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IronBear -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 1:37:57 AM)
Aye, last I heard, you could and can get plenty of action in Bosnia. I understand the Gypsies control it but that hasn't been confirmed.

SocratesNot -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 2:03:21 AM)
Bosnia is pretty much normal country today, only it has shitty BDSM scene. Here is a picture of my city - Banja Luka. [image]local://upfiles/1003538/83AF893F9E024FAF9159AA4ECE657764.jpg[/image]

leadership527 -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 2:20:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 By the way, the evidence is all around you that it can work. Merc and Beth; Kom and Alandra and Kyra (but they need yarn obviously); Jeff and Carol; LP and clip; Bita and her Master (whose name I do not know sorry) and others I'm sure I've forgotten, I'm sorry. Wow, I am well and truly flattered to be included in that list. Sadly though, tomorrow I'm planning on making all sorts of bad decisions and generally making Carol's life a living hell for no apparent reason. I mean seriously, that is basically what is underlying SN's theories and honestly who really does that? No wait... scratch that... who really does that who actually keeps a slave?

PeonForHer -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 4:15:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 i used to think that way but in reality it isnt so important for youre Dominant to be more intelligent - its more a case of them being capable of making good decisions. This does it for me. Also: quote: SocratesNot If they are equally capable, then any of them can lead. In this case the leadership can be based only on preference. So who prefers to lead will lead, who prefers to follow will follow.

PeonForHer -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 4:20:16 AM)
Banja Luka doesn't look at all ordinary to me, SN. My city-centre doesn't have the ghost of the bloke from Mission Impossible walking up and down its high streets.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 6:08:22 AM)
SNot, You need to find yourself a good Domme that will throw you across a coffee table, grab you by your throat and bitch slap you across the face whenever you're caught up in fears because you think too much. Seriously Dude, you are thinking way too much about things while not having given yourself the experience of exploring things for real. You can always find yourself a Dominant Women that does not identify with the BDSM lifestye itself. Find yourself a women that will Put you back in your place, call you on your own bullshit, not cater to your bad habits. You know somebody you actually respect enough to Listen to and follow (regardless of your own internal logic feedback loops)

BitaTruble -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:16:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Silence8 You know Soc lives in Bosnia, don't you? Like you could find action in Bosnia. [:D] I lived in Utah for 3 years.. If I can find plenty of action there, I can find it anywhere.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:23:46 AM)
There is an astounding amount of action to be had in Utah. Think BKSir would mistake me for a cute boy?

BKSir -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:26:13 AM)
Somehow, I doubt he would hon. HUGS I still lurves ya though. :) And yeah, the scene here in utah is actually amazingly large. Alas, nothing quite fitting what I'm looking for. Then again, I can be such a picky bastard that it's sickening. [:D]

Level -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:26:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus There is an astounding amount of action to be had in Utah. Think BKSir would mistake me for a cute boy? Incredibly cute, yes; a boy, NOT a chance!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:28:26 AM)
Oh well, the bewbage gives me away every time!! [:D] Point is, action is everywhere!! It might not be easy to find, you might have to get on more than one bus, but it's THERE.

BitaTruble -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:31:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir Somehow, I doubt he would hon. HUGS I still lurves ya though. :) And yeah, the scene here in utah is actually amazingly large. Alas, nothing quite fitting what I'm looking for. Then again, I can be such a picky bastard that it's sickening. [:D] That's good to know! When I was there about 10 or 12 years ago.. it didn't seem that large. :) Actually, I live less than 400 miles from SN so if he's willing to travel just a bit, I'm sure he can find some folks who would be happy to show him the ropes.. so to speak.

