jennileigh8182
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To begin, does anyone else feel like this is just a post to make some feel better about themselves? Now, to the actual topic...i am the divorced mother of a toddler, attending school fulltime to pursue a change in career. I work, I go to school, I'm a mom, and yet, i was absolutely CRUSHED when i finally faced the facts this winter that i was not making ends meet, and i had to get some help. i applied only for daycare and food assistance, as we are living with family until i finish my nursing program. Even so, i was mortified. I was raised in an area that is mostly middle class, where everyone tends to have teh attitude of "work for what you want." You want more or better? Work harder or longer, find a better job that will let you do so, but do it by your own efforts. i absolutely cannot get by on what income i'm able to make around classes and the small amount of child support i get. It's an area with poor job options, but at least i have a job. i do have issues with those who simply stay on assistance and make no effort to better their situation. Sure, it's hard work to do all the paperwork and talk to the right people to keep your benefits going, but i don't understand the lack of shame, the desire to be self-sufficient, the urge to -improve.- i want more, better, nicer, bigger, and am using my TEMPORARY assistance to let me finish my second degree, change my career, and be able to provide that better life for my son and myself. i think our issue is that people have really come to believe that they should be taken care of to a basic level...which i completely do not agree with. No one owes us anything. For those with a change in circumstances, a hardship, a temporary situation, sure, i'm all for helping them, and always have been. However, i do not agree with lifetimers on assistance. You don't have skills? Go out and train for some! There are all manner of training programs available and agencies willing to help pay for them. I have one bachelor's degree and am pursuing my second, so none of those are open to me. I'm taking student loans, working my tail off, and scraping by until I'm done. I really think it's a matter of personal pride and ambition.
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