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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

Most favourite - violet wand. OMG -take me to heaven and back! I try to hold off from subspace just so I can have a little bit more :)

How effectively can you hold off?

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I need to process the pain - sort of 'go inside' myself and take as much as I can. It's a little like I was taught in tai chi when we were doing meditating. Find the 'golden ball of chi' inside me, focus on it, and then just be at one with it. Works at the dentist too, so I found out! And then this fluffy bunny floats off to the land of clouds and other fluffy bunnies

I thought of you just after I wrote the fluffy bunny line :P

Out of interest, did you learn tai chi before or after you discovered your masochism? If it was after, did it affect how you received/processed pain?

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Now give me the damn cookie!!!!!

*places cookie in cleavage*
Come and get it, Bunny!

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

when I'm being paddled, I push myself into subspace as quick as I can...but with the violet wand I'm fighting as hard as I can to stay out of it! it's not easy...but it can take a good 20 or more minutes of hard sparkin' to get me to lalaland

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It doesn't lessen the pain, but it makes me feel like I've taken a step outside of myself and I'm observing the pain rather than feeling it. Sends my pain threshold through the roof!

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You are such a tart!!!!

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Inspired by this:

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3133558

I could use cheering up-I'm stuck in bed in the bad sort of pain :-(

So I'm taking a leaf out of Akasha's book and trolling for my own gratification :D

She wanted to know about vulnerability. I want to know about pain. Cause I'm nasty like that. My questions to those of you who are or have been on the receiving end in any kind of painplay dynamic:

1) Are you a masochist yourself, or do/did you suffer through it because you've fallen for a sadist and the presence of pain in your dynamic is a consequence of that?

im not a masochist at all. the girl that i play with now happens to love beating me though, and since she is really fucking hot, accepting it as a condition is my only chance of being around her. so, its more than worth it.



3) Are you one of those people who can just float away on top of the pain to a land of clouds and fluffy bunnies, or do you need to actively process the pain? If you need them, what sort of coping strategies have you developed? Do they work?
my "coping" strategy is how lucky i am that this girl allows me to interact with her. she could have any guy she wanted, so if i didn't do everything possible to comply, she would just move on.


4) Do you like to know what (and how much of it) is coming, or do you prefer to just take it as it comes? Does/did your partner take this preference into account?

i prefer not to know. it keeps alive the blissful naivety that it could all end at any second.

5) Your preference: stingy or thuddy? Does/did your partner take this preference into account? If so, do they take it into account in the nice way (you get what they know you like) or the eeeeevil way (you get what they know you hate)?

neither? i guess thuddy though.

6) On a scale of ouch to AAAAAAAAAARGH, rate your partner in terms of evilness.
ouch. she is actually pretty sweet, and if i couldnt take it anymore, she would stop.


Obviously, don't feel you have to answer them aaaaall, but there will be virtual cookies for anyone who does

[EmotionalBlackmail] G'wan, make a miserable girl feel better about her day? Please? [/EmotionalBlackmail]

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

I love pain play full stop. The instant the pain stops (and I really want it to stop), I find myself begging for more within minutes. The withdrawal of such extreme sensation feels so wrong...my body just craves more and more. I have to play with really sensible, sensitive sadists who are happy to say 'no', just to protect me from myself at times!

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And you went and made me blush with your last comment ....

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1) Are you a masochist yourself, or do/did you suffer through it because you've fallen for a sadist and the presence of pain in your dynamic is a consequence of that?

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2) What's your favourite/least favourite form of painplay? Is there one particular toy/instrument/technique that you take one look at and go 'nonononononono' or 'pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease'? (For the purposes of this question let's pretend that a technique is something you can take a look at...)

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3) Are you one of those people who can just float away on top of the pain to a land of clouds and fluffy bunnies, or do you need to actively process the pain? If you need them, what sort of coping strategies have you developed? Do they work?

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4) Do you like to know what (and how much of it) is coming, or do you prefer to just take it as it comes? Does/did your partner take this preference into account?

