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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:16:17 AM

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Not sure about anyone .. I think its fucked up when mom/daughter chat on CM ..(IMHO )

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:18:17 AM

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Not sure about anyone .. I think its fucked up when mom/daughter chat on CM ..(IMHO )

Fucked up?... that I have a great relationship with my daughter and that we can discuss openly things we agree or disagree on? And the purpose of this thread was being able to be open and honest with our family?

I guess I missed something somewhere....

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:20:32 AM

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Guess you missed the IMHO... must have cum in your eyes ..

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:21:40 AM

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Guess you all missed two mod warnings.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:24:56 AM

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~edited because the original post was deleted

To the OP

I havent read through all these posts, nor am i going too. You are 18, an adult. While you are legally able to live your own life without anyone telling you how, your parents are no longer responsible for you and have the right to tell you to leave when you no longer obey their rules.

Whatever decision you make, make it on your own best interests, and leave sex out of the equation. Sure, you can be open and honest with your parents, but do they really want to know all about your private life? again, your an adult. most parents, including myself, dont want to know if our kids are getting any.

but i was the first one my son called after his first lay. lol... i was at work.. he called... all happy like most men tend to be. and being "mom" all i could ask was... did you cover up? the incredibly funny part was my question embarrassed him!

Op, honestly, weigh your options. your young, will go through many men (hopefully

). enjoy what you have, privately. its obvious by your post that your parents dont want to know, so tell them what they want to hear and live your life as you desire... but keep it to yourself.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 3:04:49 PM

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FR:

From the OP's profile, she is no longer under consideration. Or at least removed that part. As did the guy whom she was under consideration of.

Glasgow:
If you are still reading your thread :

You will be OK, you really will. This " lifestyle" isn't easy . Compatable partners aren't hanging off trees, and just like in the vanilla world, you have to kiss alot of frogs. And like in the vanilla world, it takes time and patience to build a relationship and often times, it's not going to work out and you dust yourself off and move along.

I hope you keep posting cuz there are alot of good people with good advice here. No matter what you think of the way it has been written in this thread, folks gave you solid advice and forewarnings. It's not cuz we are smarter, cooler or ubber BDSMer's, its cuz we have traveled the path you are on, made our own mistakes.

When you read a harsh reply.... look more to the content of what the posters is saying. Often times the manner in which many of us speak/write may seem hard, but the message is worth considering. And sometimes we all need a good dope slap to wake our butts up. Believe me, I have gotten a few in my years here on CM and while I was intitialy ticked off, I saw the value in the post. And the advice or opinion was quite valid. Sometimes to my chagrin. But that's how we learn. For me, I am never too old to learn from others.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 4:38:11 PM

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The reason I am guessing that there are a lot of calls for Glasgow to post what happened is two-fold.

Firstly peopole do have a genuine concern. thewy took the time to sit and write reasoned pposts to this girl and genuinely want to know what happened, see if their advice WAS listened to in whole or in part.

Secondly, for every one person that responds there is at least one who read the thread but never posts. Let's assume for a moment that this is post #186 so therefore at least 186 people have read this but not posted in it. out of those 186 people, one or more will be going through the same or a similar predicament and Glasgows resolution may well help them decide their own course.

there are a lot of young inexperienced people out there, and sometimes someone elses plight offers a solution to their own.

For a protector, you strike me as more of a guard dog. loose the aggression. we have all tried to offer our honest opinions and advice here out of the kindness of our hearts. Personally speaking I for one would like to know that she has made the SAFE decision for her. (that doesn't necessarily mean the right one). In my own post I was very careful not to resort to personal attacks but lay things out in such a way that maybe she would see things from a different perspective.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 5:20:32 PM

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FR:

From the OP's profile, she is no longer under consideration. Or at least removed that part. As did the guy whom she was under consideration of.

That's probably enough of an answer to the big question right there. It wouldn't be the first time that someone told someone else what they wanted to hear that first week to get what they wanted and the chick in the story actually believed it.

I'm actually good with no update. Does anybody really want to read another 'Master and I played and now he won't answer emails' thread?

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 8:07:06 PM

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So... anyone recall how I said I told my mom about how I was into bdsm? And that the 27 year old guy I was hanging out with was from a bdsm site?

Yeah. Not going over so well.

She and my father are having lots of very long talks, and it looks like it's going to boil down to either an 'us or him' situation (For the record, my father does not know about the kink factor).

I believe that they (or rather, she) doesn't care so much about the kinktastic aspects, but just that they 100% do not want me with someone 9 years older than I. So I am in desperate need of a few wise comments. Jeffff, you can post too anyway.

So here are some l33t pros and cons:

Pros (of moving out):

I am ready to move out. I'm actually a little tired of my house, which I have been living in my entire life. Also, no curfew!

The Dom I'm talking to will let me move in with him, rent-free. He also lives alone in a very nice house in a good neighborhood.

Being the magnificent age of 18, I'm tired of my parents telling me what to do because I know best, dammit! and I want to spread my wings, as it were.

If it didn't work out with him, my parents would let me move in (as long as we weren't together anymore).

I really like this guy--- quite a bit. We've hit it off very well.
Cons (of moving out):

I have no job (naturally, this would be helped some if I tried to get one :/)

I just started at my community college, and would have to drop out if he doesn't want to pay for it (or, again, if I can't get a job).

