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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/15/2010 1:03:01 PM   
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I've always found Robert Axelrod's theories around altruism to be very interesting.
He basically suggest that altruism, and heroism, especially in males is like a peacock's tail.
Despite what some people may think... notably people who are very fascinated with the topic of human sexuality (eg, everyone on collarme), not all male behaviors have to do with getting some pussy. I note that women in particular on collarme like to get all fascinated with the power of their pussies. But saying "men like to fuck" does not describe the human condition any more than saying "The space shuttle contains wire" describes the space shuttle.

A more thoughtful inspection of behavior... both animal and human... suggests that there are various portions of the brain, each in charge of a separate base drive. The more complex the brain in question, the higher the number of such base drives there will be along with a corresponding increase of complexity of the interplay between them. The actual observable behavior is the sum total balancing act of all those competing drives.

Sure sure, at some base level it all comes down to sex. But why stop there? Why not say it's really all about the plank constant or the big bang? It is possible to become too basic when studying something and so to be technically correct yet miss the point.

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/15/2010 1:09:20 PM   
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Despite what some people may think... notably people who are very fascinated with the topic of human sexuality (eg, everyone on collarme), not all male behaviors have to do with getting some pussy. I note that women in particular on collarme like to get all fascinated with the power of their pussies. But saying "men like to fuck" does not describe the human condition any more than saying "The space shuttle contains wire" describes the space shuttle.

A more thoughtful inspection of behavior... both animal and human... suggests that there are various portions of the brain, each in charge of a separate base drive. The more complex the brain in question, the higher the number of such base drives there will be along with a corresponding increase of complexity of the interplay between them. The actual observable behavior is the sum total balancing act of all those competing drives.

Sure sure, at some base level it all comes down to sex. But why stop there? Why not say it's really all about the plank constant or the big bang? It is possible to become too basic when studying something and so to be technically correct yet miss the point.


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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 8:29:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		One of my former housemates grabbed the fire extinguisher and ran next door, and successfully put out a kitchen fire. I seriously doubt there was a conscious "maybe some chick will think this is hot and I'll get laid," he just responded. Two guys who were both bigger than I am were abusing an animal, and I attacked them in order to get them to stop. I didn't think it through, I was just overwhelmed by adrenaline and emotion, to the point where my sense of self-preservation just didn't come into play. I've heard of many reports of "hysterical strength" where someone was able to lift something that they never could have from a cold start, when a child or someone they loved was at risk. It's not altruism, it's not carefully considered, it's pure reaction.

People do altruistic things such as give money to charity (in exchange for tax benefits), and a lot of people enjoy doing nice things for others, especially people they care about. Those things don't spark such strong emotions, so they do tend to be more considered. Even then, the person doing them probably doesn't think through exactly what benefits they might derive, it's more "well, it doesn't harm me at all, it's not a big deal, and <other person> will be happy."

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 11:33:37 AM   
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Who stops to count orgasms? Do you have a clicker by the bed?


I do. Seriously.

Myths abound about TPE. One of my favorites involves the supposed pillow princess mindset. Because a girl can't possibly enjoy that sort of thing and be a slave. I sincerely believe that some practitioners strip the humanity from their person when dancing on either side. Men that emote are odd. Women that enjoy certain treatment are high maintenance. I'm baffled by both in all truth.

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 3:26:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

One of my former housemates grabbed the fire extinguisher and ran next door, and successfully put out a kitchen fire. I seriously doubt there was a conscious "maybe some chick will think this is hot and I'll get laid," he just responded. Two guys who were both bigger than I am were abusing an animal, and I attacked them in order to get them to stop. I didn't think it through, I was just overwhelmed by adrenaline and emotion, to the point where my sense of self-preservation just didn't come into play. I've heard of many reports of "hysterical strength" where someone was able to lift something that they never could have from a cold start, when a child or someone they loved was at risk. It's not altruism, it's not carefully considered, it's pure reaction.



I both like and agree with this. This also tends to describe both Neets and I. It also describes why I and many others will "Draw a line in the sand" and defend it. Not for glory (precious little of that about), not to be seen and get a reputation which may get you laid, but it is doing what you believe to be right. Just a matter of old fashion honour no more and no less.


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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 3:47:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		In our TPE there is one hard limit. It's a mutual hard limit. No fucking or connecting with another person in a sexual manner at all.

As for scat...I've had my tongue so far up his ass I think I tickled his tonsils.

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 3:50:27 PM   
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Who stops to count orgasms? Do you have a clicker by the bed?




It's easy, you start at one and then...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/16/2010 9:38:02 PM   
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Best not ever risk an orgasm then.


What you said is a HORRIBLE relativization.

Yes you can die from orgasm. But you can die from ANYTHING.

There are extremely dangerous things and orgasm is not one of them.

For some activities chances to die are 100%, for some others 50%, for some just 5% and finally for some things chances to die are less than
0,00001 % - Orgasm is one of them.

I had at least 3000 orgasms in my life and probably over 6000. Not only I am alive and well, but I never felt bad or ill in any way from having an orgasm.


For various species, the male counterpart will literally die after consummation.

I suppose there are worse ways to go.

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/17/2010 3:01:42 PM   
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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/17/2010 6:13:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Silence, neither of you is a praying mantis, so you shouldn't have to worry about getting your head chomped off in the middle of things.

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RE: Do hard limits exist in TPE ? - 6/17/2010 9:06:10 PM   
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Silence, neither of you is a praying mantis, so you shouldn't have to worry about getting your head chomped off in the middle of things.


I don't know about that... the upper vagina has teeth.

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