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RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? - 6/24/2010 11:27:04 AM

ThatDamnedPanda

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Hi, LP. Some good questions. This may be a pretty interesting thread by the time it's run its course. I'll take a shot at it myself here, while it's still fresh.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Sub males, what are you actively doing to meet a Dominant woman? Is your profile filled out?

I'm not doing very much at all at the moment. I've got profiles on a couple of other sites, but I pulled my Collarme profile a long time ago. I won't have an active profile on CM again. There are a couple of other sites that I feel more comfortable and in synch with, and I will maintain active profiles there for the indefinite future.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Do you attempt to make contacts?

Rarely. Maybe once or - at most - twice a year. I'll send occasional e-mails out to people telling them how much I like their profile or their posts, but I very seldom make serious contact with them. Most profiles look pretty much the same to me, and it's extremely rare that I see one that makes me sit up and say, "Wow! Who is that?" And I'm not interested in anything less than "wow," because a life without "wow" isn't worth settling for.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Do you go to your local munch or attend events?

Sure. But mostly just to keep in touch with old friends and feel "connected" with the pulse of the local community. I really don't go with the goal of meeting a partner, because 90% of the people are the same ones I've been meeting for the last 15 years. Many of them are wonderful people, and I've made some priceless freindships. Many of the women are attractive, or even very attractive, but I'm not attracted to them. Close-knit groups tend to take on a community personality, and there's nothing about our local community's group personality that I really identify with very closely. Which means that I don't "click" very hard with most of the individual members of the group, either.

I mostly go to make and maintain friendships, and because, well... you never know. It's always possible. You can't win the lottery unless you buy a ticket every now and then.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Are you being pro-active in your goal of meeting a Dominant woman?

I suppose so, to the extent that I do have profiles up, and am always looking for that one unique profile that makes me sit up straight and stop breathing. But it's not something in which I'm willing to invest a lot of time or energy at this point of my life. I've got other things in my life that are more important and deliver more return on my investments. I'm quite comfortable with the amount of time and energy I invest in that area of endeavour at this time.

< Message edited by ThatDamnedPanda -- 6/24/2010 11:28:18 AM >

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RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? - 6/24/2010 2:58:19 PM

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Wow.

*applause*

A Perspective unique.

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RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? - 6/24/2010 2:59:47 PM

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Yes very true Ladypack, and one should do from time to time. While I was driving to the gathering a 100 things went through my head and it was a big move on my part. But it shows the difference with online and real. Just ordering food at our table was something I could not hold back laughing.

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RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? - 6/25/2010 12:56:53 AM

submissivemale22

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good post pact. i agree that most guys wait for a domme to fall into their lap (myself included) when the ratio dictates that they must be the proactive party.

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RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? - 7/3/2010 4:44:41 PM

usefulidiot

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Sub males, what are you actively doing to meet a Dominant woman? Is your profile filled out?

Yep, i filled my profile out. No, i'm not going to put my whole life in it. I may put a photo in it eventually. 18 users viewed my full profile since 11/12/08.

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Do you attempt to make contacts?

I did. Here and on other sites. Its tiresome to put some thoughtful note together just to see it deleted unread. Many femdom profiles make it quite clear that they wont settle for less than the extraordinary. Many look for 24/7 or lifestyle. Some look for 2nd, 3rd, .. slaves.

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Do you go to your local munch or attend events?

I went to the munch about 3 times. The ~20-30 people were generally friendly. Distribution between males and females was about even. 80% looked like couples. 80% of the 'single' females were professionals.

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Are you being pro-active in your goal of meeting a Dominant woman?

Not very much. The odds are against putting too much time and effort into it. If someone comes along its fine, but i certainly won't 'do everything i can' just to make contact. I won't die from living without a mistress ;)

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