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bestheadyet -> thanks (7/1/2010 5:12:11 PM)
everyone (mostly) here has been so kind to me...... i wanted say thank you to all of you who in the last few days showed me what community is all about. i obviously haven't learned the things i needed to ....to maintain my slavery. i'm in shambles. i'll be ok....He was just unhappy with me....and i was too headstrong. i wish i could start over.

DarlingSavage -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:14:40 PM)
You're probably better off without him. He didn't sound like he was very concerned about your well being. I know it hurts now, but it'll get better. xxx

laurell3 -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:14:48 PM)
The beauty of life is, with most things you can start over. Learning to nuture and forgive yourself and place yourself in situations that are nuturing and forgiving is part of what makes us healthy adults.

bestheadyet -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:16:45 PM)
but i cant quit these crying jags. i know ill be fine but ouch it really really hurts. whats worse is its my fault. i pushed til he snapped its all my fault

loverly -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:18:38 PM)
you can Always start over again... its all a learning process and there will be LOTS of people in your journey... the important part is to learn. This too shall pass.. and look how Far you've come !!!

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:20:09 PM)
I know it really hurts, but believe me it's just now not forever. Just take care of yourself that's the important thing right now.

laurell3 -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:21:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestheadyet but i cant quit these crying jags. i know ill be fine but ouch it really really hurts. whats worse is its my fault. i pushed til he snapped its all my fault Hon, that was a match made in hell, you couldn't have saved it. Crying is what we do when we grieve. This too shall pass.

bestheadyet -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:21:30 PM)
gonna go for a walk.....maybe that will help

DarlingSavage -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:22:26 PM)
Don't take it so hard, I don't think it's your fault. He wasn't spending enough time with you in the first place, that was a red flag. It's not you, it's him. It'll get better. It will.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:24:55 PM)
Good idea, lying around focusing on it isn't a good thing. Have a good walk [:)]

DarlingSavage -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:26:49 PM)
Zephyr is right and if I was there, I would give you a big hug and let you cry on my shoulder, then I'd fix you some tea.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:27:54 PM)
quote: its all my fault No it isn't it's his fault. He was too stupid to know a great woman when he meets one. Somewhere out there is a man who won't make that mistake, you just haven't met him yet.......or maybe you have and he hasn't approached you because you were taken.

LafayetteLady -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:27:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestheadyet but i cant quit these crying jags. i know ill be fine but ouch it really really hurts. whats worse is its my fault. i pushed til he snapped its all my fault See that bold part up there? It goes with what you said in the last thread when you questioned what you "deserved." Stay away from guys who thrive on the fact that you have not resolved these issues. They are bad for you. Nothing was your fault. The relationship was bad, you were not compatible. You wanted more than he was willing to give, and it made you spend too much time trying to figure out what else you could do to make him happy. The crying jags will stop. Things will get better. You will find better and then wonder why you ever cried over this one to begin with.

marie2 -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:28:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage Don't take it so hard, I don't think it's your fault. He wasn't spending enough time with you in the first place, that was a red flag. It's not you, it's him. It'll get better. It will. This is what I'm thinking too. Unless I misunderstood, you wrote something a couple of days ago to the affect that he was punishing you by withholding real time interaction. That is a cop out. And he has convinced you that it's all been your doing. You were too this and too that. You were getting too close and he needed to push you back, and he took the weak-mans route. He put it all on your shoulders then sent you packing with a load of guilt and blame and regret to carry on your back. I smell a married man. And I think you swallowed the koolaid on this one.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:45:42 PM)
Don't beat yourself up. Take a walk, have a good cry, do something nice and kind for yourself, and then when you're ready pick yourself back up, dust yourself off, and go out there again, hopefully a little smarter and a little wiser, and pick someone who's deserving of you and what you're offering.

laurell3 -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:49:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady quote: ORIGINAL: bestheadyet but i cant quit these crying jags. i know ill be fine but ouch it really really hurts. whats worse is its my fault. i pushed til he snapped its all my fault See that bold part up there? It goes with what you said in the last thread when you questioned what you "deserved." Stay away from guys who thrive on the fact that you have not resolved these issues. They are bad for you. Nothing was your fault. The relationship was bad, you were not compatible. You wanted more than he was willing to give, and it made you spend too much time trying to figure out what else you could do to make him happy. The crying jags will stop. Things will get better. You will find better and then wonder why you ever cried over this one to begin with. I agree, I doubt she can see it coming. I hate to suggest a "protector" because I think they're mostly bullshit. But I do think she needs someone or a couple someones she trusts to run things by outside of posting on the forums that can help her distinguish between role and just flat out bullshit.

divi -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:51:02 PM)
I want a protector who will watch me.. I've been getting some nasty mail ...

laurell3 -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:52:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: divi I want a protector who will watch me.. I've been getting some nasty mail ... I'll protect you divi! lol...I would so suck at it, I'm a picky bitch!

ElizabethAnne -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:52:54 PM)
Hello, I'm glad to see you taking the responsibility for what you did wrong. Too many people don't, and always want to blame someone else. You admitted you misbehaved, you've admitted it's your fault, you've admitted you pushed him to where he snapped, it shows real maturity to own up to what you did, good for you. Hell no one likes to fail, now - pick yourself up, learn from it, go on. Take care, Elizabeth

divi -> RE: thanks (7/1/2010 5:54:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 quote: ORIGINAL: divi I want a protector who will watch me.. I've been getting some nasty mail ... I'll protect you divi! lol...I would so suck at it, I'm a picky bitch! aww ty laurell my sweets! Seriously I'm in awe of moronic messages I've been getting

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