BKSir -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:34:08 AM)
Yep, surprisingly there were about 30ish, give or take in the Pride parade earlier this month, and I know that was only a very very small portion of them. :)

SocratesNot -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:39:57 AM)
After some thought I changed my opinion. Now I think the following: - no matter what level of wisdom, intelligence, education, decision-making abilities, courage and leadership skills the Domme possesses, M/s and TPE is probably not for me. - in other types of D/s relationship I could thrive and while they are very important, IQ and wisdom are not the most important traits the Domme should have - the most important traits of a Domme for me are: emotional intelligence (more important than IQ), decision-making abilities and leadership skills, and the most important thing - having ethical values compatible to mine and sticking to them. - if I eventually end up in TPE (but I said, this is probably not for me) I would expect the Domme to have better leadership skills and decision making abilities than mine and to have compatible ethics to mine and to adhere to it. - I would not have any other specific requirements - however, high education, emotional intelligence, general IQ, wisdom, sense of humor, playfulness, and many other things are, of course, desirable, and yes if she doesn't possess at least similar levels (a little lower or little higher) of these things to me - she is probably not for me.

grlee -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:52:43 AM)
For me - it is about the mind fuck as much as the physical one. If he cannot communicate with me in a way that makes my brain jump, he will not be able to make my flesh jump.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:56:03 AM)
For what it's worth, all the IQ in the world is moot if the person is unable to look at the big picture of things realistically. The concept of wisdom is a bit on par with common sense in my opinion. No matter how high you place something or somebody on a "pedestal", sooner or later it or they will fall. In regards to "better leadership" skills and such, it's wise to not be picking apart every single thing another person does. Because if you are looking to find faults and flaws you will. Word of warning, people will fail perfection. You will fail to achieve the perfection you even wish to obtain and so will other people. Again, you need to consider a few things, knowing that you yourself indulge in the over analytics of things at times, that you will see flaws and faults with so many things. In many regards, there is a certain state of "Freedom" that you yourself can experience should you find a path. There's a certain freedom in being able to simply enjoy and accept things, verses the imprisonment of analytical thought. Both hold equal value to the human experience. I am not advocating turning your back on analytical thought altogether. I am expressing that you attempt to indulge in the "freedom" of simplicity of moments and certain things. It can be extremely easy to look down upon somebody who you feel lacks the motivation to push themselves in the same areas of life as you do. Just as you yourself have flaws and faults, so do other people. In the Quest for knowledge and understanding, make certain it does not turn into a war campaign looking for flaws and faults. The kind of stuff that feeds fears and yields disappointments.

BKSir -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 11:56:45 AM)
I tend to agree with grlee here. Maybe to an even higher degree. I've tried random sex before and it just plain didn't work. I've always had to be able to connect with a person on an intellectual and emotional level first. Without that, combined with physical attraction, as Elvis said, "Ain't nothin' shakin' but the leaves on the trees.".

sublizzie -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 12:37:19 PM)
Why, having read this entire thread, is that ditty "I want a girl, just like the girl, who married dear, old dad" keep running through my head?

PeonForHer -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 1:07:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SocratesNot After some thought I changed my opinion. Now I think the following: . . . . After due contemplation, SN, my own conclusion is somewhat simpler: If a woman can give me a boner for at least some of the time, I'll be happy for her to lead me for at least some of the time.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: M/s and IQ and wisdom (6/13/2010 1:36:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sublizzie Why, having read this entire thread, is that ditty "I want a girl, just like the girl, who married dear, old dad" keep running through my head? Funny, you ain't the only one with a Ditty running through your head. This is the one I keep hearing inside my head. I want a girl with a mind like a diamond I want a girl who knows what's best I want a girl with shoes that cut And eyes that burn like cigarettes I want a girl with the right allocations Who's fast and thorough And sharp as a tack She's playing with her jewelry She's putting up her hair She's touring the facility And picking up slack I want a girl with a short skirt and a lonnnng jacket...... I want a girl who gets up early I want a girl who stays up late I want a girl with uninterrupted prosperity Who uses a machete to cut through red tape With fingernails that shine like justice And a voice that is dark like tinted glass She is fast and thorough And sharp as a tack She's touring the facility And picking up slack I want a girl with a short skirt and a lonnnnng.... lonnng jacket I want a girl with a smooth liquidation I want a girl with good dividends At Citibank we will meet accidentally We'll start to talk when she borrows my pen She wants a car with a cupholder arm rest She wants a car that will get her there She's changing her name from Kitty to Karen She's trading her MG for a white Chrysler La Baron I want a girl with a short skirt and a lonnnnggggggggg jacket

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