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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

A lot of subs, even if they aren't looking for a 'tribute' femdom, get impatient.  They are discouraged about the time and processes involved in 'traditional courting' and just instead ante up and fork over the tribute in interactions that "seem" like traditional courting but aren't (she pretends like she's genuinely interested, but she's not).

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Do you describe all submissives as "it"?

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ORIGINAL: boundinside

Certain people, like myself, simply do not have the means to support Your financial interests.    

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi

basically in short its not actually about the money...directly
its about dedication and making the dom feel a certain sense of worth
(well this is how it works for me)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi

basically in short its not actually about the money...directly
its about dedication and making the dom feel a certain sense of worth
(well this is how it works for me)

I hear that line from men espousing financial slavery from female slaves. It's not really about the money. It's about you handing over your cash and assets to me cause I'm the owner and I know best. Nevermind the fact I've got more liabilities than you have pieces of paper to record them on. We're in this together. Dedicated. You're mine. And all that jazz.

If mister domly one wasn't in possession of that sense of worth my money won't change that. But it might allow him to go shopping at my expense. There's a big difference in being someone's whore by choice and paying for that right. I figure the folks that can get the former for free walk away with their bank balance intact.

~porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi

basically in short its not actually about the money...directly
its about dedication and making the dom feel a certain sense of worth
(well this is how it works for me)

I hear that line from men espousing financial slavery from female slaves. It's not really about the money. It's about you handing over your cash and assets to me cause I'm the owner and I know best. Nevermind the fact I've got more liabilities than you have pieces of paper to record them on. We're in this together. Dedicated. You're mine. And all that jazz.

If mister domly one wasn't in possession of that sense of worth my money won't change that. ...~porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: boundinside
You willing to provide contribution to Female Dominants in order to fulfill your sexual fantasies? 

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

You have to understand that there are a lot of materialistic people out in the world. They were raised that way, either by their parents or pop culture. If surrounding themselves with people who will give them things just to make them feel special is what they need, we both know they need some professional help, since it's not healthy, but trying to talk sense to them before they want to hear it is just a waste of good energy. Go ride your bike! Grow a garden! Just don't expect them to listen to you anytime soon.

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Thank you. I wanted to say something in response to mastertizzi, but for some reason I was having difficulty organizing my thoughts. There's more I'd like to debate, but pfft. My might devalue the OP, and send him into an emotional recession.

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ORIGINAL: BentUnit

I think you are begging for trouble here if you are are going to keep using the generic "YOU" to lump all Dommes in the same category.

To point out the obvious....

You keep looking until you find someone who's desires and expectations dovetail with your own.
Whinging about it won't get you any traction and will only alienate you with the very people you are trying to attract.

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi

actually (granted that i am a male dom/master) i find the following to be valid:
(im using a list, i like lists)

1. in cases the dom may have an interest in the power attribute that is associated with the role.
if a sub is paying its dom for service its basically like a feeling of money equals how dedicated to the dom the sub is
think of it this way, a sub who gives its dom only a few dollars may make the dom feel as a they are in the 5$ prostitute range, while a sub who constantly gives expensive gifts and large amounts of money, makes the dom feel as they are of high class.
the end result is that where the sub stays at the same level, the dom's power level varies.

2. there is also the dedication factor. its not about that the sub can't get the money to please the dom. in such that is actually insulting toward the dom. (as in you can't give me what i desire? so i am not worth it to you?)
if the sub is dedicated to pleasing the dom, then it will anything to give it what it requires.

basically in short its not actually about the money...directly
its about dedication and making the dom feel a certain sense of worth
(well this is how it works for me)

there is also the kink of where the dom may desire to feel like a prostitute. there is no rule that states that a dom cannot be a dom and be degraded/humiliated/etc. the dom's role is to control the sub, where the sub's rule is to please the dom. (without going too deep into the depths) but this is different than switch. as long as the dom is controlling the sub, in short the dom is still dom.
(just some things to think about, i don't see this discussed too much, and i feel that it in some ways plays a role as per this subject)

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
As is greed. One of the reasons why the economy has collapsed is the fact that we have been paying for services that are way over valued and we will be paying for them for the rest of our working lives. Its similar with the pro Domme. $200 per hour is way over the top for the current economic climate. Its extortionate, plain and simple