawing negative public attention to the group.
4. B and C chime in with idle banter because they think it's funny that Person A is behaving this way.
5: Person A continues to be angry, provoking further negative responses from D, E and F.
Utterly predictable. It isn't fair that you get badly burned when you stick your hand in a fire, but the answer is not to whine that fire is unfair. The answer is to make smarter choices and not stick your hand where it's too hot to be safe or comfortable.
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