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Ishtarr -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/1/2010 2:37:17 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Slavery in the old days was about society, through laws and whatnot, forcing you to respect the authority of your master, who might be a craven old man, a juvenile teenager, or a toothless old crone.
This is exactly why I don't like the "slavery" word.
Not because I have something against the concept as it is often used by couples like Jeff and Carol, but because too many people still use the term to reflect what it used to mean in a legal context.
Legal slavery does not require any leadership. All you have to do to own and dominate a legal slave is buy them.
Then you dish out orders and simple expect them to be obeyed.
Even when there isn't a hint of authority present, and the slave has to force themselves to obey and to "respect" your authority while secretly thinking about that knife they're going to plant in your back that same night, you can under legal slavery still expect them to at least half-ass carry out your orders.
The type of BDSM slavery that leads to harmonious relationships is totally different from that, because it depends on nothing but the dominant's ability to create and environment of authority that is as natural to the relationship as gravity is to the world.
To do this, the dominant has to have their own bases covered and actually create a continuous situation in which obedience is simple the better choice, for both parties involved.
A woman like Carol, who finds the right man obeys simple because she would be an idiot not to obey him.
Doing what he wants will eventually always yield the results she wants, which creates a situation in which compliance becomes as natural as oxygen.
But the reason this is true is because of the kind of man Jeff is, and because of his ability to create a setting in which obedience is always the best choice for her.
If the guy doesn't have his shit together, but still expects the "slave" to obey out of nothing but "respect" for his non-existing authority, and the promises she made to obey him, then he's delusional. The day will come where she'll realize that disobedience yields better results then obedience... and at that point, any sane rational being will flip him and all his blustering commands the bird and walk off.
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