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What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 8:52:42 AM   
Proprietrix


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Status: offline 		This question goes out to both subs and slaves, both male and female.
In regards to beginning a new relationship, how do you (or would you) feel if you Domme gave you a daily checklist?

To elaborate: I type up a little chart that in one column has a list like "check mail, brew coffee, boot computer, call when you get to work, stop by store for dinner items, etc....", then there's a little column for subbie to put a checkmark, and then a little column for me to put a smiley face or cute little sticker.

I've gotten some rather odd (and definitely unexpected) responses to this. Some have said I'm being anal retentive. Some have said I don't "trust them to remember their duties as a sub". Some have even said that a checklist is like keeping the lifestyle in a fantasy realm.

As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:00:18 AM   
mnottertail


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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:05:37 AM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		The check list  may be a form of  humilation for the slave .Meaning you have no occurance that they can accomplish their task with out your involvement ..ie "the list" . To some it may be to controlling . Meaning even when you are not there , in asense you are in total control of their existence..In a sense their mind  must be on you at all times...

I had suggestedto a dom once that she try making her slaves more competive for her attention by creating a chart on the wall to grade their performance. Much like in elementary, different colored stars for their perforamnce that day or week. What the slaves or subs that came to her  didn't realize was that they were the only one she had at the time .But according to the chart, he was competting with other subs for the highest star. After a while , the Mistress would grade her slave a level below her best made up slave star level, that the real slave started to go beyond his limits  to reach the higher star level...

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:08:00 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		i can see the value of it, however, one has to ask themselves if they are that poor at being a submissive to not know what the Dom expect daily?
 
HOWEVER, i can see it from a submissive's view that check list would be kinda fun and exciting to the sub....  Just a lot of work for the Dom...

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:13:52 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		no work for me, I am a Dom.  The sub would transcribe it, and at set times we would look at it and determine whether or not I would initialize the line item as acceptable service rendered.  A real good job might get you the ass-whipping of your life, a real bad one might also get you the ass-whipping of your life.......

there is a difference.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:29:08 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

A real good job might get you the ass-whipping of your life, a real bad one might also get you the ass-whipping of your life.......

there is a difference.

Ron


i have never understood this difference.. but i know there are many Masters out there that do this.  it would not work for me as a submissive.  i get my good ass whipping when i am good or do a good job... no other time... but what i am finding in this lifestyle is that what works for O/one may not work for A/another.

As for a check list it would not work for me ... i run O/our small business and i am in charge in that realm.  Master leaves those responsibilites to me.  W/we talk things over since it is "His" business but for the most part it's all me.. with that being said i don't think i could appreciate the value of a check list.. i know what i must do on a daily basis as His submissive.  But again.. if it works for you go for it. 

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:31:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it could be a very useful tool- positive reinforcement, clear understanding of duties and things like that.  To Do lists are quite common.

I know I'll occasionally send out emails to my partners of "OK these things are important to remember for this weekend" but a daily list of things would be too time and response intensive to make it worthwhile.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:53:18 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Far as I am concerned it is a checklist.  Memorized instead of written.  But again, as in the original spirit of my first post, if it feels good do it, if it don't -- it don't.

Ron

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 10:26:33 AM   
tasha_tart


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Status: offline 		I know I wouldn't have a problem following a checklist.  There are days when I need to write one for myself!
 
Even if a sub knows all of the daily duties by heart, the list would be a reminder that the Dom/me is watching, so to speak.
 
Tasha

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 10:51:29 AM   
yourbadgal


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Status: offline 		Like Tasha, I sometimes write a checklist for myself, because sometimes I just spend my days bored in bed, reading silly books.. When I have my list, I know what I can/should do. So I won't be bored.
But Him writing a list for me.. Hmm, I don't know. It'd be no problem for me.. It's just.. A list!

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 11:02:49 AM   
waterdance


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I think it could be a very useful tool- positive reinforcement, clear understanding of duties and things like that.  To Do lists are quite common.

I know I'll occasionally send out emails to my partners of "OK these things are important to remember for this weekend" but a daily list of things would be too time and response intensive to make it worthwhile.


i agree with what you said here LuckyAlbatross. When i lived apart from my Master i had "assignments" or "Important things" to do.  In this instance it was very helpful for me. 

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 11:07:02 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I hate lists but if my Master wrote one for me i would do the tasks he asked of me.  Now if the task had 20 tings on it might be kina hard but i would try to do them all.  I mean i go to school.  His list for me(mental that is) is to be available for him when i am not in school and to do well in school.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 11:46:53 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

", then there's a little column for subbie to put a checkmark, and then a little column for me to put a smiley face or cute little sticker.


As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?



Well Proprietrix, i  would not personally have a problem with such a checklist as it will ensure nothing is forgotten but if a particular sub/slave find's it a problem i think a little discussion regarding some of the item's to be ticked off would sort that out..

PS "absolutely loved" the column for "you" to put a smiley face or cute little sticker in ~chuckle's~..
Much more fun than a gold star..

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 12:08:00 PM   
FLsubmalecd


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Status: offline 		Hi Proprietrix . This one is maybe to simple for me to answer. If my Domme wanted me to use a check list that she made up for me daily, I'd have no problem with that.  If it is her wish to use one to insure I do what she expects and wants of me, then I'm all for it. Besides, I have been known to forget little things way to often. This way at least I'd be able to sit down that night. lol  

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 12:26:03 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Please your Master/Domme............Check!

That's it..........That's the list!

Now, how hard is that to remember?

Peace, Kevin

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 1:05:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a very good memeory and don't need nor like checklists, BUT  in this case if I got to use stickers, I would be more than happy to use it. As long as I could use stickers of my choosing. I could have alot of fun creating my own personalized stickers.
Sure hope he has a sense of humor if this were ever to happen

                         mbmbn


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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 1:23:52 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		But Mabe,

I think this is the point, and I agree with you.  Perhaps I (as the Dom am the forgetful one), thats why the checklist.  A Slave should not feel insecure or lessened because a Dom requires a checklist.... I think that so far, no one has actually expressed that the checklist must be of a certain media, a certain number 2 pencil arranged in alpha-prioritzed order............

I can't get behind this as being anything introspective.

It is just like putting the shit ring down on a toilet seat........(man): Why?  (girl): Because I said so.   (man sets this conversation free in the void).  (woman feels man is not validating her)......... Life goes on.

Ron  

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 1:34:31 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		The older I get, the more I remember that I've forgotten what I used to know. I not only have a daily chores list, but a weekly one and a monthly one as well. It's easy to go down the list, make sure I've done everything that was required of me and I don't have to rely on my own faulty memory to get things done. Things are added to it as required ... for example, today I had to go return the PS2 game that Himself had rented. I knew it was due, but if I had forgotten to return it, that would have incurred additional rental fees so having it on my list ensured it got returned. I run through the list throughout the day and last thing before bed and doing so has saved my butt many a time because it always reminds me to set up the coffee pot for the morning's brew.

As I have been known to forget my own age on occasion, lists help me quite a bit.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 1:54:39 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Master often gives me checklists. I find them extremely helpful and its a nice thing to have as Im working through my day, makes me feel close to him when he is at work, plus helps to keep me focused and yeah..remember things  Like Bita's Master he will also give me long term "to do" lists as well.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 2:50:27 PM   
mixielicous


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Status: offline 		i know for me personally, i cant even remember all the things i need to do for <i>myself</i> in a day. i would be flattered if my Dom made me a checklist because this shows that they care and want me to reach my utmost potential [and most of all, not forget anything and get into trouble!] but thats just me

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