Ready for the one I'm sure you all will have the biggest problem with? ...I've only known him for about a week.

And if I stayed home... I wouldn't be able to see him anymore, and would probably have to suppress the life I want to live for several years until I finish a 4-year university and become financially independent.

YOU ARE A baby. Get an education...however that can happen.
You will still be young when you finish your education.
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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 8:09:56 PM

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LOL I hope she keeps posting because she's really funny, not because I think we have some sage wisdom to impart. The girl is not stupid, she will figure it out even if she makes mistakes. We all make mistakes, it's called learning and life.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 8:45:39 PM

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i hope Glasgow posts again as well (in general, not this thread specifically). This whole thing really got really silly and out of hand. We've all made mistakes growing up - both online and off.

i've thought Glasgow is quite wise and witty for her age more than once. So much so that several times i've wondered if she was someone older pretending to be 18.

Whether she decides to share what happened or not, i really don't care. i for one welcome her back to the boards either way - and i hope she's reading this.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 8:55:01 PM

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i hope Glasgow posts again as well (in general, not this thread specifically). This whole thing really got really silly and out of hand. We've all made mistakes growing up - both online and off.

i've thought Glasgow is quite wise and witty for her age more than once. So much so that several times i've wondered if she was someone older pretending to be 18.

Whether she decides to share what happened or not, i really don't care. i for one welcome her back to the boards either way - and i hope she's reading this.

I agree with the pretty raven.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/15/2010 10:00:38 PM

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*agrees with DarkSexy*

OP, I think you're a very capable, smart young woman who has a lot to contribute to these forums. Your point of view and your opinions matter to me- and to your loved ones as well, I'm sure. I'm very curious to know your thoughts, because you are unique and I can't guess them. So I want to hear them from the expert- YOU!

Go forth into the world and make grand, fabulous mistakes and have FUN exploring!

Just try not to piss off your parents too much, while you're having a GREAT time learning and growing. It seems like they really care very deeply about you. Its not easy to find a balance between wanting to protect your brand-new baby grown-up- and knowing that if you try too hard to protect her, paradoxically you could end up doing more harm than good. Try to turn your heart toward them right now. None of you are perfect- but you just might be perfect... for each other.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 5:53:11 AM

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LOL I hope she keeps posting because she's really funny, not because I think we have some sage wisdom to impart. The girl is not stupid, she will figure it out even if she makes mistakes. We all make mistakes, it's called learning and life.

LOL is right, laurell. My post came off rather condecending after I re read it. That wasn't my intent. I meant it in a nice way. Hoping she still posts. Hoping that this thread didn't scare her off. The last two paragraphs were meant to be specific to this thread and threads she may ask for advice in. But it was worded poorly and sounds like I am telling her we know better than her.
Bad posting on my part.
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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 7:56:32 PM

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*sigh*

Alright guys. If you really want to know what happened, my parents put their foot down and I realized that it just wouldn't be possible for me to live away from home right now.

Thanks again for everyone posting. I won't be going back to read the entire thread again, but if you really want to know something send me a message.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 7:58:31 PM

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i hope Glasgow posts again as well (in general, not this thread specifically). This whole thing really got really silly and out of hand. We've all made mistakes growing up - both online and off.

i've thought Glasgow is quite wise and witty for her age more than once. So much so that several times i've wondered if she was someone older pretending to be 18.

Whether she decides to share what happened or not, i really don't care. i for one welcome her back to the boards either way - and i hope she's reading this.

Goodness, now I'm glad I'm not going to read it. It sounds like some silly heads were trying to confuse me

I am indeed 18. But I was homeschooled for a while (which I guess makes you smarter?) and my dad is a member of MENSA, so I guess I'm just a hereditary smart-ass xD

I took a break from CM for a few days, but I'm glad to be back :)

If anyone is curious, the dom and I ended on good terms, and we still talk.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 8:10:10 PM

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Seriously, do you know how many girls go missing in Ca. every day? Every year? Human trafficking is a huge biz, and you're fooling yourself if you think they don't troll this site looking for naive teens - how many young girls do you see that post a few time, looking for a dom, ready to go all gonzo, then just disappear? Profiles deleted, never to be heard from again?

You really only need to read this post: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3256489/mpage_6/tm.htm# - she got lucky.

Unless the guy is a total lamer, like me, he probably eats a dozen girls like this for breakfast.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 8:11:54 PM

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Glad to hear it, but seriously, don't fuck around, telling your parents was not at all a bad idea, they do have your best interests at heart, unlike a lot of other people you'll end up meeting.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 9:27:27 PM

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I'm glad things turned out about as well as possible under the circumstances and you don't seem to be taking it too badly. The sister of a friend was in a similar situation, it was a same sex relationship with no age difference but other than that same sort of thing. We tried to convince her to just wait until college when she'd be able to do whatever she wanted relationship-wise without repercussions. She didn't, long story short it was about a decade before she managed to go to college and was on speaking term with her parents again.

So I was worried when I read your initial post and glad for you that things turned out the way they did. Hopefully it will help to remember that you'll be in college soon free to make your own decisions and hopefully there will be a local BDSM group and plenty of other opportunities to meet someone.

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RE: My parents do not approve, and might kick me out - 6/16/2010 9:42:00 PM

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Fuck. My money was leaning heavily towards that they killed her folks and were on the lam.

No one cares about protocol anymore.

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