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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 12:36:36 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		I spend quite a bit of time getting to know them before the first date even occurs. I don't have rules as to when and how sex should happen. I find it really odd when other people do.

If they are the type of guy that has that high school chase mentality, I don't think matching their behavior by playing games with them and waiting for that reason only is likely to change the outcome much. If the guy is a jerk, when you have sex with him isn't really going to matter. He's going to be a jerk regardless.

I don't think this is a D/s issue. I think it's a person issue. Wouldn't you rather know sooner if he's that immature?

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:12:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		If she is whimpering I wanna have sex.

If she is wincing I wanna have sex.

If she is crying I wanna have sex.

If she isn't doing any onf those things. I want to make her do those things.......

Then....have sex.

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:13:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

If she is whimpering I wanna have sex.

If she is wincing I wanna have sex.

If she is crying I wanna have sex.

If she isn't doing any onf those things. I want to make her do those things.......

Then....have sex.


You are such a slut. I love that about you.

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:38:41 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

If she is whimpering I wanna have sex.

If she is wincing I wanna have sex.

If she is crying I wanna have sex.

If she isn't doing any onf those things. I want to make her do those things.......

Then....have sex.


*whimpers*

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:42:59 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


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Status: offline 		Okay you two, all this cyber sexing on the boards is getting crazy.

Could you all just get it over with and turn on the web cams and mutually masturbate.

QSM

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:44:45 PM   
laurell3


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get used to it! I plan on it happening for a long, long time.

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:47:04 PM   
Jeffff


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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:55:09 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


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What the fuck do Flip Flops and Mandels have to do with you guys?

Okay guys I will give you my blessing is Jeffff gets a Cock Ring and Laurell3 sends me Gash Shots.

Deal?

QSM

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 1:56:17 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		pssst.....we don't need anyone's blessing....

(you have mail qsm)

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 6/28/2010 2:02:31 PM >

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:05:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		laurell send me som gash !!

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:06:43 PM   
laurell3


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and as much as I adore you divi, I'm going to have to pass on putting it all out there for ya, sorry.

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:09:26 PM   
AQuietSimpleMan


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Status: offline 		Okay, then I forbid this union as it is Unholy.

Until Jeffff Wears the Cock Ring of Power and Laurell3 sends me the Gash Shots of Good this union will be an Abomination.

So I have just written, so shall it be.

QSM

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:27:18 PM   
laurell3


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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:28:52 PM   
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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:30:53 PM   
laurell3


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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 2:31:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

some*

and as much as I adore you divi, I'm going to have to pass on putting it all out there for ya, sorry.

it's all good .. usually never works lol

< Message edited by divi -- 6/28/2010 2:32:02 PM >

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 5:00:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I realize you'd really like to hear male dom thoughts. As Sir doesn't visit CM often, I'm sure he won't mind if I answer for him.

Sex too soon is not necessarily a deal breaker. It depends on many things; the people involved, the connection, what they're seeking.

< Message edited by sblady -- 6/28/2010 5:01:02 PM >

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 5:19:12 PM   
NuevaVida


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But then as a submissive woman, when your deep felt desire is to please him, how can you and why should you even withhold this?


It was not my deep felt desire to please him when we were first getting to know each other.  It was my desire to be wise in my choices, to get to know him, and to not compromise myself in the process.  I had made it clear to both of us, that I wouldn't engage in sex again until I was in a committed relationship.  That was a new commitment to myself, which was important to me.  It had nothing to do with holding out, "withholding" or playing games.  It had everything to do with doing the right thing for myself.

When it was apparent we were each others focus and we were beginning to create something good, I begged him for it.


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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/28/2010 7:28:26 PM   
BentUnit


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Status: offline 		Why play games if the chemistry is there?
Chances are when you finally do have sex you'll be kicking yourself for wasting so much time.

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RE: Is sex too soon a deal breaker.... - 6/29/2010 2:19:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BentUnit

Why play games if the chemistry is there?
Chances are when you finally do have sex you'll be kicking yourself for wasting so much time.



I'm with the Bent one on this.  Sometimes I think that we females can get caught up in overthinking the whole sex thing....will he still respect me in the morning, will he think I am easy, if I make him wait will it make him stick around etc etc etc.  Game playing is over-rated, I vote for trusting your instincts and if you want to have sex and won't regret it then do so.

My own experiences have been that I have waited for a while with some and I have had sex almost immediately with others and it wasn't how soon we had sex that ended the relationships, it was compatibility factors and if I am honest with myself I knew that before I had sex with these people but chose to go ahead anyway (damn me for being such a slut ).

I had sex with the person I am currently seeing on the second date and if anything it has cemented out bond and made him want me even more....cos I am that good ha ha


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