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Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 3:59:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Alright. I've had this argument a few times now, and I can't quite get over it.

I say that obtaining a prenup is a good idea in any marriage, because going through a divorce is a stressful enough process without arguing (and by arguing, I probably mean suing) over who gets what.

My family (who, incidentally, is very religious) says that getting a prenup means you expect your marriage will fail, so you should not get one at all. They also argue that unless you are very wealthy, getting a prenup is pointless.

What are your opinions on this?


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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 4:02:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Having been through one divorce I would never marry again without a pre-nup.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 4:39:54 PM   
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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 5:54:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		the title is a false dichotomy. It is a good idea BECAUSE it anticipates failure.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 5:56:39 PM   
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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 6:00:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 6:13:45 PM   
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Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.


No?

Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are.



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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 6:41:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children.  I would not consider marriage without a prenup,

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 7:25:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess it depends on what is being brought in to the marriage. Two people who come together with pretty much nothing are going to have a hard time figuring out how to divvy it up.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 8:40:18 PM   
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Having been through one divorce I would never marry again without a pre-nup.


Having been through two divorces I would never marry again....

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 8:44:20 PM   
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If you are both young, starting out together, making a life together, well it would be fair to split assets equally in the event of a divorce.... if that is not the case, think about one, but prenups are not set in stone anyways

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 10:24:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I personally wouldn't have one because I stayed single for many many many years because I wanted to be sure of the man I wanted to be with, a man I could trust completely and would do so with every fiber of my being.

Besides what's he going to take? half of nothing? LOL

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 11:42:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		My opinion is find out or learn what your prenup (divorce law) agreement is where you live in your state and if you guys like it, use it; but if either of you have a problem with the divorce laws in your state write your own agreement. Each of you will need to get a lawyer (you each need your own lawyer for the prenup to be valid or more concrete so no one can break it later) otherwise someone can say I didn’t have a lawyer and didn’t know my rights, which may be a reason for a judge to intervene and break the prenup.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 11:44:14 PM   
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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/21/2010 11:47:17 PM   
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Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.


No?

Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are.





False.

when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything.  we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split.


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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/22/2010 12:02:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaserKitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.


No?

Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are.





False.

when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything.  we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split.




Ditto.... this was my experience.....

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/22/2010 1:21:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: LaserKitty

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Unless you are very wealthy, you have children from a previous marriage, or there is a large disparity in the income levels of those involved, prenups are not necessary.


No?

Check divorce records and you will find there is always a battle over assets, no matter how meager those assets are.





False.

when I got divorced, there was NO battle over anything.  we agreed that we were ill-suited, and that we would leave the marriage with what we had come into it with. .All else was to be sold/divided equitably, proceeds split.




Ditto.... this was my experience.....


I'll add myself to that line.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/22/2010 1:24:52 AM   
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Alright. I've had this argument a few times now, and I can't quite get over it.

I say that obtaining a prenup is a good idea in any marriage, because going through a divorce is a stressful enough process without arguing (and by arguing, I probably mean suing) over who gets what.

My family (who, incidentally, is very religious) says that getting a prenup means you expect your marriage will fail, so you should not get one at all. They also argue that unless you are very wealthy, getting a prenup is pointless.

What are your opinions on this?



It really does depend on the people and what they have before entering the marriage.  I do not see the point of one if everything is earnt equally.  I don't believe that wealth is a factor though because something does not have to cost much to be of value.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/22/2010 3:05:54 AM   
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It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children.  I would not consider marriage without a prenup,


Ditto.

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RE: Prenuptials - Anticipating failure or good idea? - 6/22/2010 3:31:17 AM   
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It is a good idea, especially if you have assets and want to safeguard your assets for yourself and/or children.  I would not consider marriage without a prenup,


Ditto.


When you say this are you being specific?  What I mean is are you talking about children concieved during the marriage, or those that are already there? Or both?

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