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ORIGINAL: flogger

He chased after me on Collarme...Am using him for a chauffeur, slave, toy, how does this really make me look to the fem slaves/sub that my goal is to own a female slave? Have not introduced him to my local dungeon, Domcon. people saw me with him and introduced his as my slave. Does this help me or hurt me as a Master ...is my quesiton in the females point of view?

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally.

If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying.

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I got a 32 on my ACT's.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally.

If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying.

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I've decided to keep him private, Nothing sexual and he knows it. Just a private slave toy to practice on and drive me around town. It will keep me from being lonely while waiting for a fem slave to kneel at my feet.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Post # 10, oh Sunny One.
Says he's decided to keep him secret so as not to scare off female types.

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Got a boy or boi serving me

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

You're looking for someone to enter into a trusting relationship with and you're going to take the risk that this lie comes to light? Come on, cheating on your ACTs is a little secret, having a fullgrown male sub is a pretty big one. Women aren't men, the whole homophobia thing doesn't tend to be as prevelant among us. In fact I find bisexual men incredibly attractive because they aren't closeminded. I wouldn't worry about that issue, if she is that closeminded, she's not worth it (as Ironbear said and you agreed), however, the lying thing would be a HUGE issue for me personally.

If what you say is true and it's not sexual and your priority is going to be on the female should you find one, I don't get the purpose behind lying.

Closed minded? What does closed minded have to do with being straight? Because I am not wired to accept the dick makes me closed minded to not do so?

I like women that are open minded enough to accept me and my staightness. Those few chicks that can actually accept me as I am.

Sometimes I wish I was queer. *sighssss*... Jeffff, pa, dc and myself watching the Wizard of Oz. Sitting in a circle, holding hands around a barrel of AstroGlide.

If life were only so simple.

Damn you Jesus for not giving me the ability to accept another's cock as if it were my own. I am so closed minded.

With these short comings how can I ever be loved?

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

My question is, are you keeping him a secret from women you are trying to attract, or keeping the relationship quiet for other reasons?

There is a difference between someone not wearing a wedding ring because he wants to get laid at the club, and someone not wearing his wedding ring so he won't scare off any potential girlfriends, because he and his wife are poly.

If it is to dishonestly attract females, then I disagree with your methods. If it is for other (perhaps more benign) reasons, I do not offer any initial condemnation.

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

The way I understand it guy =guy =gay girl =girl = gay Time to out yourself dude

BadOne

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ORIGINAL: warlock1935

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Got a boy or boi serving me

Hi Flogger, long time no see! I'm with Bear on this. Most subs I know would want to know about him early in the conversations leading up to meeting, but wouldn't have a problem with it since it's non-sexual. DesFip said "And I agree that this boy is desperate and that's why he's agreeing to a less than optimal situation. " Sure, he might be desperate, but he's just as likely doing what Flogger is - having fun and getting needs met while waiting for the One to come along. I don't see anything wrong with that.
As to him being used, I see that comment as silly. I frequently growl in my submissive's ears "I'm going to use your little body for my pleasure" and that alone is often nearly enough to cause an orgasm. All the submissives I know LOVE being used in that positive sense, that I get pleasure and they get pleasure too, sometimes just the sheer pleasure of serving. I think what you're referring to is Taking rather than Using. If Flogger was making this guy give him money, for example, that'd be over the line. But serving him? All the submissives I know get unhappy when their Dom gets things for himself, because it deprives them of the pleasure of serving him. And it sounds like that's the boi's motivation here.
As it happens, I'm acquainted with Flogger, and I've never seen him of heard of him doing anything unethical. Wanting to be discreet about this seems reasonable to me.

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

If you're not having sex with the man or  woman on woman, you do NOT have to be gay to accept service or top a man. 

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

The way I understand it guy =guy =gay girl =girl = gay Time to out yourself dude

BadOne

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ORIGINAL: GraciousLady



As far as I'm concerned if he tells any potential female sub about this boy or dismisses the boy before his relationship with the female is commited he's ok. However, any lies will make his behaviour wrong.