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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

How about the cold war?

Disco?

The draft?

The energy crises?

Jaws?  ET?    Dance Fever?

Little House?

The Brady Bunch?

Mood rings?

Rubics cubes?

LPs?

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I don't care how old or young someone is as long as they have the tools to make a relationship successful and are compatible. Like any stereotype, it's foolish to assume anything based on age other than physiological differences. I know a helll of a lot of really immature 40-50 age range people that many 20 somethings have beat hands down on maturity and relationship skills.

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

-- then there was the Fleetwood Mac Rumours album.


Donna Summer live and more was good.   Music going from the 70s rock into 80s- with a stop off in disco was an interesting time.

this when machine ate 8 track tapes.

STOMP

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ORIGINAL: xXsoumisXx

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

-- then there was the Fleetwood Mac Rumours album.


Donna Summer live and more was good.   Music going from the 70s rock into 80s- with a stop off in disco was an interesting time.

this when machine ate 8 track tapes.

STOMP

HeeHee i never did the 8 track or cassete, remember the tv adds.. $9.99 lp, 12.99 8track or cassette...

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

Julia, I dont see how that is possible.

Telling someone they cant- wont work.   Your son might go for just because he cant have it.  See?

So how would you diffuse any of that?  Other then hinting and suggesting.

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

xX, we are the same age.

I think there are a good many around age 46 on this site.  :-)

Not that - one has to have had every fad ever known- but the general frame of reference- the mood of the society- the hope, dreams, fears, the pop culture- it all adds up.


I drove my sister crazy with cold war movies.  But I recall being afraid of Soviet nukes.  So- it was part of life that place and time.   He age group had not really gone thru the cold war-  (she was born in 74) So the idea -mentality was foreign to her.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

Julia, I dont see how that is possible.

Telling someone they cant- wont work.   Your son might go for just because he cant have it.  See?

So how would you diffuse any of that?  Other then hinting and suggesting.

Are you saying he would do it because I would disapprove? Like to prove a point to me? My son has more maturity than to do something to prove he is an adult. I treat him like an adult, he is an adult...

If he made that choice I would voice my objections, he is an adult and he would do what he wanted to do....

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Wings

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ORIGINAL: xXsoumisXx

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboy

xX, we are the same age.

I think there are a good many around age 46 on this site.  :-)

Not that - one has to have had every fad ever known- but the general frame of reference- the mood of the society- the hope, dreams, fears, the pop culture- it all adds up.


I drove my sister crazy with cold war movies.  But I recall being afraid of Soviet nukes.  So- it was part of life that place and time.   He age group had not really gone thru the cold war-  (she was born in 74) So the idea -mentality was foreign to her.

Ok i have a funny story.. i have a little brother born in 73. One day, i was discussing the very recent death of John Lennon, and how sad i was, cause i had hopes of a reunion.. my brother was listening.. heard me mention Paul McCartney..
he said wow, Paul McCartney? he was in a band before Wings???

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I don't care how old or young someone is as long as they have the tools to make a relationship successful and are compatible. Like any stereotype, it's foolish to assume anything based on age other than physiological differences. I know a helll of a lot of really immature 40-50 age range people that many 20 somethings have beat hands down on maturity and relationship skills.

As someone that is a parent of a very young adult, I would not approve of it if he brought home a 50 year old woman, why? I want him to find someone that there is the possibility of building a life with. My oldest brother married a woman my age when he was 18 and it was a huge mistake for him.

If I offer advice to someone about matters like this, it isn't because I think I know it all, but I do believe that in most cases that level of age difference between a teenager and their significant other is detrimental on average. On average most teenagers do not have the skills to engage in an intimate relationship with someone so much older than themselves, and I think it is wrong to have such a relationship with a teenager. Someone in their mid to late 20s, somewhat different, they are more established into adulthood....

People do what they are going to do, but in my experience with the people I have known that engaged in these relationships, and I have known a few (teenagers marrying people over 40), it did not end well. I have another friend who was a widow at 38 and because she couldn't deal with the death of her hubby that was 35 yrs older than her, they took her kids away.... she melted down. He told me before he died he thought he had made a mistake, he should have let her be and maybe she would have made a life with someone her own age. In some ways he said he felt like he had raised her.


Now perhaps you know of better ending stories, but to ignore the potential for abuse of power, the potential for a young person to invest emotionally in a relationship with no real future, etc etc etc, I do not think it is "judgmental" to advise against it, and I would advise my son against it... but only because I want what is best for him and I love him

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I don't care how old or young someone is as long as they have the tools to make a relationship successful and are compatible. Like any stereotype, it's foolish to assume anything based on age other than physiological differences. I know a helll of a lot of really immature 40-50 age range people that many 20 somethings have beat hands down on maturity and relationship skills.

As someone that is a parent of a very young adult, I would not approve of it if he brought home a 50 year old woman, why? I want him to find someone that there is the possibility of building a life with. My oldest brother married a woman my age when he was 18 and it was a huge mistake for him.

If I offer advice to someone about matters like this, it isn't because I think I know it all, but I do believe that in most cases that level of age difference between a teenager and their significant other is detrimental on average. On average most teenagers do not have the skills to engage in an intimate relationship with someone so much older than themselves, and I think it is wrong to have such a relationship with a teenager.

I have another friend who was a widow at 38 and because she couldn't deal with the death of her hubby that was 35 yrs older than her, they took her kids away.... she melted down. He told me before he died he thought he had made a mistake, he should have let her be and maybe she would have made a life with someone her own age. In some ways he said he felt like he had raised her.

Now perhaps you know of better ending stories, but to ignore the potential for abuse of power, the potential for a young person to invest emotionally in a relationship with no real future, etc etc etc, I do not think it is "judgmental" to advise against it, and I would advise my son against it... but only because I want what is best for him and I love him