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SocratesNot -> RE: An interesting theory of D/s (my own) (5/26/2010 2:35:23 PM)
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Ok, I'll bite on this one (in spite of my better judgement)
Explain how that is exclusive to MALES, only.
It's not. I wrote exactly the same thing about natural alpha women.
I will quote my OP again, also I will underline relevant parts.
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In my opinion of all the groups mentioned, female dominants which are natural alpha women, along with natural
alpha men are least insecure. It is possible that they were quite successful in their youth and very beautiful as well. Such
personality simply caused most men to be somewhat afraid of them, because they feared they are not good enough or
dominant enough for such a woman.
It is possible that only the most dominant males dared to approach them and they formed power couples with such
dominant women. Such relationships sometimes work, but they quite often fail, because the struggle for power and
control is often present in them.
After dissatisfaction with several such power relationships, the dominant woman decided to take the things in her own
hands. So she used her assertiveness and sexuality to seduce more submissive types of men, and of course she was
successful. So they probably formed very successful, female led, but still vanilla relationship in which she was treated
like a goddess, and he also enjoyed the relationship with such a powerful woman very much. Many naturally dominant
women never actually proceed to real D/s or BDSM. In most cases this happens completely accidentally if some of their
lovers happens to be kinky and introduces them to femdom. As an open minded and assertive women, more often than
not, they happen to like it, so they become dommes. Or, in an alternative case, as a open minded and curious women,
they happen to discover the kink on their own, and to like it.
The core reason for the assertiveness and pronounced sexuality of such women is probably somewhat higher level of
testosterone than women usually have.
That's why they are quite often lesbians and also they have genuine attraction to submissive and even effeminate
men. In my opinion such female dominance is usually the most natural form of dominance because it is caused by their
natural affinity and the situation they encountered in life, and not on feelings of insecurity. Also their style of domination
is not cruel, but nurturing, and since they don't have much internal need to dominate, their kinky elements may also be
based on external, fetishistic factors, just like among natural alpha men. However, in my opinion, genuine female dominants
are quite rare, and it is even possible that they are more present in the world of vanilla then in BDSM.
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