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Proprietrix -> RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme (4/12/2006 3:05:12 PM)
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As I just said on another thread...
Not responding to an email isn't the defining quality of an ass.
NO ONE, absolutely no one, is obligated, in any way, shape, or form, to respond to anyone else on the internet. We are under no obligation to even boot up the computer on our desks. I am not obligated to answer my door when the doorbell rings. I am not obligated to answer my telephone when it rings. I am not obligated to answer my emails. And I am certainly not obligated to respond to a message from a total stranger on a personal's site.
Most the time, non-response is not so much a "rudeness", as simply a disinterest in moving forward. I have found these truths that contribute to my non-response: (Common ones in bold)
I said "no thank you" and received another pleaing message of "oh why not?" or "just this once" or some other try to "talk me into it" message that frankly was nothing more than an annoyance.
The person writing me had obviously not taken the time to read my profile.
The person writing me had such horrendous grammar and spelling, and articulated themselves like a retarded toddler, that I felt they probably couldn't comprehend my rejection anyway.
The person writing me (or their message) was so creepy I was scared to respond, as they might take any hint of attention from me as an invitation to creep me out some more.
The person writing me had an interest list diabolically opposed to my own.
The person writing me was simply writing to try to talk me into their kinks.
The person wrote me 3 months ago and I hadn't logged on since that time.
It was a "form" letter that was obviously a cut and paste they were sending to many women. (i.e. you're picture is so beautiful" when I don't even have a pic posted. Or "I see that you also enjoy strap-ons" when my interests clearly reflect that I hate such.)
The damn message didn't even make sense to the extent I was left bewildered about humanity in general. (i.e. "we cum new to u for serve b 4 with us." WTF?
So I have an extra 20 minutes in my day, I log on to CM, I find all of the messages above (which takes me about 10 minutes to read them all). And I have one real message, of someone who has taken the time to read my profile, shares some similar interests, and articulated themselves well.
I'm not going to waste the rest of my remaining 10 minutes replying back with "no thank you"s. I'm going to spend that 10 minutes on the one person who took the time to learn about me and write me a well thought out message.
It's not really educated to assume that just because one doesn't reply to an email that they are uncaring or unfeeling.
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