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HisEvelyn -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 1:07:03 PM)

Dammit, I am outsmarted! Fine, I'll just have to get out my trusty PBC detector.

::wanders off, the machine clicking away as it searches out the TWUE stash::



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 1:09:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: HisEvelyn

Dammit, I am outsmarted! Fine, I'll just have to get out my trusty PBC detector.

::wanders off, the machine clicking away as it searches out the TWUE stash::


Nope, not gonna work, they are in a special box, your detector won't detect them. Bwahahahahahahaha!



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 1:15:07 PM)

This is all My Fault for mentioning Peanut Butter Cups.....

myotherself..... so what ya say.... wanna push those Monogamy limits? We promise we won't tell...... many people anyway. They may tell a whole shit load of people but we won't.

We promise to be gentle and not do anything to get you deported.

QSM



myotherself -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 1:20:13 PM)

lol - sorry QSM, I'm kinda selfish about my man...I want him all to myself! [:)]



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 1:28:24 PM)


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

lol - sorry QSM, I'm kinda selfish about my man...I want him all to myself! [:)]


I understand this. Many women are that way.

I get confused sometimes when they have a Man and then don't use them and let them collect dust why they wouldn't want to make sure he got some sort of use.

My wife likes girls I like girls and so it's not a matter of shareing we each get eachother.

But Like I said I understand...

We still on for the Nudie Pictures?

QSM



myotherself -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 2:17:22 PM)

trust me, any man of mine would feel well and truly used! [:D]

And he's the guy that gets the nudie piccies too...lucky fella! Wherever he may be...lol



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 2:18:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: myotherself

trust me, any man of mine would feel well and truly used! [:D]

And he's the guy that gets the nudie piccies too...lucky fella! Wherever he may be...lol


shame....

Coulda been fun.

QSM



dbloomer -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 3:55:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Gromgor


Fine. You want a boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, that's perfectly fine. But stop insulting my intelligence. You're desperation for a committed relationship is just bursting out of your profiles and it's rude to believe that we're too dumb to realize it.



I think you're ignoring people's natural propensity to feel safe and attracted to the people they share intense emotional and sexual experiences with, and you're obviously only scratching the surface of understanding a woman's needs. Just my opinion.



sunshinemiss -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 4:09:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

After complete read-thru:

Lordie!  All those Brits and their idioms!  I got "mix-n-pick" at the cinema, but ONLY from the one-arm reference. Etc.

Two countries separated by a common language.

BUT!  Biggest laugh for me was waaaayyy back at post #3 which I quote:

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

This is not going to go well.

<snipped>

Best,
sunshine



YAY!  I made Lance laugh!!!! woo hoo!

I got up, I gotta get to work... and I don't have time for the last two pages.... Folks, you are just too clever!  thank you for the morning giggle... Now I'm off to torture my students with a final exam!  Wooooo Hooo!!!! VACATION after today!!!



MissBeautiful2U -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 4:24:31 PM)

*laughing* Really?

I would love a submissive who was mine.  I want both the relationship and the bdsm.  I think it would be great to own a slave someday.  I'm thinking that I'd rather my man be submissive or switch and have a slave that we share.  First I need to find the guy, work on the relationship and then look for poly... maybe. 

I have friends on here that I play with in real life.  Not as often as I might like, but frequently enough that I most certainly like bdsm and am not just looking for a relationship.  Besides I set up a profile on match.com and had ZERO matches at first.  Cracked me up.  I guess my honest feelings about monogamy didn't quite fit the population who goes there.

I think that a forum such as collarme is what it is.  If someone's profile doesn't interest you, move on.  Find another. 



alatheia -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 4:40:22 PM)

It might be a similar reason as why you're posting this.. Maybe a little/lot less fun though.
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ORIGINAL: MissSepphora1

I dunno... if the question is too stupid or offensive why not just let it die? Why do we need 6 pages of stupidity to make sure everyone knows he's stupid?



Apocalypso -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 5:05:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Out of interest, how would you respond to the OP?
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LaserKitty -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/11/2010 5:44:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: ProBottomGirl

I knew I was going wrong somewhere...... I've been with my Sir for longer than a week... It's not a kinky one night stand *sob*

Shame on me, shame shame shame....

(I would want to pet the bunny but i feel far to ashamed of myself and know that one such as I who actually likes committed long term relationships could never be worthy of such an honor as after all - according to the one true way I should only want rough kinky sex without the other stuff)



It's ok. Just admit that you have a problem and stroke the bunny.

Also, while I do not provide blowjobs in movie theaters, I have been known to give them in church parking lots. Does that redeem me? [;)]


I've done it in a church.

Yes. I know. I am going to burn. ;)



graceadieu -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 6:20:25 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Gromgor

My point was that they're not looking for what they're claiming to look for and it's obvious.

Why am I even arguing this with people with 12,000+ posts. You clearly have less going on in your lives do and I don't have the time to waste.