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5) Your preference: stingy or thuddy? Does/did your partner take this preference into account? If so, do they take it into account in the nice way (you get what they know you like) or the eeeeevil way (you get what they know you hate)?

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6) On a scale of ouch to AAAAAAAAAARGH, rate your partner in terms of evilness.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
Does a slow cool-down have any effect? Does it make any difference to your feelings of withdrawal if the pain finishes abruptly or gradually?

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Oh they all suck. I'd say my least favorite is with a fluffy sadist who doesn't GET why I'm not at all aroused by his nipple pinching or that JUST because you grab my neck isn't going to automatically make me swoon.

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If I'm fighting the pain, then I say fuck you as loud and often as possible.

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I'm not sure how to answer this without sounding arrogant or supremacist, so I'll just say it.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Inspired by this:

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3133558

I could use cheering up-I'm stuck in bed in the bad sort of pain :-(

So I'm taking a leaf out of Akasha's book and trolling for my own gratification :D

She wanted to know about vulnerability. I want to know about pain. Cause I'm nasty like that. My questions to those of you who are or have been on the receiving end in any kind of painplay dynamic:

1) Are you a masochist yourself, or do/did you suffer through it because you've fallen for a sadist and the presence of pain in your dynamic is a consequence of that?

2) What's your favourite/least favourite form of painplay? Is there one particular toy/instrument/technique that you take one look at and go 'nonononononono' or 'pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease'? (For the purposes of this question let's pretend that a technique is something you can take a look at...)

3) Are you one of those people who can just float away on top of the pain to a land of clouds and fluffy bunnies, or do you need to actively process the pain? If you need them, what sort of coping strategies have you developed? Do they work?

4) Do you like to know what (and how much of it) is coming, or do you prefer to just take it as it comes? Does/did your partner take this preference into account?

5) Your preference: stingy or thuddy? Does/did your partner take this preference into account? If so, do they take it into account in the nice way (you get what they know you like) or the eeeeevil way (you get what they know you hate)?

6) On a scale of ouch to AAAAAAAAAARGH, rate your partner in terms of evilness.

Obviously, don't feel you have to answer them aaaaall, but there will be virtual cookies for anyone who does

[EmotionalBlackmail] G'wan, make a miserable girl feel better about her day? Please? [/EmotionalBlackmail]

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

I also need lots and lots of sex too - pain play is the ultimate foreplay!!!

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I do also get 'sub drop' the next day, and my play partner needs to be the sensitive type who understands this and is supportive. It's not hugely dramatic, just a slight depression as my body copes with the after-effects of massive, prolonged endorphin highs. I can go into subspace up to a dozen times over a period of a few hours, and this is obviously going to have an effect on my brain chemistry.

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But then again, I'm an old-fashioned kind of gal! (who appreciates superb bewbage )

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ORIGINAL: SirsJewel

i do better working to a build up to subspace,if He hits me with His bare hand,angry for instance, i can't get my breathing right,so i endure and cry of course~

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6) Master isn't a sadist overall,but when He wants to hurt be it mind/body He will, so i'd say middle ground pain, can be quite evil with the mind~

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ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave

Favorite? Hands-on aggression - I love that direct contact between me and a man. It makes it so much more personal.

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... given that I'm pretty hairy, quite a mess to clean up.

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All up to the man I'm with - his wants, his plans, his playground.

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Now all this thinking is sure making me wish for a sadist right now. I feel like someone on a diet writing "The Complete History Of The Fudge Brownie".

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ORIGINAL: SirsJewel

Yes, i need to get my breathing nice and deep not shallow to subspace. If He asks me responses, i'm toast and i cant, lol.

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Thankyou for the cookie yes please,lol ~ jewels

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ORIGINAL: SirsJewel

meanie

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This made me laugh-I think by your definition I'd be a pretty fluffy sadist...

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And does saying fuck you help?

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I don't think what you wrote sounded at all arrogant or supremacist-as Ron is so fond of saying: it is what it is. Saying that you play hard (I'm not sure if play is the right word for the situation but I can't find a better one) is a statement of fact-it's what you do.