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ORIGINAL: laurell3

The truth is you all love drama. She's not obligated to post here to tell us anything. Give it a rest. She's 18 and feeling out what life is really like, you all made mistakes at 18 too, stop pointing fingers.

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ORIGINAL: maybemaybenot

subtee:

While I understand where you are coming from, the OP has three threads on this one week old relationship, including one where she willingly shares all the " gory details ". Of course those were good gorey details. So, yeah, I don't think it is too much or trying to inflict trauma on her to ask for the upsot of the resolution.

I am personally hoping this 27 y/o man has the good sense and good character to tell her she needs to get an education and to not jump " full steam ahead " into something she knows little to nothing about. And that he continues to be there to support her. Since she is quite taken by this man, it may be best coming from him rather than her parents. I would have serious concerns if he was content to be a wedge between her and her family.

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ORIGINAL: subtee

I've posted nothing but logic. Why do you have such an emotional investment? Why do you need her to answer to you?

She was asking for help and she got it. Why isn't that enough for you? Why do you have to have an answer? What does it mean to you?

Many folks have come here for help. And they've gotten it, in large part. When they've been given such good, great advice and have decided to humbly go on from there, what do you get out of continuing to harass her?

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I love your ass!

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ORIGINAL: laurell3




By your post count you're still a bit new here, three pages of bitching at someone to disclose something they may not want to isn't usual or really even appropriate. It's a public forum, people tell us what they choose and not more. Live with it.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


Not surprisingly, you see it as harassment, emotional involvement and any other number of negatives.

However, if you were as open minded and logical you claim to be, you would see there is a lot more to it.

Many times, others have posted with REAL problems, and they have come here for advice, and gotten good, sensible advice from the "peanut gallery" (some of whom actually have a background in counseling and therapy). Sometimes they have come back months later with an "update" of how things turned out, good or bad. It isn't because anyone was "calling them out," trying to "berate them further," or find enjoyment from their suffering.

People like to hear those updates, especially the good ones (which goes against your view of reasoning) so that we can offer them congratulations, and some modicum of emotional support on dealing with what can sometimes be some pretty big fall out from the tough decisions that they made.

Perhaps if you find so many of us here to be such horrible people, you should avoid threads where we post against your beliefs. Because right now, your continual comments here are becoming more amusing than the childish tantrum of the OP.

It's true that the OP may never come back and update us with what happened (although based on previous posts, she is quite the attention seeker). But the reality is that the next time she posts with one of her childish issues, she isn't likely to get much advice.

Most people around here are more than happy to try to help. However, when someone shows that they are never going to listen to what is usually common sense, they make themselves the butt of the joke, not the people who answer. You might do well to learn that lesson.

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

Are you guys fucking kidding me?

Are you really doing this?

Are you Cyber Coddling?

Are you Text Wiping this girls ass?

When the fuck did Collar Me become a place where any one of you give a fuck?

I mean so far the people who are dropping some serious LOVE on this individual have said some of the most vile shit this web site has ever seen.

Now some young dumb and full of cum walking poster girl for a chastity belt walks on and opens up her life to serious scrutiny on a public forum and you are trying to defend her? Are you fucking kidding me?

Lets be honest, she does not have to come back here and tell us anything but the legacy she left is that if you are 18 you are wired to be a moron and showing that she could not take the licks for her own stupidity does nothing but further the idea that YOUNG = RETARDED.

All those trying to sing Kumbya for this girl need to be explaining to her how if she really wants to show maturity or at very least Mental Capasity she should come here and tell the REAL STORY, you know how things work in the REAL world.

There is no Chateau
There is no Prince
There is no soft chains
There is no whip kisses

This is Life, not just a Fabio cover Bodice ripper novel that ends with the girl in rapture holding the chains at her breasts.

There is 23 more hours in the day and some of them are ugly.

Some of them are people saying, "No, I'm not going to let you move into my house after knowing you for a week when you don;t have a job and really have no desire to get one, no your slave like behavior is not worth me taking on a second job to support you, no what we have isn't strong enough to move this quickly this soon."

And if that isn't what happened, if what we said got through that thick skull (Cause god knows it never would have gotten thought mine at 18) maybe she needs to talk about actual responsibility and actually not being able to have a cake and eat it too.

but the last thing she needs, the last thing ANYONE in an adult lifestyle needs is someone wiping a scraped knee especially when it is stupidity that caused it.

My two bits and a lolly.

QSM

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ORIGINAL: missrairai


Besides, why give up what you have for something we all know won't last?