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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

The issue is resolved now, guys. Thanks for all your help :)

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ORIGINAL: Ishtarr

 
Okay...

Speaking from nothing but personal experience here...

I "moved out" of my parent's when I was 14 years old.
Moving out in this context meaning: running away from home and basically temporarily moving in with just about any guy that would offer me a bed for the night.
Sometimes, in a bad period, I "moved back in" with my parents, only to take off again a few days/weeks later.

I've done a lot of weird shit in the past decade since I first ran away.
I've been treated like a queen, a whore, a lady and a piece of filth in those years while I was "claiming my independence and spreading my wings".
I've slept in luxury hotels, shitty apartments, basement, parks, abandoned houses, cars, upper class villas, and in the rain on the street.
I dropped out of high school, have been broke, have not had to worry about money at all, worked shitty low paying jobs, worked fabulous well paying jobs, fell in love, fell out of love, been raped, made love on a moonlit beach in France, made stupid mistakes, made one in a million right decisions, been through hell, flown in heaven, got my GED and am currently going to college.

After all has been said and done...
It turned out good.... FOR ME.
I don't really regret much of what I've done, or much of what I haven't done.
I'm in a place right now where I have few regrets, and no trouble looking at myself in the mirror.
I'm working towards a successful, stable, secure future, and have little worries of what tomorrow will bring.

If I could do it all again... I would, and there is very little I would do differently.
However, it's almost a miracle that I've turned out the way I have.
Most people I've spend time with during that phase in my life didn't turn out this well at all.
In fact, a lot of them are death, depressed, a $$$$$ in debt, in jail, or laying addicted in a gutter somewhere.

I came out of that phase a stronger, more confident, more experienced, more in control, more mature person.
I could have just as easily been death by now.

So what advise do I have for you?
If you are absolutely sure that you can handle the consequences... go chase your own tail until you find what you are looking for, but if you do, make sure you're able to do it without regrets.
If you have even the least bit of doubt about the future (which you seem to have, or you wouldn't ask a bunch of strangers online about this) then be a good girl and stay with your parents, and do as you're told.
You're young, you're not in a hurry, there will be plenty of time to spread your wings once you're ready to do so.

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

The issue is resolved now, guys. Thanks for all your help :)

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

The issue is resolved now, guys. Thanks for all your help :)

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

The issue is resolved now, guys. Thanks for all your help :)

You open up the window on your life and now that it's getting good and everyone's got their popcorn out you close the shades?

WTF???

Seriously, what happened? Did he Freak out and go "OH MY FUCKING GOD WHAT DID I GET MYSELF INTO?????!?!?!?!?!?!?!"

Cause that's what my money is on, you made it clear that you had already decided that as a big girl you were going to do the most stupid thing you could think of, so did he just pull the plug?

Inquiring Minds want to know.

QSM

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

The issue is resolved now, guys. Thanks for all your help :)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: Ishtarr


Okay...

Speaking from nothing but personal experience here...

I "moved out" of my parent's when I was 14 years old.
Moving out in this context meaning: running away from home and basically temporarily moving in with just about any guy that would offer me a bed for the night.
Sometimes, in a bad period, I "moved back in" with my parents, only to take off again a few days/weeks later.

I've done a lot of weird shit in the past decade since I first ran away.
I've been treated like a queen, a whore, a lady and a piece of filth in those years while I was "claiming my independence and spreading my wings".
I've slept in luxury hotels, shitty apartments, basement, parks, abandoned houses, cars, upper class villas, and in the rain on the street.
I dropped out of high school, have been broke, have not had to worry about money at all, worked shitty low paying jobs, worked fabulous well paying jobs, fell in love, fell out of love, been raped, made love on a moonlit beach in France, made stupid mistakes, made one in a million right decisions, been through hell, flown in heaven, got my GED and am currently going to college.

After all has been said and done...
It turned out good.... FOR ME.
I don't really regret much of what I've done, or much of what I haven't done.
I'm in a place right now where I have few regrets, and no trouble looking at myself in the mirror.
I'm working towards a successful, stable, secure future, and have little worries of what tomorrow will bring.

If I could do it all again... I would, and there is very little I would do differently.
However, it's almost a miracle that I've turned out the way I have.
Most people I've spend time with during that phase in my life didn't turn out this well at all.
In fact, a lot of them are death, depressed, a $$$$$ in debt, in jail, or laying addicted in a gutter somewhere.

I came out of that phase a stronger, more confident, more experienced, more in control, more mature person.
I could have just as easily been death by now.

So what advise do I have for you?
If you are absolutely sure that you can handle the consequences... go chase your own tail until you find what you are looking for, but if you do, make sure you're able to do it without regrets.
If you have even the least bit of doubt about the future (which you seem to have, or you wouldn't ask a bunch of strangers online about this) then be a good girl and stay with your parents, and do as you're told.
You're young, you're not in a hurry, there will be plenty of time to spread your wings once you're ready to do so.

Some of the dumbest fucking advice that I have ever read.

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ORIGINAL: subtee



Seriously. Enough.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


Seriously. Someone comes here and asks a question. People take time to answer the question. Whether YOU like how we answered it or not doesn't really count. Then for her to come back and say "problem solved. Thanks," without saying HOW it was resolved is annoying.

It would seem and make the more intelligent among us assume that we were all right and in her 18 year old "I know everything" state, she was too embarassed to tell.

But how nice that she now has you has her protector.

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ORIGINAL: subtee

Seriously this is nothing to do with the OP and everything to do with being ugly.

Ask yourself, what would make you feel good about this? If she was wrong? If she had to admit it? If she decided to move in with him anyway?

Which is important enough to keep this going?

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

  Hopefully this will teach her not to start drama if she isn't also prepared to post the results.
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ORIGINAL: Nineveh

I wanna know how it turned out cause it is like watching a soap opera and then having it interrupted in the middle for some announcement and not seeing the end.

Of course it isn't really the end (especcially if she moved in with him)  but it is still the next development.

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Hopefully this will teach her not to start drama if she isn't also prepared to post the results.

And what will this teach you and me about drama, Zeph? We deserve it???