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RE: Online collars - 7/6/2010 11:23:17 PM

johnswoodshed

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"Especially when real life is sought, happens and the Dominant actually relocates to where the submissive is at. This gives the submissive a power over the Dominant which he may not be prepared to accept."
Doesn't the submissive/slave have the ultimate control at all times any way? The sub/slave can say "no or stop" at any time so the bottom line is nothing happens that doesn't is approved by the sub/slave.
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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 1:53:39 AM

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I'll point to a discussion I've been having with one of My Friends on the phone incidentally one that is on AirG currently. For the sake of explaination I'll refer to him as Mr. XXX. He is a Dominant and he has a collared a girl online whom I'll refer to and just "girl" I witnessed their collaring in a chat room because I was asked to attend though both know My feelings on the matter of online collarings.

Is this a real friend or a friend you met online?

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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 2:18:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

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When you are starving, you will eat dirt.

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As profound as that statement may seem, I just found it really unkind and uncaring.

the.dark.

Hello the dark,
It is not meant to be unkind and uncaring at all. It is something I realized several years ago (while involved in an "online" relationship). I wrote about it at the time in fact. Here is the pertinent part that I wrote so long ago:

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Imagine no one to talk to, no movies with sexual inuendo or tension, no magazine ads that even hint at anything like this.... there is nothing... not even a place to ask the question. Noone even looks you in the eye. Noone sees you as a human or as a sexual or passionate being. Who you are is completely denied for ages and ages, and you are sinking into despair, desperate for any little scrap of acknowledgement for what your soul yearns for. What to do? When you are starving, you will eat dirt.

That was the life I was living, and the last sentence was a way for me to understand what was happening to me. It was why I got into the whole online relationship... I was starving, and I had something that was not nutritious enough for me emotionally, but the desperate need to survive superceded all that.

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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 5:53:18 AM

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The best part of being bi with switch tendencies is that I've had the pleasure of collaring myself. Eliminates the whole messy business of getting acquainteded, potential real life unattraction, and who is moving to whom.

The downside is when I punish myself by ignoring me. Gets terribly lonely, but I know it's in my best interest. I tried taking away my computer privileges, but decided that was cruel and completely unwarrented.

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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 6:01:17 AM

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The best part of being bi with switch tendencies is that I've had the pleasure of collaring myself. Eliminates the whole messy business of getting acquainteded, potential real life unattraction, and who is moving to whom.

The downside is when I punish myself by ignoring me. Gets terribly lonely, but I know it's in my best interest. I tried taking away my computer privileges, but decided that was cruel and completely unwarrented.

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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 6:03:17 AM

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That may be so, but a statement as you placed had no content with it, other than just what you wrote.
In that way, it refered to online relationships as being nothing but dirt. All I saw was you trying to be profound, but it coming back empty and judgemental.With your explaination now, it makes more personal sense of course, but that is more about the quality of the relationships you had, than online relationships being dirt that you try just because you need something to sustain you.
After all, dirt is very nutritious when you realise and learn how to utilize it.

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RE: Online collars - 7/7/2010 9:45:51 AM

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OP, there are a lot here who feel like you do. Not about online collars per se as much as online relationships themselves.

Then again, there are others who do not. In my experience, some people tend to treat "online" as an extension of the real world. To them (and I am among these), an online venue is just another place. To others, "online" is and will always be "virtual"... a game that happens at the computer screen. Depending on which group you are in, you'll see online things in general in that context.

I have both an online "slave" and a real-life one (my wife). Both are collared. Both collars have meaning. I would not be so foolish as to think that they are anything like "the same" though.

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