Silence8 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/1/2010 10:55:49 AM)
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ORIGINAL: leadership527 And Silence... honestly... it is blatantly obvious that you cannot actually imagine a personality which is both submissive and healthy. But your lack of imagination does not define reality. Why can't Carol like to submit for all the same reasons you like to debate... namely... because it's her nature (and yours). Honestly, there doesn't need to be a reason for it any more than there needs to be a reason for someone to dominate or someone else to like politics (well, ok, that last one is a bit sketchy in my mind). It's an interesting dilemma, I'll admit, the dilemma of authority. (To know that an authority is truly authorized, you basically have to assume that authority, in which case, the authority no longer exists. See you loop?) Respecting authority for authority's sake I think isn't unhealthy per se, but -- how to put this -- it's a ritual. Respecting that you have 'faith' in authority is justified... that's essential to (some) aspects of (some people's) lives. It's a sign of personal strength to recognize when, for instance, you can learn from an individual, his or her knowledge, experience, et cetera. But the best authority (outside of D/s relationships, which I recognize are 'special forms') is 'de-authorizing' -- like, for instance, a really great teacher will begin with much authority, but will teach his or her students with such skill that they learn all he or she has to teach, therefore negating the initial authority ('spreading' the authority around.) I think, maybe D/s is 'pre-reason', which is not necessarily a bad thing, which is why it can be so strong, but I think that society-at-large should ultimately be based on reason. So, to offer a perhaps conservative viewpoint, there should be slightly different rules for the home and for society at large. I recognize there are some difficulties here. This is I why I sometimes assume a distance to my D/s inclinations, why I tend to think at the end of the day, for me, maybe their being somewhat 'performative' isn't a bad thing. I might, though, change my mind on this. I'm still ironing things out, as it were.
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