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BDSMPleasures -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:40:11 AM)
Hypthetetical... suppose she's in a coma, and has been for 3 years, Drs say no chance of recovery... divorce her insurance is canclled and they pull the plug.. what do you do? is someone then justified staying and going on side in secret.. (protect family, kids etc..) ? If you answer yes.. then there are circumstances conceivable that it is permissible? Then its just a matter of opinion when one thinks its OK.. also a myyare of opinion under what othjer circumstances would be "OK".... ask 10 people.. you'll get 10 different answers... , funny thing is none are wrong.. its their opinion... you're entitled to yours.. I am to mine.

juliaoceania -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:40:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures The gray isn't about my desire.. its about my situation that caused me and many, many others to do same... It is not as gray as you are trying to make it be... Human beings are great at deluding themselves and justifying whatever actions they desire to take. If they want to shoplift they tell themselves the store marks up merchandise because some people steal. If they want to steal from their boss, they tell themselves they were due for a raise anyways. If they want to cheat on their spouse they tell themselves it is only fair they get their "needs" met, even though by doing so they are depriving their mates of so many things Your wife believes she has a monogamous husband that is honest and who isn't straying. Instead she has someone that is looking to get his sexual needs met at the expense of their marriage... you are going down a path where you are going to deprive your wife of emotional investment in the marriage, the intimacy that makes a relationship grow, and you are going to give that to another woman just to get your "needs" met... Well dude, why do you think it is okay to deprive the woman you married and took a vow with of someone that will be emotionally invested in her and be honest with her, and who won't give what she is owed to some chick off of a BDSM site... Go on with your shades of gray... but it really is black and white, either you are going to become a cheater or you won't... either you are going to have a sexual relationship outside of your marriage, or you aren't... there really is no other shades of gray about it I pity women with husbands like you, and it riles me when they email me, and they often do.... the jerks

Aileen1968 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:41:59 AM)
You can justify it all you want, but eventually one night, in the middle of the night you're gonna wake up alone and realize what a shitty thing you did. And you can't go back and change it.

BDSMPleasures -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:43:02 AM)
many profiles say looking for "single".. if they do.. I won't try for them.. so what others do is not what I do..

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:43:15 AM)
Steady there.... you are ok with me. You can feel free to stop beating yourself up now.

juliaoceania -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:43:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Hypthetetical... suppose she's in a coma, and has been for 3 years, Drs say no chance of recovery... divorce her insurance is canclled and they pull the plug.. what do you do? is someone then justified staying and going on side in secret.. (protect family, kids etc..) ? If you answer yes.. then there are circumstances conceivable that it is permissible? Then its just a matter of opinion when one thinks its OK.. also a myyare of opinion under what othjer circumstances would be "OK".... ask 10 people.. you'll get 10 different answers... , funny thing is none are wrong.. its their opinion... you're entitled to yours.. I am to mine. Is this your situation? If so we can discuss that, but I am thinking it is a case of she won't suck your dick, so that makes it okay[8\|]

BDSMPleasures -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:44:20 AM)
Yes.. you are so right.. and so far the only one here that has made me re-think everything I am doing.. kudos to you.. thank you

Aileen1968 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:45:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Steady there.... you are ok with me. You can feel free to stop beating yourself up now. I haven't seen Shorey in over a week. Someone's got to beat me.

LadyPact -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:46:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures The gray isn't about my desire.. its about my situation that caused me and many, many others to do same... That is the most ridiculous justification that you could have pulled out of your ass. "Other people are doing it, so I'm going to do it, too." Are you twelve? This really comes down to two different wants: Wanting to be an honorable man in your marriage vrs Wanting to be involved in BDSM (including the sex, because let's be honest about that part). Granted, neither one of these are needs. You aren't going to die if you lack either one of these things. (Well, as long as a spouse doesn't shoot you if you get caught in the act.) In your situation as it stands, you have what is considered an "either/or" polarity. It isn't shades of gray. Literally, it is a situation where you can not have both. Not the way you are approaching it. What you have in front of you is a choice of which one of these wants is more important to you as a human being. Is your character more important or your libido?

juliaoceania -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:48:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures many profiles say looking for "single".. if they do.. I won't try for them.. so what others do is not what I do.. I take it as a given that the men contacting me should be single... why should I have to spell it out that I want a single man? Why should I have to say "don't be married"? I mean, really, why should a single person have to tell you marrieds we don't want ya? I can tell you why you don't start out your profile with the fact you are married, because you might want to start something with a single gal that would dismiss you instantly knowing you were taken. Now, seeing that you are willing to cheat on your spouse, this isn't all that shocking that you omit pertinent information from your profile to attract more woman, but it does show a certain extra sliminess... well, guess what, when women look at your profile they can hit "forum posts" and the truth of your situation will not be hidden... so I am REALLY glad for their sakes you started this thread[:)]

LadyPact -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:48:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures I will protect her from you all.. You're not even protecting her from yourself.

