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tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 1:54:36 PM)
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I just can't help but chime in to this trainwreck. We all know that's how it's gonna end.
I've been the cheatER the cheatEE and the other woman. All my own decision, all mine to own. This was over 25 yrs ago and it still haunts me to this day. I figured if he could cheat on me, then what was good for the goose was good for the gander. I was o so wrong. I have to live every day with the lousy decisions I made.
Hey, OP, don't kid yourself, even if she won't admit it, she knows what's going on. I know I did. I could tell by the way he preened in front of the mirror that he was going out that night to look for a piece of tail. I'd tell him to admit it, the cologne was a dead giveaway but he denied it every time. He finally got himself a stalker who took great pleasure in calling me to let me know. And I still stayed, much to my regret.
As to being the other woman, this was also discovered by his wife. She took to calling me regularly and even showing up at the house and spying through the curtains. Her footprints were evident in the garden.
The married men ended up divorced, losing everything they had. The women had to suffer the indignity of finding out they'd been cheated on. Who suffered the most? The children who'd been brought into this world, those innocent beings who now had parents who hated each other.
I no longer cheat, I made myself that promise 25 yrs ago and have kept to it. I'm now in a new relationship with someone I met here, trust, honesty, integrity and communication are key with us. Neither of us has been angels, we both recognize that and don't wish to repeat past history. This will be a monogamous relationship, rule #1 with both of us.
Aileen, you showed much strength of character in your post. Yes, it does follow you for the rest of your life. But you've realized that what you did was wrong, and that was a huge step forward. The fact that you would no longer compromise your relationship is very telling.
This is my story, I won't lie about it, I'm not proud, but what's done is done. Time to move on and try to forgive myself. Not an easy thing to do. I actually shut down for 16 yrs and refused to date anyone for that period. He finally left me for someone else. I'd always known he'd be married before the age of 30 and not to me. I was told that often enough. He got married in August and turned 30 in December. But less than a year later, he came home to an empty house and a note that said she'd left him for his best friend. KARMA'S A BITCH and IT'LL COME BACK TO BITE YOU IN THE ASS. I've paid for my mistakes, won't repeat them again.
'Nuff said. [sm=2cents.gif]
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