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Andalusite -> RE: Crossdressers and REAL women and LTR. (6/6/2010 9:37:44 AM)
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I think the "real women" bit is a mean to MTF transgendered people, and unnecessary. Just saying women, or even genetic women, would be preferable. On to your question, I once playfully crossdressed a vanilla boyfriend, before I discovered that I could include BDSM or D/s in my relationships. Since then, I dated a switch for a year and a half, and a submissive for 2 or 3 months, and both were crossdressers before we met. They did occasionally cross-dress during play or other things. For me, I can still get turned on by someone who is crossdressed, but they'd still have to put in at least as much effort as if they were wearing masculine clothes, or naked. Cross-dressing doesn't actively arouse me, but it doesn't prevent me from getting turned on. Usually, it gives more of a slumber party/helping a female friend get ready for a bit event kind of vibe. I feel thrilled when I can help them pick out just the right outfit, or the perfect shoes, or if a makeup tip makes a big difference for them. If they needed it the majority of the time, we probably wouldn't have been compatible.
I've also helped out a few drag queens - loaning clothes, working with them on hair, makeup, walking, dancing, and stuff. Since they were gay, we obviously weren't going to be sexually intimate or romantically involved, although I have done some S/M and bondage with one of them. I feel that the ones who want to be degraded are misogynist and sexist, and that makes me uncomfortable. One guy wrote that he expected me to orgasm just from watching him parade around in panties, because he would be humiliated. I suspect that he's never been with a woman before, since he was so clueless and unrealistic. Here in the Bay Area, someone who is cross-dressed doesn't tend to draw a lot of negative attention anywhere. If I were dating someone who wanted to be crossdressed in public, we'd probably start with kink events and/or the Castro district.
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