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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 5:46:16 PM

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I often hear on the boards others being insulting of others physical imperfections.

I don't think I've seen that. Can you point me to some posts where members are insulting other members' physical appearances?

Echo that.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 5:53:45 PM

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When you are a tad over weight, old and ugly, every one ermm well damn near every one is looking pretty bloody good to me......

Don't worry bear when you finally get fat old and ugly there are a few around that will still snuggle goose ya just so you remember you're alive.

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Nonsense.... I'll give ya another fifteen before you get to that point. ; }

Darn my watch must be running slow I was figuring 15 minutes past hades freezin over

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 6:57:44 PM

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I've been around these boards a while now, and haven't seen anyone personally insulting anyone because of their physical appearance. I have seen folks say what they don't like and what they do like, but I don't think that is insulting, just stating there preference/requirement.

I did do a search on the OP's example, but could not find any thread in which a woman was upset about facial hair or insulted by another. < I'm not saying it doesn't exist, I just couldn't find the reference >

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 7:28:10 PM

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Dang akisha ...you beat me to it!...grr....Tempting

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 7:38:04 PM

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Now, at the risk of getting my less than inspiring butt chased off this forum... I will make an observation, which I have found to be true.

"Disease control says at least 71% of men are overweight, 60% of women are overweight, and that 33% of our children are overweight."

I think it is interesting that more men than women are listed as overweight. I also think it is interesting that I have found looks to be far more important, and to a much larger degree and larger degree of specificity to men than to women, especially where weight is concerned.

I think most women, and society as a whole, are far more indulgent in the appearance of men... he isn't fat, he has a little beer belly.. he can be bald, he can be unkempt, he can be older, wrinkles and gray hair are distinguishing, they do not distinguish you as being an old hag....Women.. are either fat or fit, old or young, hot or not.

Hehehe....

Now I shall sit back and see what mayhem ensues from my brash statment.... be nice!

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 7:39:22 PM

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Okay, to be able to answer your questions properly its way too drawn out and long so i'm gonna leave you with this.

Has anyone here ever tried sleeping with some one they are unattracted too? Did it go well?

For me.. its not about imperfections.. its about what i like

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 7:54:42 PM

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BDSM is in the mind. It's as simple as that. A true BDSM bond is done soul to soul. In fact, my best master was not "my type" at all.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 8:12:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: puella
I think most women, and society as a whole, are far more indulgent in the appearance of men... he isn't fat, he has a little beer belly.. he can be bald, he can be unkempt, he can be older, wrinkles and gray hair are distinguishing, they do not distinguish you as being an old hag....

I don't think any mayhem will result from your statement. It's too true to argue with.

I've often felt men and women are too indulgent about tolerating male sloppiness in dress, lack of hygiene, lard and lack of muscles. Maybe, to some degree, that's been because men are expected, even today, to concentrate on work in order to be a good provider, and that may drain them of some energy that it would take to keep spruced up, but women have at least as much to do.

I can't stand seeing a couple on the street, the woman dressed up nicely and the slob walking with her with faded jeans, sneakers, a baseball cap on and a shirt not tucked in. Oh, and a couple of day's growth of beard on his face. I'm ticked off at him for not showing respect to her, and I'm disappointed in her for putting up with it.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 8:21:15 PM

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For anyone who endured the length of my first post on this thread and actually got near the bottom of it, I should mention that my current Mistress is the second BBW that I've been with, and when I mentioned being "surprised" by my reactions, that was years ago.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 8:34:16 PM

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Well, I personally am looking for an a blind Adonis who likes a woman whose skin feels like jello.
That being said.. I agree with LaTigrese, but put in the aspect of a woman thinking of a man. Oh and a LOT taller than I am, sans any implants at all LOL

