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windchymes -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 9:13:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes I am the same way. There aren't many I let into that fiercely-protected circle, but when they're in, I will go to the mattresses and fight almost to the death for them. For my own offspring, it would be to the death. Any excuse huh? Who needs an excuse, oh insane one? [;)]

Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 9:15:59 AM)
We both hate you

tjeannette -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 9:28:30 AM)
I personally am fairly submissive (and new here, hi all) but I'm almost absurdly protective of my friends and loved ones. It's ok for me to go for walks at 1 in the morning, but gods forbid they try and walk half a mile home after dark by themselves. I've been known to get them home, then walk myself back. I live in a pretty safe area, not like a ghetto or anything, but the idea of even a more dominant friend (which most of my friends seems to be) out at night by themselves? It makes me almost angry. Yes, I might be more protective of a friend that's "more submissive" than me, but not by a lot. I don't think it has much to do with how dominant or not person is, it's a personality thing.

Jeffff -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 9:50:05 AM)
Good, Brown Jesus skeers me.... protect me?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 10:23:03 AM)
Fast reply- I think subs have this trait more than doms, and more viciously.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 10:44:15 AM)
I am going with protectiveness being a personality trait, not an orientation one. I have met cowardly sacks of shit on both sides of the coin. Me, well... some of you have personal knowledge of how protective I can be.

lally2 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:21:41 AM)
its one of the few times i get really scary [:@] - and i dont give a shit either ill just go for it. i took on a mob of bikers once. this big bloke in leathers marched up at me and i verbally trashed him right there in front of all his mates and he had to back down cos he just didnt have a case for the defence AT ALL - (his gang nearly killed a foal on the road where i live in the New Forest. ponies roam free here and theyre always getting knocked over by asshats - so i went for him - got applause too from the small audience that congregated) so its not just friends and family, ill get protective over anything i care about. - the rest of the time im just a sweet unassuming subbie [:)]

tjeannette -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:28:06 AM)
Kind of like the argument that women (or in this case, submissives) as nurturers are more vicious. I once read somewhere someone's belief that if women made the decisions there would never be war- not because we are the weaker gentler sex, but because we would wipe out the problem before it got that far. If something seemed like a potential threat to our children and home, the threat would be taken care of before it got past potential. As in, really? Iran is maybe building nukes? Hmm, just go in, find out, and kill anyone involved if they are. Makes sense to me, anyway. So... is submissives not a word? Is that what the red line underneath is for? It's kinda bugging me...

heartcream -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:32:34 AM)
I have lots of protective essence in my personality. I will defend the underdog no problem, I will say what I think even if I know it will maybe make that person not like me. It is not that I dont want to be liked, I do, but I am pretty perceptive and my bs barometer is functioning well. I can be wrong, lord knows, but often I am not. I am protective of my own stuff, my loved ones. I am protective of my heart and my body too. I have some close friends who have my back and that is always good. It is nice to be around someone who has gone through similar things as me and then when a third person comes in and says something insensitive or harsh and the other person speaks up it is so sweet. I dont have to say something because someone else did for me. Usually I am that guy but I love it when someone is that guy for me.

crazyml -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:52:24 AM)
coffee through nose moment.

sirsholly -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:53:33 AM)
quote: Kind of like the argument that women (or in this case, submissives) as nurturers are more vicious. Hmmmm...now that makes sense.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:57:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact As a sadist, I do enjoy hurting the people that I love, but God flipping forbid if I think something is going to harm them. How common do you think it is for Dominants to have a strong protective streak? Do you see it in yourself or in the Dominant in your life? Yep, I'm right there with you. It's not limited to my family or personal sub either. Since I started running a mentoring program for the local TNG group, that protective streak has extended to the young kinksters in the group. We've gotten a couple of "creepy old dudes" trying to infiltrate the group to hook up with the 20-something women. Mama Wolf was Not. Happy. RAWR! However, I agree it's not solely a dominant trait. My best friend is a sub and he's highly protective of his gf/domme. He's more than capable of protecting her if necessary. Most of my friends are SCA/Renaissance Faire/martial arts/military folk, so all of us tend to have heightened protective instincts, regardless of D/s orientation.

juliaoceania -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 11:59:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Fast reply- I think subs have this trait more than doms, and more viciously. Mother bears are vicious... true. And I wish women could turn that viciousness into self protection... which the female of our species are not socialized to do....protect others, yes, but ourselves, not so much... And I know sub men are as protective as anyone else

allthatjaz -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 12:06:08 PM)
I am hugely protective towards my family. A few years back we were all sitting in a restaurant when a party of women at the next table started jibing us. I went over and politely asked them to stop but this seemed to stir them up even more. I followed my family out of the restaurant and once they were out of the door, I calmly walked back in and upended their table, smiled and said 'have a nice dinner ladies'. Unfortunately my son (knowing what I'm like) followed me in with his camera phone and the next thing I know, its on youtube [:)] I am protective towards our sub, we both are. We can hurt her but nobody else can!

LadyPact -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 12:06:34 PM)
I'm appreciating the comments on the thread so far. Yes, I would agree that it happens to be a personality trait. I probably phrased that poorly, but I was using a reference that I happen to identify with and I happen to be Dominant. The people that I was having the discussion on the matter over the weekend also happened to be Dominant, so it made Me wonder a bit just how common this trait might be in people who identify as such. I tend to think it's almost an automatic conclusion that the majority of parents are protective of their off-spring. Then again, this is because I have this particular trait, so My first assumption is that it's normal. It's My first knee-jerk reaction, so My brain isn't exactly saying process info.

laurell3 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 12:17:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: Plasticine quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff cesful dominant! You guys are doing the most awesome thing. Forum performance art. I've never seen this before. Very good. They're joined at the pelvis. shudders Hard limit!! Redrum! Redrum!

Nineveh -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 12:58:00 PM)
I think I am the first person to come in here and say I am not very protective. This doesn't mean I am not ready to do whatever it takes to protect my friends and family but I do generally assume they are able to handle situations unless they indicate to me that they are not. As many people have already said I don't think this is a D/s thing, I also don't know if it is a male/female thing. I think it is simply another personality trait, like creativity or stubbornness.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 1:02:25 PM)
Wish I had some deep profound bullshit to post here, but not really. I think most people are protective of people that matter to 'em the most.

Syrox -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 1:08:45 PM)
I find myself very naturaly protective of friends partners and even people i fancy.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Protection (6/28/2010 3:40:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: Plasticine quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff cesful dominant! You guys are doing the most awesome thing. Forum performance art. I've never seen this before. Very good. They're joined at the pelvis. I think they just bought their mandals at the Ross Cross Dress for Less Store and can't get the plastic tag separated. They're walking around like Siamese twins.

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