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:51:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I haven't seen Shorey in over a week. Someone's got to beat me. Good point! As your protector I approve. Plus, my post was kinda soft and fluffy. It makes me look like a pussy. Don't spread it around, ok?

juliaoceania -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 10:59:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 You can justify it all you want, but eventually one night, in the middle of the night you're gonna wake up alone and realize what a shitty thing you did. And you can't go back and change it. Yeah, my ex husband could tell you that... he lost me over cheating. He tells my son he still regrets it... If BDSMPleasures reads this reply, you very well could end up losing everything. My ex cheated with a bunny boiler, and that is how I found out, she started stalking him. This is what you may end up exposing the wife and kids to, some emotionally unstable bimbo with a bad marriage looking for a way out. One of the most common reasons women cheat is to decide whether or not to stay in their marriage, and if the one you find decides she should leave, maybe she will demand you do too... never know

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:02:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Hypthetetical... suppose she's in a coma, and has been for 3 years, Drs say no chance of recovery... divorce her insurance is canclled and they pull the plug.. what do you do? is someone then justified staying and going on side in secret.. (protect family, kids etc..) ? If you answer yes.. then there are circumstances conceivable that it is permissible? Then its just a matter of opinion when one thinks its OK.. also a myyare of opinion under what othjer circumstances would be "OK".... ask 10 people.. you'll get 10 different answers... , funny thing is none are wrong.. its their opinion... you're entitled to yours.. I am to mine. Then I would pull the plug and let the person who I love and care about move on to go to heaven be reborn and what have and what not. But your wife ISNT in a coma, she just doesnt want to engage in sexual relations the way you want to. Im sorry you might be one of the few people... who dont fuck before marriage, but most people do, and if the sex sucked then ya probably shouldnt have married her. Ive read all of your posts, and the only thing i can hope and pray for is that you dont bring home and std to your wife, and let me tell you this... Condoms DONT protect you from anything and you (a guy) cant be tested for hpv... now 1 in 4 adults get hpv in one form or another in their life, but if your wife is only fucking you, and she goes for her annual pap... and she has hpv...(which can be transfered simply from genital to genital contact). guess what sweetie, you arent getting half of your own shit in that divorce settlement. youll be lucky if you can afford renting a room for 150 a month after the ala/child support payments. Go talk to your wife. Explain to her what you want, what your feeling you need and want, if shes like most women i know she will try it for the sake of the marriage, go slow. And remember there is no gray to this, at all what so ever, its black and white, you stood up infront of your god, your family and friends and you told them, in short Im gonna only fuck this bitch till the day i die.. Are you dead? No, then honor your word. -this has been a public service announcement from the cunt whos sick of married men not just working it the fuck out with the women they have chosen to marry.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:10:41 AM)
Wouldn't it be fun if your wife was on here looking too, and you both ran into each other? Makes me think of that old song, Escape: I was tired of my lady We'd been together too long Like a worn-out recording Of a favorite song So while she lay there sleeping I read the paper in bed And in the personal columns There was this letter I read "If you like Pina Coladas And getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga If you have half a brain If you'd like making love at midnight In the dunes on the Cape Then I'm the love that you've looked for Write to me and escape." I didn't think about my lady I know that sounds kind of mean But me and my old lady Have fallen into the same old dull routine So I wrote to the paper Took out a personal ad And though I'm nobody's poet I thought it wasn't half bad "Yes I like Pina Coladas And getting caught in the rain I'm not much into health food I am into champagne I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon And cut through all this red-tape At a bar called O'Malley's Where we'll plan our escape." So I waited with high hopes And she walked in the place I knew her smile in an instant I knew the curve of her face It was my own lovely lady And she said, "Oh it's you." Then we laughed for a moment And I said, "I never knew." That you like Pina Coladas Getting caught in the rain And the feel of the ocean And the taste of champagne If you'd like making love at midnight In the dunes of the Cape You're the lady I've looked for Come with me and escape repeat chorus twice and fade out PS - I wouldn't expect that happy of an ending though. The song always struck me as kind of unrealistic. No mention of anyone throwing anything, or any hairpulling or face slapping.

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:14:21 AM)
You should be embarressed that you knew that song.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:15:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff You should be embarressed that you knew that song. I'm perverse enough to take pride in it.

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:17:04 AM)
You are one sick fuck.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:18:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff You are one sick fuck. You silver tongued, devil, you. Flirt much?

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/16/2010 11:20:00 AM)
[;)], come here often, need to be whipped home?

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