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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Thanks so much for the links, boijen!! [:D]

As for me, I'd MUCH rather be called Master, than Mistress.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

*swoons*

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ORIGINAL: Yourscum

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Yourscum, what exactly is your point here?
A woman can't be a master? It's been proven she can.
Women shouldn't post here? The mods say it's perfectly fine.
What exactly are you trying to prove?

I never said they can't post here, clearly they can. I certainly never said a woman can't be in charge or a dominant. I'm just saying by traditional definition, a man in a master, a woman a mistress, just as for example a female who serves food in a restaurant is a waitress, a man a waiter, although now 'Server' seems to be taking over as the common expression, a genderless alternative to the gendered words.

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Sorry, my friends, but I have to disagree that taking on that title is a good thing to do.  I can understand why you do not want the honorific of "Mistress" since it so very laden with Pro-Domme implications.  Likewise for Goddess, having odd, cross-cultural meanings which are rarely understood.

So, Lance, what do you suggest?

I suggest you do NOT entitle yourselves with anything.  NEVER have I EVER referred to myself as Master Lance.  I always correct the writers of e-mail that address me as "Master," that I am not their Master.

Taking such a position upon oneself, as in "Call me Master Mary," is putting the other person in the position of being Mary's slave.

To make my point perfectly clear, I'll repeat that with a different name and gender (mine.)

If I were to come on these boards and say "Call me Master Lance," doesn't that put all of you in the position of being my slaves?

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: Yourscum

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Yourscum, what exactly is your point here?
A woman can't be a master? It's been proven she can.
Women shouldn't post here? The mods say it's perfectly fine.
What exactly are you trying to prove?

I never said they can't post here, clearly they can. I certainly never said a woman can't be in charge or a dominant. I'm just saying by traditional definition, a man in a master, a woman a mistress, just as for example a female who serves food in a restaurant is a waitress, a man a waiter, although now 'Server' seems to be taking over as the common expression, a genderless alternative to the gendered words.

You are correct of course. Master has been gender specific traditionally for a good while both in and out of the lifestyle.

People want to fight against all manner of things..Mostly the idea of being put in a box but sadly they can't escape it more often than not.

Anyone can of course call themselves whatever they wish but I think the majority know the truth of how things are and most likely traditionally of how they came to be and what it implies.

When labels "suit" them they have no problem using them...Things change over time but it doesn't mean you have to agree with them nor does it mean you have to take them to heart for yourself. People will attempt to twist life till it fits their idea so they can be the snowflake..I gotta be different..I wanna be a special little butterfly with solely original markings.


I personally don't agree with the term used for females but what do I care if a female uses it.....?(I don't)