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LadyPact -> Protection (6/28/2010 12:45:32 AM)

No, this is not a collar of protection thread.  (Made ya look.)

It's been a while since we've kicked around the discussion of the tendency that many Dominants seem to have when it comes to the people they care about.  A very common personality trait that they are very protective of the people they love.  I fall into this particular category.  As a sadist, I do enjoy hurting the people that I love, but God flipping forbid if I think something is going to harm them.  My mind changes gears so fast that I don't even realize I've switched modes. 

How common do you think it is for Dominants to have a strong protective streak?  Do you see it in yourself or in the Dominant in your life? 



FelineFae -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 1:21:47 AM)

The desire to protect something means that you value that thing.
i see this in my relationship, and many others. It makes me happy.[:D]



Kana -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 3:44:59 AM)

She is mine. I zealously take care of my stuff. So of course she is protected....mhhhhuuuuuaaawwwww....from everyone but me.



laurell3 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 3:48:51 AM)

I don't know how common it is. I definitely do see it though. Maybe my viewpoint is a bit skewed because I am a masochist, but I do think that's part of my expectations of him, to protect me, sometimes even from myself [;)].



sirsholly -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 3:51:24 AM)

quote:

How common do you think it is for Dominants to have a strong protective streak?
I would say protectiveness (or lack thereof) is not exclusive to an orientation or lifestyle. I am a submissive, LadyP, and the protective feelings i have toward family and friends is massive.





sunshinemiss -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 3:57:35 AM)

Hello Lady Pact,
I can't believe I'm about to say this.... but here goes! I don't think that it is a "dominant" trait whatsoever. I think it is a "person" trait.

I, too, "flip" (great word for it). It's like the world shrinks down to the danger, protecting others / self, and nothing else.

Too many times, women think a man is going to protect them. Men want to protect their women. Leaders want to protect their followers . Parents want to protect their children (or at least the good ones of these categories). Too many times people rely on the man, leader, parent and aren't prepared for the ugly that the world has to offer. I can see it now! "Excuse me, you can't rape/blackmail/beat/kill me just this minute. I need to call my X-person who will kick your butt."

It reminds me of Suzanne Sugarbaker.

I have actually had conversations with big burly men about this. I'm better trained than some of them, and it has become a joke! "If something bad happens, let sunny handle it! She looks like a sweet lady, but I've seen her fight!" Yep. I'll take that fight in 3 minutes or less... or die trying.

*by the way, though, the best fight is no fight. We practice fighting so we never have to fight... we learn to trust our guts.

[sm=boxer.gif]



sunshinemiss -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:00:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

She is mine. I zealously take care of my stuff. So of course she is protected....mhhhhuuuuuaaawwwww....from everyone but me.



Kana -
I respectfully challenge this. Are you with her 24 hours a day? Are you awake and at the ready always? This is the thing I'm talking about. She is *not* protected. She really does go grocery shopping or to the gynecologist or for a walk or on the subway or out for tea with her mom... without you. You can't possibly "take care of (your) stuff" when she will in fact have time away from you.

The best thing is to be prepared!

best,
sunshine



Andoresu -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:01:25 AM)

I'm a dominant and a little sadist, and I also protect every person conected to me from harm. I care for them, and for my dominant pride, I don't want to be "saved" by anyone, so it is me who protects the others.



MissAsylum -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:05:19 AM)

i'm with holly on this one. i am rediculously protective, i just happen to be a dominant. if anybody decides to mess with my pet or any of my loved ones...heads will roll.



Aileen1968 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:13:26 AM)

I don't think it's a dominant/submissive characteristic. I think it's a life thing.

Good thing for me that Jeffffffffffff is very protective....



Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:16:22 AM)

I got Shore the flip flops so you could run away if you ever needed to!



Aileen1968 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:18:48 AM)

Those flips are not that effective. He has reeeealllly long legs and arms and always catches me.
He's built like an orangutan and he's stealth like a manatee.




IronBear -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:19:09 AM)

I am, by nature, protective. I am known to be protective of my home, family, loved ones (including my extended family), property, and those I care for. Obviously I am not with anyone 24/7. Neets goes to work, pops down to the supermarket or the fuel station and I am home doing my things. We go shopping leaving the two dogs home to look after the place. However at home I do have cctv security for the property and good neighbours. When Neets and I are out at night and have to walk to and from the car she and any other women with us always walk a pace or two ahead so I can protect their rear from unwanted surprises. It really is a case of fuck with any of those listed above and you fuck with me. It is personal, very personal.



Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:20:12 AM)

I don't want to speak for Pact but is is possible that because some of us take quite a bit from a partner, we may feel ......more protective?

I'm not sure about that. I am not willing to die for that idea..:)


I could see Aileen stabbing some motherfucker right in the heart if they fucked with Shore...... so maybe not.



Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:22:00 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Those flips are not that effective. He has reeeealllly long legs and arms and always catches me.
He's built like an orangutan and he's stealth like a manatee.


You are so descriptive, that brought a tear to my eye!



Aileen1968 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:24:11 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jefffffffffff

I could see Aileen stabbing some motherfucker right in the heart if they fucked with Shore...... so maybe not.


Oh I most definitely would!!!!
You've all seen him in a thong. Is that not reason enough?



laurell3 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:25:58 AM)

WE HAVE?

oh......damn you Aileen....I thought you were serious....



Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:26:11 AM)

I must have missed that.


I can live with missing that.



Aileen1968 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:26:42 AM)

The men in panties thread!!!!

edited to add....[:)]



Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 4:27:58 AM)

LOL... ok..... yeah.......


SHore might want to cut back on the carbs........just a thought



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