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VaguelyCurious -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:34:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: katjira10

I believe Her Royal Highness wouldn't be the one giving you the O.B.E.
That would be Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II

I'm an Anglophile :)

Yeah, and I'm *English*; what's your point? Her Majesty is also Her Royal Highness...



ExSteelAgain -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:37:09 PM)

We have to remember what audience we are talking to. With our profiles on the "opening page" and bdsm scenes going on in the ads surrounding things, it may be accepted to have a graphic, sexy name. While here, on the boards, where the demographics are much different, the same name may not be so well received. Those who comment on the forums are different than those the porn ads are designed to reach. Nothing wrong either way...I'm just pointing out the differences.



Icarys -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:39:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bestheadyet

it will be changed in the near future.....
if im looking for a rl  relationship....being sexual in name.....doesnt describe all  sides of me. i do agree icarys...now even more than before


Your right it doesn't.



BitaTruble -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:43:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Icarys

they are trouble in someway...I'm definitely passing by.



::crosses Icarys off my Xmas card list:: [8D]



xxblushesxx -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:46:22 PM)

Sweetie, I think you'll be thought of differently, and meet better partners if you change your nic to something less sexual.

Depending of course, on what exactly you're looking for.



Icarys -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:47:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

We have to remember what audience we are talking to. With our profiles on the "opening page" and bdsm scenes going on in the ads surrounding things, it may be accepted to have a graphic, sexy name. While here, on the boards, where the demographics are much different, the same name may not be so well received. Those who comment on the forums are different than those the porn ads are designed to reach. Nothing wrong either way...I'm just pointing out the differences.

I'll go with that to a degree except to say..people are people and what you put out is what you'll get back in most cases..not all but most..at least to some degree.

My name is fairly neutral (even if my icon has been seen in many different ways)..

I'm very sexual but in very private ways..doesn't mean anyone else has to be like that but that is what I'm looking for.

Everything counts..from your name to your attitude in life when it comes to first impressions..and you only get one time to make that first impression.

So I do care sometimes afterall[:D]



Icarys -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 5:50:38 PM)

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::crosses Icarys off my Xmas card list::

Seeeee prime example why being a little judgmental at times can backfire lol.


I was so hoping it was going to be a picture of Jeffff in that suitcase too (Grins)



thornhappy -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 8:39:35 PM)

I'm currently dating a top/dom from alt who has a bizarre username.  I ignored his profile for quite awhile, but traded email back and forth after he contacted me.  His profile name's an old nickname from childhood.  He's a great guy, techie, literate and a gearhead.

Sometimes there are kewl people behind the weird usernames!
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Really vulgar nics would put me off. But I also recognize that not everyone is great with writing. Some people are a lot more hands on and not good at thinking things up.

I won't tell you the nic he had on b.com because it was sort of silly imo. But right now he's not on the forums chatting, he's out deciding if he should fix up a car or sell it for parts. So although he isn't the person I want to write letters for me (I proofread/edit his) he is the person I want to decide what needs to be done when the car isn't working.

My point is that the name may just be because he isn't a person with a strong grasp of writing. But that doesn't mean he isn't a top notch person with great math and engineering skills. We can't all be everything.




wittynamehere -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 8:58:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Ok, so I just got an email from domlongschlong (names have been slightly changed to protect the clueless)

I remember that he has cmailed me before because it's an...interesting name.

Interesting but...off putting, at least for me.

So, when you see a nic called fuckpuppy or domwithdick (both made up but could be real) does that change your perception of the person at all? Do you consider someone with a name like that, or is that a deal breaker? For me it is a deal breaker as far as dating goes.

I'm sure I may have turned down some interesting partners because of it, but I want someone a bit more subtle.

I don't want/need to see your cock until I'm interested in you. I don't want/need to think of you as slutbitch unless you are MY slutbitch and I gave that name to you because you are special to me. [:-]

Also, does it change the way you view their posts? If sucksalotofcock is posting in politics and religion, it's possible I would pass right by that post just due to the nic. Otoh, if domwithcookies posted there, I might engage because I would think that showed a sense of humour, and a willingness not to take one's self so seriously.

So is there a difference between putting yourself out there as just a vagina or cock and an ironic sense of humour?

I know this is a bit judgmental, but it is honest, and I am curious about others' thoughts on this subject.





A bit?
A name can tell you something about a person. It's just one more tidbit of info, as far as I'm concerned.



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 9:35:16 PM)

If it's on the other side, then I tend to ignore the sexual nics or the ones who just have to tell you they're "master" this or that.  I'll read the cmail but most of the time the msg tends to follow the nic.  Not interested.  Will answer, but you can bet I'm going to be snarcastic.  I'm never mean, that's just not me.  But a little sarcasm and over-the-head msg usually leads to no answer.  If it does, then I'll play along until I'm bored. What can I say, I have too much time on my hands.

Adding to say I don't really pay attention to the nics on the boards.  Unless I see them over and over again, I have a memory like an elephant and they tend to stick in my mind as their answers also reflect on how I think of them. 

I like my new nic, new Dom identifies from a college nickname and it's a funny story he told me.  Hence, tiggerspoohbear.  The fact that I love Pooh mighta just had something to do with it too.  I'm the 47 yr old who still has an inner child in some respect, that's why i get along so well with kids and pets.  That's my story and I'm stickin to it. [:)]



GotSteel -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 9:44:03 PM)

Thanks ladies, I talked to someone who thought my screen name was phallic innuendo and I've been a little paranoid since that it's commonly viewed that way. 



IronBear -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 9:49:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious


quote:

ORIGINAL: katjira10

I believe Her Royal Highness wouldn't be the one giving you the O.B.E.
That would be Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II

I'm an Anglophile :)

Yeah, and I'm *English*; what's your point? Her Majesty is also Her Royal Highness...


