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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

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Being from a teensy weensy town (actually more of a village) I had zero street smarts, had to learn them on the fly, and now I am worldly, cosmopolitan, and this is because I have some street smarts. I can find my way in any urban environment and keep myself from being pick pocketed, abducted, and know how to spot a drug/crime infested area... I also know how to act if I get lost in one.

Just me, etc

I am from the city of 250,000 people and I have all of these abilities and more, but I don't consider myself particularly street smart.
I have some street smarts, but not so much to be able to actively engage in serious trouble, I am more inclined to efficiently discovering and avoiding trouble.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

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Let me just ask you something SN, if the Domme you seek will be all of what you say you are looking for, then what the heck would she see in a twit like you?

Take the premise you started this thread with...why would such an intelligent and wise woman as you described here want you? There has to be compatibility and common ground and a base to build upon for both people, which is what people keep telling you. Is there really such a worldly woman out there such as you seek, that will want to take on the brick wall that is you for their property? I have a high IQ, I have lots of common sense, I have been through many travails in life which have given me wisdom because I learned from them. If I sit on my ass and wait for a man who exceeds me in these things you mentioned, IQ and wisdom, I may be alone for the rest of my life. I prefer not to live that way, holding potential partners up to a measuring post to see if they're good enough. F*ck that. Once again your theories are all full of holes and you're not willing to see this or grow from learning that things are different than you thought.

My thread was theoretic in nature. I just wanted to elaborate in which circumstances I WOULD BE ABLE to be a slave in TPE.
Something like a thought experiment.
This doesn't mean that I am looking forward to it, nor that I intend to find such a Domme.
If I do find her, it would be great, but if I don't there are more realistic alternatives such as:

a) being a dominant with the girl who doesn't have to be smarter or wiser than me and who would probably try to find someone who is smarter and wiser than her, so I could be an option
b) being a submissive in NON TPE D/s relationship where I wouldn't need a domme to satisfy such high standards, because I would retain my independence in all the things that aren't directly connected to relationship.

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No one is intelectually superior to anyone else in all areas. The best bet is to find someone who enhances your intelligence, compliments your knowledge. If you desire someone smarter than you, find out in what areas and seek out that person. But if you are waiting for that person who is smarter than you in all areas... well.... ice cubes will form first.

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Total Power Exchange requires Total Superiority (for me). Why would I allow anyone who is not superior to me in Everything to have total authority over me in Everything?

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So..... don't.

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Why would you give Total Authority in All Areas of your life to someone who is NOT Superior to you in All Areas of life?

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For example, if you have better musical tastes than your Master, why would you allow him to choose for you what music you'll listen to?

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If you have a better feeling for fashion than your Master, why would you allow him to choose your clothes and haircolor?

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If you have better understanding about cars and types of cars why would you allow him to choose what car is best for you?

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In general, if there is any area in which you are definitely better, more knowledgeable etc, than your Master, why would you allow him to make important decisions in this area for you, if you are sure that you can do it better yourself?

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And finally, if he constantly decides in all the areas of your life, even in those where you would certainly make better decisions, doesn't it lead to frustration and disappointment, since your own opinion doesn't matter, unless he approves it, even in areas where you are better. He can approve your opinion in most cases, but by his very nature, of being less knowledgeable in this particular area, he isn't even competent to approve or disapprove your opinion. And sometimes he'll disapprove it because he genuinely thinks this is better, but he'll be wrong. And in some other situations he'll disapprove just because he can - he wants to show some authority.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

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So..... don't.

OK, don't - I won't. But I am asking others now:

Why would you give Total Authority in All Areas of your life to someone who is NOT Superior to you in All Areas of life?

For example, if you have better musical tastes than your Master, why would you allow him to choose for you what music you'll listen to?
If you have a better feeling for fashion than your Master, why would you allow him to choose your clothes and haircolor?
If you have better understanding about cars and types of cars why would you allow him to choose what car is best for you?
In general, if there is any area in which you are definitely better, more knowledgeable etc, than your Master, why would you allow him to make important decisions in this area for you, if you are sure that you can do it better yourself?
And finally, if he constantly decides in all the areas of your life, even in those where you would certainly make better decisions, doesn't it lead to frustration and disappointment, since your own opinion doesn't matter, unless he approves it, even in areas where you are better. He can approve your opinion in most cases, but by his very nature, of being less knowledgeable in this particular area, he isn't even competent to approve or disapprove your opinion. And sometimes he'll disapprove it because he genuinely thinks this is better, but he'll be wrong. And in some other situations he'll disapprove just because he can - he wants to show some authority.

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Re: Musical tastes...there is no better or worse just different. If he chooses to have me become knowledgable in the music he likes...why wouldn't I?

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For example, I couldn't listen to black metal no matter what. The complete ideology of black metal is totally against my world view, and the way this music sounds is extremely irritating to me. Maybe there are very few black metal songs or bands that would be exception, but in general, ideology of black metal is totally against my value system, and the way it sounds can only irritate me and make me very uncomfortable.

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Yes, this is unrealistic expectation to find someone who is superior in all areas to me. But for me this automatically implies that they shouldn't have authority in all areas unless they are indeed superior in all areas. If I am superior in some areas I should have authority in these areas, and she should have authority in areas in which she is superior. Quite simple.

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How does this make black metal (whatever that is) 'better' or 'worse' than any other form of music to someone who isn't you?

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From Wikipedia:
Black metal has been met with great hostility from mainstream culture, mainly due to the misanthropic and anti-Christian standpoint of many artists. Moreover, a handful of musicians have been linked with church burnings, murder or National Socialism. For these, and other reasons, black metal is often seen as an underground form of music.

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well spoken individual who uses such music for shock value, to make people think.