SocratesNot
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Do you think that most vanilla guys would say that being denied orgasm or sexual contact of any type for 3 months qualifies as a "sexual experience"? Yes, this is sexual, because it is focused on sex. This is the same as dieting. People who diet are focused on food, even though they eat much less than usually. And even though people who diet do lose weight, they are very conscious of it, and the amount of weight lost is spectacular only if they are very disciplined. Also, when the diet is over, they tend to return some of the weight lost. However, it si quite possible to lose substantial weight without any dieting at all. This happens when people are overwhelmed by some kind of work, studying or maybe even social interactions, so that food becomes of very little importance to them. In that case they are not focused on food. When it comes to orgasms. I usually tend to jerk off few times a day. Once I made conscious effort not to jerk off for 2 weeks and I succeeded. First few days I tended to think about it, so this was somewhat sexual, but it wasn't very arousing, since it was self imposed. If someone else told me (for example a very attractive woman) not to jerk off, it would probably be arousing since I would think of her every time jerking off comes to my mind. Since it wasn't the case, it wasn't much of a sexual experience, but even in this case, first few days I was focused on it, because I made conscious effort not to jerk off. However, when I was on the excursion with high school, we traveled many European cities for 10 days, and we were socializing and having fun 24/7. And drinking a lot as well. In such situation, the circumstances did not allow me to jerk off, so I didn't, but I wasn't even thinking about it, because, I was focused on other things. So I could define 4 forms of chastity. First, forced chastity because attractive woman told you to do this, this is completely sexual experience. Second, self imposed chastity, to see how long can you endure without orgasm, this is somewhat sexual experience, especially in first days of the efforts. Third, long term self imposed celibacy, in the beginning it is sexual, gradually becomes more and more asexual because you come to terms with it and accept it. Fourth, absence of orgasms due to circumstances or due to being focused on other things, this is completely asexual.
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