Rochsub2009
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Ma'am is the one who knows how to cook (really well). If i shopped for Her i'd end up buying a few frozen dinners and ten cans of tuna fish.
i wasn't actually going to participate in this thread until i read this response by the OP. Judging by that, he really is clueless, so here are a few ideas.
The first step to being a good sub is to remember that it is all about HER. Try to think like she does, NOT like you do. Thus, buying a few frozen dinners and ten cans of tuna fish would be immediately eliminated as options. She would NEVER buy that. Instead, look in her refrigerator and pantry. Start memorizing the types of foods and brands that she likes. If there is anything in her refrigerator or pantry that has less than 1/3 of the box/bottle left, buy a new one.
Then try to understand her eating habits and goals. Many (most?) women seem to be watching their weight or trying to eat healthier. If that's the case, help her do it. Learn to cook some really great tasting healthy recipes. You don't have to be a chef. Most cookbooks have easy-to-follow instructions. Also, buy plenty of fresh produce (especially fruits). If she has a sweet tooth, feed her grapes (literally). Nothing feeds a Cleopatra fantasy like being fed grapes by a handsome male sub. Also, make her fresh fruit salads on hot days. It's tasty, healthy, and refreshing. (note: Don't buy canned fruit cocktail. Cut up fresh fruit and MAKE her a homemade fruit salad). Be sure to find out what her favorite fruits are, and include them.
Learn her favorite foods. Then learn to make them. Cooking isn't as hard as you may think. Also, learn what her favorite restaurants are. Find out what her favorite menu items are from those restaurants. Then surprise her by getting one of them as takeout, and bring it to her after she's had a hard day at work. Between making her favorite foods and bringing her her favorite restaurant items, you will have one happy Domme.
Learn ALL of her sizes. But in particular, learn her shoe size. Then look at the labels in her shoes. Is there a brand that she seems to favor? Is there a style that she seems to favor? Is there a color that she seems to favor? Where does she buy most of her shoes? If she likes Manolo Blahniks, and you buy her something from Payless, she probably won't be happy, even if they are her favorite color.
What brand of cosmetics does she use? What perfume does she wear? Where does she buy them? You SHOULD already know the answer to these questions, but something tells me you don't.
What's her favorite color? i'll bet you don't know. Correct that mistake.
What are her favorite stores? If she shops on-line, what are her favorite on-line shopping sites? Learn these, and then buy her a gift certificate from each of them.
When is her birthday? If you don't know, find out immediately!!!! Then treat that day like the most important day of the year. It is!!!!!!!
Find out the things that she HATES doing. Then start doing them for her. If you know that she hates getting her car washed, then start doing it for her. If she hates cutting the grass, cut it for her. If she hates washing dishes, make sure that you are the one who washes the dishes after dinner.
Take a massage class. Most women seem to enjoy a good massage. Notice, i said a "good" massage. Most guys give a terrible massage. They just rub like a hack. Instead, learn how to do it right. Most community colleges have massage classes. Then follow that up by learning to do erotic massage. A man who knows how to make his Mistress feel good is worth his weight in gold.
If you have a physical relationship with Her, then pay attention to what makes her moan. Listen very carefully during lovemaking. Her moans and her body language will tell you what she likes. PAY ATTENTION! Ignore your desire to cum. In fact, decide that you are going to forego your own orgasm. Instead, challenge yourself to focus completely on giving her as many orgasms as she can possibly bear. You'll be amazed at how willing she will be to return the favor if you do that.
What types of books and magazines does she read? If her favorite author just released a new book, surprise her and buy it for her.
Same thing with movies. What are her favorite types of movies? Who is her favorite actor or actress? If you heard her say that she wants to see the new "Sex and the City" movie, take her to see it. i don't care that it's a chick flick. Take her to see it anyway. She'll appreciate it.
But basically, all of this goes back to what the ladies said early on in this thread; LISTEN. But don't just listen, pay attention. Some things that she wants, she won't ask for. But she'll let you know what they are. For example, as a sub, you should view a complaint as a request. If she says, "I hate doing laundry", what you should hear is "Will you please start doing the laundry for me?" If she says "I hate giving my dog a bath", what you should hear is "Will you please start giving my dog his baths?"
See how it works? Listen. Then do.
< Message edited by Rochsub2009 -- 5/30/2010 2:11:57 PM >
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