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'if you ever go into analysis you are going to have to lie a lot'

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For once in my life, I'm finally comfortable enough in my own skin to accept the fact that I just may be single the rest of my life. In my younger years, I really could not say that, and the mere thought of not having some MAYUN in my life would send me into a tailspin. But I've come to the realization that my friends, my family and my kids fulfil me quite adequately.

I may WANT him, but I don't NEED him. Some people cannot perceive the difference.

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ORIGINAL: ReginaMirus

Yes, precisely. Here's what I wrote...

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For once in my life, I'm finally comfortable enough in my own skin to accept the fact that I just may be single the rest of my life. In my younger years, I really could not say that, and the mere thought of not having some MAYUN in my life would send me into a tailspin. But I've come to the realization that my friends, my family and my kids fulfil me quite adequately.

I may WANT him, but I don't NEED him. Some people cannot perceive the difference.

Personally, I think this has nothing to do with dominance and everything to do with maturity and overall LIFE experience.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

Lady Pact, I would like you to read my OP, there is a part in which I mentioned the other type of dommes who are not attracted to sissies and feminine men.

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The third type are insecure dommes.
The reason for their dominance is similar to that of insecure male doms. But, since the society does not say that women
should be dominant, they cope with these feelings differently than male doms. In order to feel satisfied with themselves and
to avoid feeling of inferiority, they simply need to dominate men, usually strong alpha men. It's a challenge for them. The
more manly man they dominate, the greater is their accomplishment and the less insecure they will feel. Such dommes are
usually more cruel then natural alpha women that I previously described, because they are attracted to partners that are
not naturally so submissive. So they need to break them. In breaking them they can be very cruel. They also usually demand
strict obedience, observance of rituals and even worship, because if they lack it, their feelings of insecurity or inferiority return.

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Next, I want to say, that it is a good thing for all of these mentioned groups to enter D/s relationships.
Furthermore, submissives and insecure dominants of both genders actually need it. Natural alpha men and women don't
need it, but they can enjoy it as well. So in most D/s relationships everyone is satisfied.
If real submissives don't enter D/s relationship they will most likely be treated badly by people who don't understand them
and they will be submissive anyway. In D/s relationship their needs are understood and submission is ritualized and sexualized
and feels good. In D/s relationship they will be rewarded for their submission, and also for some subs the submission is a reward
in itself
Insecure dominants would probably be bullies in vanilla relationships. So, it is also very good for them to enter D/s relationship
where they will satisfy their need to dominate in structured, ritualized way, and where they will be met with people who are
willing to please them, satisfy them and understand them.
Except for the need to dominate or submit, none of the groups mentioned have any flaws in character any more than all the
other people do.
Also, the need to dominate or submit is not a flaw of character when it is satisfied in safe and understanding environment of
D/s relationship.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

You don't have to experience something yourself in order to understand it.
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I'm not going to defend my theory. P.S.

Whenever someone tries to make ANY theory about ANY type of human behavior, some people will be offended. This is simply impossible to avoid if you want to make a theory that aspires to reveal some truth.