• I am ready to move out. I'm actually a little tired of my house, which I have been living in my entire life. Also, no curfew!
• The Dom I'm talking to will let me move in with him, rent-free. He also lives alone in a very nice house in a good neighborhood.
• Being the magnificent age of 18, I'm tired of my parents telling me what to do because I know best, dammit! and I want to spread my wings, as it were.
• If it didn't work out with him, my parents would let me move in (as long as we weren't together anymore).
• I really like this guy--- quite a bit. We've hit it off very well.

• I have no job (naturally, this would be helped some if I tried to get one :/)
• I just started at my community college, and would have to drop out if he doesn't want to pay for it (or, again, if I can't get a job).
• Ready for the one I'm sure you all will have the biggest problem with? ...I've only known him for about a week.

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

So... anyone recall how I said I told my mom about how I was into bdsm? And that the 27 year old guy I was hanging out with was from a bdsm site?

Yeah. Not going over so well.

She and my father are having lots of very long talks, and it looks like it's going to boil down to either an 'us or him' situation (For the record, my father does not know about the kink factor).

I believe that they (or rather, she) doesn't care so much about the kinktastic aspects, but just that they 100% do not want me with someone 9 years older than I. So I am in desperate need of a few wise comments. Jeffff, you can post too anyway.

So here are some l33t pros and cons:

Pros (of moving out):

• I am ready to move out. I'm actually a little tired of my house, which I have been living in my entire life. Also, no curfew!
• The Dom I'm talking to will let me move in with him, rent-free. He also lives alone in a very nice house in a good neighborhood.
• Being the magnificent age of 18, I'm tired of my parents telling me what to do because I know best, dammit! and I want to spread my wings, as it were.
• If it didn't work out with him, my parents would let me move in (as long as we weren't together anymore).
• I really like this guy--- quite a bit. We've hit it off very well.

Cons (of moving out):

• I have no job (naturally, this would be helped some if I tried to get one :/)
• I just started at my community college, and would have to drop out if he doesn't want to pay for it (or, again, if I can't get a job).
• Ready for the one I'm sure you all will have the biggest problem with? ...I've only known him for about a week.

And if I stayed home... I wouldn't be able to see him anymore, and would probably have to suppress the life I want to live for several years until I finish a 4-year university and become financially independent.

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ORIGINAL: DameBruschetta

Jumping off the deep end may accomplish nothing but shooting yourself in the foot in more ways then one. Think before you leap.  Find a good solid job or focus on your education, don't throw good options away just for some dude you barely know.  Relationships come and go, school, family, jobs... sometimes those chances don't come back when you'd like them too.

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ORIGINAL: ThatDaveGuy69

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ORIGINAL: DameBruschetta

Jumping off the deep end may accomplish nothing but shooting yourself in the foot in more ways then one. Think before you leap.  Find a good solid job or focus on your education, don't throw good options away just for some dude you barely know.  Relationships come and go, school, family, jobs... sometimes those chances don't come back when you'd like them too.

WOW! You can really mix those metaphors!

~Dave

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

Independence is a great thing, but it means very little without income. I don't know what it's like where you are right now, but the 18-20 year olds without higher education here cannot get jobs. The laid off skilled work force is taking the jobs typically held by them. I would really investigate whether you would have any ability to support yourself before you jump. It seems like not having someone to tell you what to do is a great thing, but I have to tell you it's not all that easy to support yourself and deal with life's problems every day.

Also check into what it takes for you to be considered independent for financial aid for school. If your parents are still claiming you as a tax deduction you may not qualify, but you might be able to get in a work program to pay for school and experience and work your way towards that independence that you desire. There are many programs out there, the majority of them DO look at income though and your parents income may be considered, you need to investigate them so you really know what your options are.

Set 10 year goals for yourself independent of ANY guy or even your parents and do what it takes to put those in motion. The guy is not the issue in my opinion, you've known him a week and you would be completely dependent upon him, that's not even a good situation with someone you've known much longer. What do you want for yourself and how are you going to get it? That's the question you should be asking yourself. Men may not be in your life forever, you will.

You can do whatever you want, but I would suggest that you should really know what your options and limitations are before you decide.

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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

One question. Why in the hell would you want to move in with a guy you've only known for "about a week" ?

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow
Because I'm young, stupid, and tired of living at home.