Actually VaguelyCurious you are incorrect. Her Majesty is not also Her Royal Highness.

The order of precedence in British royalty and aristocracy is as follows, from highest to lowest:
  1. King/Queen
  2. Prince/Princess
  3. Duke/Duchess
  4. Marquess/Marchioness
  5. Earl/Countess
  6. Viscount/Viscountess
  7. Baron/Baroness
  8. Baronet
  9. Knight/Dame
The correct modes of address of British Royalty and members of the Aristocracy are:

    Queens and Kings are addressed as "Your Majesty." Introduce them as "Her Majesty the Queen" (not "Queen of England", as she is the "Queen of the United Kingdom", "Queen of Canada" and a long array of additional titles).

    Princes and Princesses are referred to "Your Royal Highness." Introduce them as "His Royal Highness the Prince of Wales." Any child or male line grandchild of a monarch is considered a prince or princess. The spouse of a prince is also a princess, although she is not always "Princess" Her First Name. The spouse of a princess is not always a prince. Great-grandchildren in the male line of the monarch are not considered princes or princesses. Use the courtesy titles lord or lady for these personages, addressing them as, for example, "Lady Jane" and introducing them as "Lady Jane Windsor" (unless they have a different title of their own).

    Dukes and Duchesses are called "Your Grace" or "Duke/Duchess." Introduce the duke to someone else as "His Grace the Duke of Norfolk," the duchess as "Her Grace the Duchess of Norfolk".

    Baronets and Knights, if male, are addressed as "Sir Ralph" (if his name is Ralph Sweet) and his wife is "Lady Sweet". You would introduce him using his full name, "Sir Ralph Sweet," and his wife as "Lady Sweet."

    Dames (the equivalent of knighthood for women - there is no female equivalent of baronetcy) are "Dame Gertrude" in conversation, and you would introduce her as "Dame Gertrude Mellon."

    Other forms of nobility (including Marquess/Marchioness, Earl/Countess, Viscount/Viscountess, Baron/Baroness) are generally addressed as, "Lord or Lady Towlebridge" (for the Earl of Towlebridge), and introduced with their appropriate title, such as "Viscount Sweet" or "Baroness Rivendell"





juliaoceania -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 10:05:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

Thanks ladies, I talked to someone who thought my screen name was phallic innuendo and I've been a little paranoid since that it's commonly viewed that way. 


I thought it was a reference to inner steel, not a phallic symbol, if that helps...lol



sublizzie -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 10:07:46 PM)

The names that people have chosen to use, whether here or another site, tend to give me the giggles. Very few people are as endowed as some names would suggest. But, this being a sexually-oriented website, names that grab attention are probably the best advertising some can come up with to use.

When I chose my name for this site I thought it was nicely simple and self-explanatory but I still get a lot of submissives asking me to be their Dominant. Um...."sub" is there for a reason!



porcelaine -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 10:19:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I'm very sexual but in very private ways..doesn't mean anyone else has to be like that but that is what I'm looking for.

Everything counts..from your name to your attitude in life when it comes to first impressions..and you only get one time to make that first impression. So I do care sometimes afterall[:D]


You're correct. I had this conversation a few days ago with a young lady on Fetlife. I thought her profile had too many sexual elements that would attract the kind of attention she didn't wish to garner. In her case I provided examples on why discretion was a better option, since her wares were for him and not the world per se. She elected to alter it and finds the new version more to her liking. It is my belief if you cannot attract his eye through the substance of your person all the rest won't do much in the long run. And it's a great weeding tool when you're interacting on sites of this nature.


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Actually VaguelyCurious you are incorrect. Her Majesty is not also Her Royal Highness.


I love a man that's well versed in English aristocracy. *swoons*

~porcelaine



SaintAllie -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 10:31:31 PM)

The Queen ( of Britain) is always referred to as 'Her/Your Majesty" ( depends if it is in print or in person).

Prince Philip is also referred to as the Queens consort..which is his proper status.

He has no direct right to the throne beyond his marriage to the Queen, should she die...he cannot become King.

She actually gave him the title 'Prince' after she attained power, it's not an automatic title. As far as I am aware, he's the one that has held Queens consort status the longest in recent history...

Allie

(delighting in....bringing you useless information for the sake of it...)



RedStapler -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 10:41:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: bestheadyet

mine was me being silly and thinking what others think of me.....then i went insane and used it as a nick.

so im stuck til i change it

so much for silly thoughts

but its great for attractive advertising

lol



I'm normally not a fan of the overtly sexual names, but I did get a laugh out of yours so I consider it a winner!



HeavansKeeper -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 11:17:23 PM)

I have to make a conscious effort to remember that "xXSpunkDumpXx" is probably quite reserved in his or her public/stranger life, and probably quite wild with a very small circle of people who have proven to be caring and support - just like everyone else here. I recognize that they are probably looking for a long term relationship, and not some parking lot sex. I recognize that they are a real person with family and a job and even keys.

My first instinct, however, does not command the same respect as an innocuous screen name. When someone chooses the name "SlutToy" my mind wants to treat them like SlutToy from the first moment, not like a real person. This posses a problem, because I am still a stranger.



WyldHrt -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/16/2010 11:32:19 PM)

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mine was me being silly and thinking what others think of me.....then i went insane and used it as a nick.

Actually, I thought, "Aww hell! When was the contest, and why wasn't I invited to compete, dammitt!!!" [>:]
[;)]



PeonForHer -> RE: Screen names and their effect (7/17/2010 4:18:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
I love a man that's well versed in English aristocracy. *swoons*


That would British aristocracy, Porcelaine.  Tut!



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