If someone's looking for a life partnership with a Dominant man or woman and says so upfront on their profile, how are they not looking for what they say they they're looking for? What they're looking for is right there in front of your face. If you're looking for casual hookups, just pass them over and move on to someone who's looking for the same thing as you. It's not that hard.



IronBear -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 6:34:26 AM)

~ FR ~

After reading the first page I gave up.  Actually I do0n't disagree with what GromGor says. I've been caught a few times c9ontacting people here on the belief, based solely on their profile, that they were open to a BDSM only relationship. I make it quite clear in mine that I am married to a female Dominant, and that anyone trying to split us up will reach the road without feet touching the ground.  No problems if their profile states that they are seeking a long term relationship and that they wany one on one only. Long ago I accepted that  what I seek or was seeking (shut the door now as looking is a waste of time), places me in the minority and the small pool of slaves here is tiny to start with and the amount of available of service slaves are scarcer then tits on a bull at milking time. But them I'm, damned if I woiuld make a whole soing and dance about it here, considering the amount of scam artists who have profiles here too.. Perhaps the OP needs a stable of slaves to train to fill his time instead of being frustrated with CM




GotSteel -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 6:48:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

A) How the hell is using the site like adultfriendfinder looking for a committed relationship? I've been on that site and it was not the spot to find yourself a man to take home to meet the parents

and

B) How is that a bad thing? Everyone is allowed their tastes and this is a dating site. They are allowed to look whatever the hell they want. If they want a wham, blam, thank you ma'am, more power to them. If they want walks on the beach and moonlit kisses before they expose their bottoms for spanking, more power to them.


I think some people are overthinking the OP's problem, I suspect he's just pissed off by all the non-goreans around here.



porcelaine -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 7:23:21 AM)

All of this is pretty darned comical. I don't know about the people that have never left their computer to actually meet someone the other way. But good grief. The rant sounds ridiculous. I've encountered people that thought they wanted 'a' and realize it's something else instead. Others that don't know what they're looking for and are taking a stab in the dark. Its life and it happens.

Where so many go awry is assuming a profile is bloody gospel and holding someone accountable for what they write. That really isn't how people interact in the real world. You actually converse and get to know them instead of having a laundry list of interests and fetishes to peruse from the start. And in my opinion there's an army load of people that couldn't do it the old fashioned way if you paid them cold hard cash. They've become lazy and reliant on someone else to do the legwork for them. And the Internet hides communication flaws quite well until it's time to meet up.

There's a bevy of women that have provided a snapshot of themselves and I take my hat off to them because I won't and don't. I figure if the individual is interested we'll converse without the dandy cheat sheets and checkoff lists in play. Their omission allows me to see how far his intelligence and intrigue will carry him. If he can't handle that from afar he most certainly wouldn't be able to keep pace with me face to face. And those that whine about having things neatly laid out for them could always opt for the alternative instead. I'm willing to bet they won't.

~porcelaine



Missokyst -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 8:46:02 AM)

I believe his premise was not that people presented profiles that lied about their intent for BDSM only relationships. It was that anyone who was seeking a relationship that was not soley for Sadism/masochism when the initial profile post suggested otherwise was trying to fool him.

He clearly states that if he reads further on that those profiles seem to be seeking a full relationship. The kicker to me was when he takes that as a personal affront, as if people are writing them to ensnare him.

If he wants play and nothing more he should be out going to parties and not looking on a social network site. He might also try craigslist and the very site he mentions later, adultfriendfinder.com, which is meant to find casual sex partners.


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ORIGINAL: Gromgor
Stop putting in your profile that you're open to this or that when later on in your post you state that you only want this one specific kind of relationship.
Fine. You want a boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, that's perfectly fine. But stop insulting my intelligence.

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jujubeeMB -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 9:02:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
If he wants play and nothing more he should be out going to parties and not looking on a social network site. He might also try craigslist and the very site he mentions later, adultfriendfinder.com, which is meant to find casual sex partners.


The problem, of course, is he will never meet someone that he doesn't have to pay for, with his attitude. Like it or not, most women can get laid whenever they want but a majority of men can't. That goes for single, vanilla, attractive, kind-hearted doctor-types too, so when you're a kinky, sadistic, angry, no-strings Dom type, your chances are not great. The solution, of course, is to offer the people you're trying to attract something interesting and attractive to them, but that is not something he's ever going to do. He's just going to sit there and be pissed off that those damn masochistic casual submissives aren't knocking down his door.



porcelaine -> RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. (7/12/2010 9:18:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: jujubeeMB

The solution, of course, is to offer the people you're trying to attract something interesting and attractive to them, but that is not something he's ever going to do. He's just going to sit there and be pissed off that those damn masochistic casual submissives aren't knocking down his door.


jujubeeMB,

I'm willing to bet he bought into the notion that being dominant means he doesn't have to do nada. His aura would draw them in like flies and all that normal relationship stuff that he had to do to get a girl would go bye bye. Now while there are a few girls that seem to get off on that in theory (or so they say on the Internet), I don't encounter that outside of here. Most people want something out of a relationship aside from a guy that shows up making demands.

~porcelaine



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