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Awww Bear!!! Personally I think you are just adorable even though I am fairly certain you might not like someone using that word to describe you. Your words in these forums show you to be someone definately worth knowing. Aside from that, like everyone I am attracted to a pretty face and trim figure. I remember meeting one very beautiful young lady that had contacted me on another site. Simply gorgeous! However, her personality was such that I could not get away from that restaurant fast enough!! The way I like to put it is this. Have you ever met someone that at first did not seem that attractive but the more you got to know them the more desirable they became? Then visa versa, at first they seemed beautiful or handsome but quickly became less and less so because of their personality? Of course like everyone I have preferences, likes and dislikes. I dislike tatoos and lots of piercings. I dislike breast implants, not too fond of large breasts period. I would love a woman that was smaller than I in height. However, most of those preferences have flown right out the window and become a non-issue because of the person involved at some point or other in my life.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 8:43:46 PM

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girl is tall, overweight and has scars that she is embarassed by but does not care what others think of her because she likes herself, sure she is embarassed by her scars but that is because she doesn't like them being visible.

as long as you like yourself and what you are, where you are from and where you are going it should not matter what someone else thinks of you or says about you.

girl has had Doms and slaves alike say that because she can't kneel due to the arthritis in her knees she is not a true slave.........her response to them. " Who the hell do you think you are to judge girl without getting to know her?" "Take the time to get to know girl and she will show you just how true a slave she is."

they then tend to apologise for being inconsiderate (their words not girls) and girl accepts their apologies.

Who cares if you are fat, short, tall, skinny, bald, wrinkly (ok is that a word?) or whatever....... do you like you? if so great, if not why? what are you willing to do to like yourself? that is all it is about. (j.g.o. just girls opinion)

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 10:30:14 PM

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take it from an expert. If you have enough body imperfections most people wont even talk to you. When I took down my old pic and was waiting for the new one to be approved I got more messages then I usually do in six months. When my pic was approved and was visable, guess how many people kept their interest.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 10:39:02 PM

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BDSM is in the mind. It's as simple as that. A true BDSM bond is done soul to soul. In fact, my best master was not "my type" at all.

Smiling...lotus' type is usually tall and over 200#...I am 5'8" and 165-170#...not her 'type' at all; just today she told me I was not like anyone she ever had met before (yes, in a positive way...); she has also stated emotionally, spiritually I have taken her where nobody else has...too bad I'm not her type LOL...
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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 10:44:49 PM

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I don't know if there is a kind way to ask this... First, I'm sorry about what happened to cause you that scarring, but am wondering if in your old photo you were wearing a shirt? I know most of us want to portray selves honestly and realistically, but I wouldn't post naked pics of myself anyway, but especially of parts I believe don't flatter me.
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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 10:49:15 PM

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yes my old pic was my face

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 10:58:04 PM

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You look buffed to me. Obviously work out, take care of yourself. So what if there are some battle scars from life.. shit happens. Ok, so maybe 'most' people don't want to continue to chat with you, but 'some' will.. and no doubt, they will be quality and a speck of gold is worth more than a pound of dust.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 11:02:37 PM

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Thanks BitaTruble.

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 11:03:38 PM

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I had a vanilla boyfriend who raced cars at one time. His abestos suit tore, and he was badly burned on his torso. For a long time, he always kept his t-shirt on during our intimate times, but eventually allowed me to trace the scaring under his shirt as we were making love. The day he took the shirt off was huge.

The fact that you are comfortable in your skin without your shirt on, Sirus, puts you miles ahead of where he was, and he certainly wasn't 21.

That being said, I do agree with M, and go her one better. I try to put only deceptively flattering pictures on my profile. lol

** Edited because I forgot the important qualifier :)

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 11:04:04 PM

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This girl is a BBW. Lost Master/partner of seven years due to obesity last year. Decided on his birthday this year to start taking care of herself. Met Sir Rob. We both knew there was a very, very strong connection before we shared photo's. This girl was scared to reveal she is a big woman, but once she did, and He didn't log off and change His email, this girl relaxed. We both fell for the person inside, not the package outside. Now, this girl is still taking care of herself, for herself, but with the added bonus of taking care of something He cares about, too. He wants His girl to be healthy but thinks she is a sexy, beautiful woman now, which still blows this girl out of the water. But that is another story for another type of post. And as for the superficial aspect of this girl's personality: Damn! He is hot!

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RE: Body Imperfections? - 4/16/2006 11:09:28 PM

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Thanks Misstoyou I've had ever since the age of nine to deal with my scars.

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